advice needed

[mumof01]

hi first post on here
so sick of having no money i work and still i have nothing after rent .bills,debts and things son needs i never have enough left to last until payday .so sick of it
atm i have no food in the house well i have afew bits for my son feel so bad because xmas was a wash out couldnt afford much still had fun but feel bad now im worried i only get paid on the 10th and ive no bread,milk and things like that need more toiletries im in a mess and dont no where to turn has any one anyideas .i want to avoid going to social services bad experience wth them when i was younger :( .i no theres food banks but ive been told there for unemployed people plus i feel embarrased seems mad as im posting on here but id feel embarrassed saying this face to face
i have asked freinds for help but everyones the same because of xmas im worried about food and things feel like everythings closing in .
ive just been disgnosed with depression so dont think thats helping but dont no what to do anymore i try to budget it doesnt help .how does everyone else manage xx

Have u got anything from Christmas that's unopened or a book in the shelf that is unread or even some sweets? A made card would be brilliant, even just say you forgot the present can u bring next week and go to the pound shop

Im not sure will have a look when ds is in bed .yes think were going to make a card aswell sure it will be ok just every little thing seems to stress me out these past few days xx

Hi I found something to give it's an unopened game Ds has forgotten about .struggling a little today my phone broke so freind has lent me one to use but feel so down have a phone appointment with cab today though .couldnt bring myself to mention a food bank Id rather them not got involved think I'm scared they'll think I'm an unfit mother and I've got food for my son so should be ok.asked freinds but everyone stil skint from Xmas bit hungry today but I'll have to power through it xx

well going to the doctors at ten so hopefully he will give me something im feeling a lot better though as its only 2 days until pay day :) i got my child ben on tue but got my gas and electric more milk and got some cereal for ds .didnt pay the weekly payment for tv licence but ill pay it on fri its in the same week so should be ok .
cant wait to have a meal inside me feel really tired all the time think its because of that .ds has a party tonight i managed to get a card 29p in the home bargains shops and ive got a game thats never been opened so wrapping that up.
iwant to thank everyone on this thread for being so supportive of me and offering advice its been a tough week well few weeks but this site has kept me sane and helped me get my thought and feelings out .
my freinds going to try and lend me £10 today so i can eat today and tommorow shes unsure wether she can but tbh if she cant its no biggy ive managed this long its only 2 days and i cant wait

xx

Really glad for you that it's only 2 days - did you not ask for a referral to the food bank?

wow, you are doing so well. you seem a very good mum!
sorry things been a bit crap for you both,
what food have you left now?
with milk, keep the empty bottle, next time you buy some, get full fat, then mix it with with same amount of cold water-this makes semi skimmed for half price. obviously, i'm not sure if your little boy still has full fat, you'd need to take his out first.
do you have an aldi nearby? they do penne pasta for 29p a bag9 probably at least four meals each for you and little one),and passata 29p,could put grated cheese on top. filling and nutritious.
when are you back at work?
don't be hard on yourself, you have been really productive in the last weeks, give yourself a break :)

hi no i couldnt bring myself to it was only for me anyway i made sure that ds was fed and watered aslong as he was fed thats all that mattered to me .

Thankyou working3jobs not felt like it lately but things are getting better
i have enough in for ds breakfast and tea tommorow and hes got toast for his supper with jam on he doesnt usually have it but its there if hes peckish .he has he same as me semi skimmed thats a really good idea didnt no you could do that .
yes theres 2 in my town so im going to do a shop there on friday when ds is at school .im back to work monday was meant to be tuesday but they asked could i go back monday which is fine by me ,

thanks everyone xx

How are things now? It would be worth you working out what are the cheapest nutritious meals that you and ds both like and then plan your meals for the month?

How is it going with getting the debts managed and therefore payments reduced? If we can support you virtually please let us know! You are doing a great job, you've got your head out of the sand and looking at longer term solutions which can be harder on your own when you've got no-one to moan at about not being able to buy even an extra bar of chocolate or cheap bottle of wine.

Hi, Are you getting your 25% reduction from your council tax, that you are entitled to as a single person? X