Going through my first miscarriage grieving for my lost sweetie pie

[Winkle2020]

Dear mums,

Just thought, it will help me get some positivity talking to you all. So last friday we have been to hospital for a 12 week scan just to find out that our little sweet heart is no more. My husband and I are completely devastated and frozen. Unable to cope with the loss. As my first pregnancy was completely normal and have a 2 year old, we were so optimistic and planned a whole lot of year for the new arrival. Now they everything is upside down, we are feeling restless and the only thing which will make me feel good is to conceive again and get a darling baby. I have been reading a lot and many mums say they have had multiple miscarriages but still had successful preganancies. I am hoping to have some encouraging news from you all. My D&C is booked on this thursday and want to know has anyone successfully conceived soon after this procedure. We really dont want to wait. I know docs advice to wait for 3 months to get the regular cycle but I am just unable to bear this void and really want to be pregnant again. Is it wrong to think that way ? please mums share your positive stories on anyone who got successful pregnancies after D&C. Sorry to write this way i am just trying to get a lot of reassurance as the waiting seems to kill us and a minute is going like an hour...please help.

That's @Winkle2020 that's so awful for you, like ongoing suffering.
I hope they help you at the scan

@Winkle2020 been thinking of you hope you ok xx

@avocadoincident yes it’s really awful waiting this long. But learning patience now

@Linzi2019 just day before yesterday I got an almost negative hpt which is a good news and also I gave 48 hour blood test to check my hcg level and doc said it has gone down from 82 to 66 which means in few more days I get to 0. I also had a weird brown discharge whenever I wiped not enough to need a liner though. Tomorrow is the scan, so getting there slowly hope af shows soon

@Winkle2020 am glad your getting there
And I started with a bit of blood yesterday not enough to go on the pad but I've also got a bit of pain so I'm sure this is the AF. Then I can get back on track and start again xx

@Linzi2019 hello how are you. Did you get your proper period ? I am still with weird discharge and waiting for af. Limbo continues 😔

Hey Hun yes I have had my proper period so now on to makeing baby I hope you get your soon keep me informed how did your scan go by the way x

@Linzi2019 excellent and good for you. Wishing you a lot of baby dust. Scan still the same, some retained particles, docs has asked me to come in another 2 weeks for scan. Basically they are waiting for me to getting af which I wonder gone where ☹️

Just an update from my side. I finally got my af 9 weeks after d and c.

Hello,
I’ve came across the forum- I had d&c surgery last weekend, it was our first pregnancy and a total shock as I had been fine up until 8.5 weeks. I don’t believe the baby grew past 5 weeks.

How long did it take for your cycle to come back? It’s been a really emotional time for us, especially when we found out we were expecting on NYE so this year was suppose to be have been special.

@Kyoyo Hello dear, I am really sorry to hear that and my heart goes to you. This is such a heartbreaking time. Please stay strong and I completely get your shock as I was like that in the beginning. For the cycle came back after 2.5 months but in my case, I had retained products which my docs said to wait for a few cycles to get rid of that rather than doing another d and c. Hang in there...you will get pregnant again in no time and will hold your rainbow baby...you will be in my thoughts...right now please take care of yourselves and rant anything here if you need to

@Winkle2020 I had my SMM last week and was just reading through this very helpful post. Just wondered whether any of the tests you had showed anything about hormone levels etc or if you are just happily trying now? 💜