We lost our baby at 12 weeks. With no prior warning signs the baby was found not to have a heartbeat at the routine ultrasound. A drawn out afternoon at the hospital waiting for medication, then a pretty traumatic evening followed. It was my wife's first pregnancy.
For me there was of course the trauma of losing our baby and everything that entails, but also a terrible feeling of helplessness as I held my wife's hand as she sat on the toilet crying in agony. It was undoubtedly the worst thing we've ever experienced as couple.
My wife's work were great, but mine, perhaps not so much. I took the next day off and explained why, but before the working day was over, less than 24 hours from our returning from the hospital, my boss was chasing my workload via text message. It was decorated in nice language but it put me in a position where I felt I needed to return to get it finished. I was deeply upset and perhaps not thinking rationally. The next day, technically of my own volition, I went back in.
I later (politely) challenged my boss about this and she became very agitated, telling me it was just one line in a text msg and therefore not important.
I'd be interested to know what the opinion of people on this forum. Is it acceptable for a partner to be contacted by their work so soon? If your boss is asking you to tell them what's on your urgent to do list, rather than requesting you come back to work, does that make it okay? I was part-time & entry level..but perhaps it doesn't matter what position you are.
What do you guys think?
Many thanks
Rob