Please help, what to expect? I have a mmc, and am going to have the pessary

[Swifey]

Tomorrow at the hospital, but they are being very vague about what will actually happen. My 12 week scan showed an empty gestation sack, apparently the pregnancy failed at about 9 weeks. My question really is what will actually happen, how long did you bleed for, what helped, if anything, and was the pain awful? I have bought lots lovely big sanitary pads, etc and have painkillers. Anything else? Thanks in advance x

Anyone please?

Sorry you are going through this. Myself and TeaandHobNobs have shared our experience in the following thread.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage/2124857-Scared-im-going-to-lose-this-baby

thesmallbear thank you so much for showing me that. How are you feeling now? I am so nervous.

I'm fine now physically. TBH I think my reaction was at the more extreme end. Hopefully it won't be as bad for you. Will they let you go home once the bleeding starts? See if they'll prescribe you some Co-dydramol. The hospital told me to take paracetamol and ibuprofen for the pain and it didn't do anything. Got the Co-dydramol from a GP at an urgent walk-in centre a couple of days later.

I had a miscarriage of an empty sac, brought on by the pessary, though at 9 weeks, so slightly earlier than you.

I inserted the pessary myself at home at lunchtime and started to bleed a bit more heavily by bedtime (I was already bleeding very slightly for a week prior to the pessary). I had period-level bleeding and period-like cramps for two or three days and then the bleeding slacked again. I bled for just over two weeks post-pessary (following one week before it).

It was never a scary amount of bleeding or an unmanageable pain (I took cocodamol prescribed by the EPU).

Although the whole process was emotionally dreadful, physically I didn't find it as hard as I was expecting. The cramps were like period pain and the bleeding was certainly manageable. I know it can be very different for each person, and count myself lucky to have had an easy-ish time of it physically.

Please try not to worry about the process and take each day as it comes. I hope your EPU is as helpful as mine was, and that you are able to take some time over the coming weeks to process what's happened and grieve for what will no longer be. The Miscarriage Association have a helpline and some good web pages if you would like to speak to someone or find out more information.

Take care of yourself.