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Who knew your fanny shrivelled up and ran away when you hit mid 50s!?!

96 replies

shrumps · Yesterday 19:24

I certainly didn’t and I miss it! The only part of my body to become skinny and Im absolutely pissed off. Why did no one tell me about this?? And now I feel I can’t tell anyone else in case it’s just me.

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BretonStripe · Yesterday 22:32

Timely thread. 45 and started HRT earlier this year. Recently started getting itchy flaps at night when in luteal phase, and think I'm drier than normal.

Anyone else now doing kegel exercises whilst reading this?!

Tarkan · Yesterday 22:37

I had a total hysterectomy earlier this year and I didn’t realise until afterwards that things would “move” after my cervix was taken out and stitched up.

And now I’ve got menopause to think about with it possibly changing things too. 😫

MurphysColeslaw · Yesterday 22:37

IzzyLeng · Yesterday 20:08

Hope so, one of mine is quite long and needs tucking in or it chafes!

You’re not the woman in the shorts on another thread are you ?

LifeInAHamsterWheel · Yesterday 22:39

Txutxioyigx · Yesterday 19:58

My boobs shrivelled away but I’ve been using the gel and now resemble Pamela Anderson

Have you been putting the gel on your boobs?! I know some women swear by it for smoothing their faces!

IthinkIsawahairbrushbackthere · Yesterday 23:02

I am 65 and had a full hysterectomy 3 years ago. A few years ago I had what seemed like mild but long lasting thrush which eventually settled down and went away.

My DH assures me that he has not noticed any change in appearance and I can confirm that sex is better now than it was 20 years ago so don't worry too much ladies.

MurphysColeslaw · Yesterday 23:07

LifeInAHamsterWheel · Yesterday 22:39

Have you been putting the gel on your boobs?! I know some women swear by it for smoothing their faces!

Isn’t it an absolute no no to put it on your boobs?

ErrolTheDragon · Yesterday 23:07

BretonStripe · Yesterday 22:32

Timely thread. 45 and started HRT earlier this year. Recently started getting itchy flaps at night when in luteal phase, and think I'm drier than normal.

Anyone else now doing kegel exercises whilst reading this?!

Is anyone not? Grin

Dollymylove · Yesterday 23:10

Yup!! And your saggy bum and your grandma bosoms 😅

ErrolTheDragon · Yesterday 23:16

Dollymylove · Yesterday 23:10

Yup!! And your saggy bum and your grandma bosoms 😅

add squats and a good bra to the order for vagifem etc.

BinturongsSmellOfPopcorn · Yesterday 23:23

LifeInAHamsterWheel · Yesterday 22:39

Have you been putting the gel on your boobs?! I know some women swear by it for smoothing their faces!

It's the vaginal estriol/esteodiol cream that some people put in their face. Not the general HRT oesteogen gel, which is alcohol based and would be very drying.

Neither should be used on the breasts.

DaisyDooley · Yesterday 23:27

My mons pubis and labia majora have gone fucking massive.
My mons is like a hairy (small) baby’s bum. It’s utterly mental.
The rest of it is shrinking and dried up to hell. About twice a week it gets mentally itchy , hot and if I scratch (gently) it bleeds 🙄
I have to slaver it in sudocream.
Smears etc never used to bother me.
Now im utterly horrified whenever I need an examination and try to avoid where possible.

Im coming back as a man or a fat labrador.

AsReadyAsIEverWillBe · Yesterday 23:49

I knew there had there had to be an advantage to being single/celibate since the age of 41. It wasn't really planned but life twists and turns and all that.

No painful sex for me. Vibrator still gets the job done (had to stock up when I entered the sex surge phase which I think is dying off now). No idea what it all looks like down there and no man to ask for an appraisal.

Used to get UTI's sometimes usually caused by too much sex. Always used to happen on holidays when sex became a daily/twice daily holiday event. Haven't had one for said 12 years of revirginhood (I'm 53 now) and I bloody hope I'm not about to start getting them.

Haven't missed a single period yet although my cycle has shortened from 35 days to 26 days now. Things are definately going on (see comment on my transformation to horny teenage boy above).

Seriously almost 54 and not missed a period yet. Every bloody month there it is.
Perhaps I am destined to end up on the front of the sun - you know one of these trashy articles 59 year old has sex once in twenty years and falls pregnant with triplets.

Will all this soreness just pass me by then or do I have it still to come. I guess I do sometimes feel a bit 'uncomfortable' down there but it seems to go away after a short period of time. I wonder if that is the start. Do I even need to have smears anymore?

Feeling the need to rush out and have alot of sex so I can get answers to all the questions - does it hurt, does it still work, has it changed appearance, will I get a UTI.

Nah on second thoughts I'm just going to kick back with Colin coming out of the lake, the Gene Genie or perhaps a bit of Russel in the Gladiator. I actually rewatched that recently and was aware I was doing these little 'sighs' every time Russel did something brave, honorable or just downright swoonworthy. I'm living the dream, tv remote in one hand, icecream in the other and that selfish little bitch down below better not start ruining it for me

MurphysColeslaw · Yesterday 23:53

I’m 58 and still have periods, although much less frequently.
Also sex drive has gone through the roof, but I’m single 🥴

LorenaWood · Today 00:04

Gosh mine had me in a flap (🤭) at around 40 I thought I'd never be able to have sex again! So painful. I was already on hrt so added pessaries and cream. Game changer! But. You HAVE to keep on top of it - it lurks around in the shadows waiting to pounce. I have had periods of not paying attention and have suffered. Cream smeared every other night along with a pessary. I've already told my 30 year old daughter in not so great detail but believe me as she ages the detail will increase!

5682Jhd · Today 00:11

ClawsandEffect · Yesterday 20:05

Your labia minora reabsorb back into your body. Bye bye mini flaps.

This worries me, I had a labiaplasty when I was 28 and was warned it might cause issues in menopause because of this reason. Didn’t think it mattered at 28 but at 44 it concerns me.
You don’t have to answer this but if the flaps get smaller does it create a gap?

Awkwardisfunny · Today 00:14

ClawsandEffect · Yesterday 20:05

Your labia minora reabsorb back into your body. Bye bye mini flaps.

Is that true?? What do you mean 'reabsorb'?? How?

dustabsorber · Today 00:18

I love the ad where this lady says "My vagina feels like it used to feel", and then wonder what her gran kids think of an ad where there gran's vagina feels like it used to feel. Maybe they are proud of her.

JustHereForTheShitsAndGiggles · Today 00:21

Bloody hell, menopause really is the gift that keeps on giving isn't it?
I'm good down below generally, but ITCHY as hell. Using Vagirux pessaries twice a week. I use Vagisil when I remember too, but that's not oestrogen based. What creams are you ladies using and is it prescription only or over the counter? I'm due a HRT review with my GP so would like to go in prepared.

researchers3 · Today 00:22

Txutxioyigx · Yesterday 19:58

My boobs shrivelled away but I’ve been using the gel and now resemble Pamela Anderson

You've put gel on your boobs?!

SnowflakeSmasher86 · Today 00:22

My clit has almost disappeared. I miss it 😢 I use topical oestrogen cream, plus oestrogen gel and testosterone, along with coconut oil every night to try and keep the itching at bay. It’s hellish. My orgasms are nowhere near as spectacular as they used to be, but thankfully DP is keen and patient. Menopause really is the gift that keeps on giving.

SnowflakeSmasher86 · Today 00:23

researchers3 · Today 00:22

You've put gel on your boobs?!

The gel is a systemic medicine. You never put it on your boobs due to risk of breast cancer, but the oestrogen in your system will make a difference to your boobs, same as being on the pill or being pregnant.

Happyjoe · Today 00:47

Txutxioyigx · Yesterday 19:58

My boobs shrivelled away but I’ve been using the gel and now resemble Pamela Anderson

I was so pleased mine went down, much lighter and more comfy but yeah, HRT - now bigger than ever. Sigh!

Happyjoe · Today 00:49

LifeInAHamsterWheel · Yesterday 22:39

Have you been putting the gel on your boobs?! I know some women swear by it for smoothing their faces!

Say what? HRT on the face? Whatever for?!

BushyDreamer · Today 00:50

ClawsandEffect · Yesterday 20:05

Your labia minora reabsorb back into your body. Bye bye mini flaps.

This is a shocking tragedy!! I need those flags more than my body does! 😭

Calliopespa · Today 00:51

Fernsarethebestplants · Yesterday 20:32

This feels like a topic that should be taught in schools or some other place, why do we all have to pass round the secret knowledge, usually after horrible UTIs or painful sex for years. It should just be standard knowledge it all shrivels a bit just like your face and you need to think about moisture and tissue preservation!

Hmm, I kind of wish you hadn't made that connection. I'm now stuck with the uncomfortable image of older ladies having "vagina face."😕