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Please tell me your embarrassing menopause stories.

73 replies

KhakiOrca · 28/04/2026 19:21

I am 54 and always thought ' there's no way I'm gonna let a natural life cycle affect me' well...for that last few weeks I have been waking up sweating, literally soaked in sweat. I need a fan on to prevent this now (poor DP has to put up with fan noise)
Last week I lost my keys while out shopping ( never done this before) I was flustered and having hot flushes and stood by my car that I couldn't get in to to have a cigarette, forgot the filters so it was disgusting and I threw it on the floor...one of those jobs worth people come and fined me 150 quid. ( thought he was a security guard telling me he found my keys, but no ...

Went to a well known supermarket yesterday what i had been to before and happily weed in before... but this time I walked in and was hit by the stench of piss, I then saw three things that I worked out were mens urinals! I QUICKLY walked out and found the toilet with the skirt rather than the trousers thank gawd. Another problem is urgency.

And now today, went to a regular place for my daughters birthday, I go in to the right toilets and no water is coming out of the tap, so my hands are full of soap, I tell the manager there's no water coming from the tap in women's toilets., she goes and checks it out, she then comes over to me and says ' do you realise the water tap needs to be pressed '
Seriously, tell me it doesn't get worse!

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Theysignoffquick · 28/04/2026 19:23

You were fined £150 for dropping your cigarette?

KhakiOrca · 28/04/2026 19:28

Theysignoffquick · 28/04/2026 19:23

You were fined £150 for dropping your cigarette?

Yes I appealed it

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Theysignoffquick · 28/04/2026 19:29

KhakiOrca · 28/04/2026 19:28

Yes I appealed it

And? Successful??

Theysignoffquick · 28/04/2026 19:29

On what grounds did you appeal??!

KhakiOrca · 28/04/2026 19:30

Theysignoffquick · 28/04/2026 19:29

And? Successful??

Just waiting

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didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 28/04/2026 19:31

I don't think the menopause makes everyone litter.

Theysignoffquick · 28/04/2026 19:31

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 28/04/2026 19:31

I don't think the menopause makes everyone litter.

I’m curious on what grounds the op appealed!

Theysignoffquick · 28/04/2026 19:41

Guess I’ll never know. But not liking the taste probably wont be successful 😆

FrLarryDuff · 28/04/2026 19:45

You need to see a doctor, OP.

And I don’t think the menopause makes you throw litter.

KhakiOrca · 28/04/2026 19:49

Theysignoffquick · 28/04/2026 19:31

I’m curious on what grounds the op appealed!

I appealed on mental health grounds. I told them they had free rein to go through my records.
But this isn't about this, I was asking if anyone had any stories to tell.
I will pay the fine if I have to.

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KhakiOrca · 28/04/2026 19:50

Theysignoffquick · 28/04/2026 19:41

Guess I’ll never know. But not liking the taste probably wont be successful 😆

Edited

Probably will.

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Theysignoffquick · 28/04/2026 19:50

KhakiOrca · 28/04/2026 19:49

I appealed on mental health grounds. I told them they had free rein to go through my records.
But this isn't about this, I was asking if anyone had any stories to tell.
I will pay the fine if I have to.

Oh you’re joking!!! You stand NO chance

Theysignoffquick · 28/04/2026 19:51

KhakiOrca · 28/04/2026 19:50

Probably will.

No chance.

Come back and update 😆

KhakiOrca · 28/04/2026 19:51

Theysignoffquick · 28/04/2026 19:50

Oh you’re joking!!! You stand NO chance

Then I'll pay the fine. Just wondered is anyone was suffering things through menopause. Are you ?

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Theysignoffquick · 28/04/2026 19:52

KhakiOrca · 28/04/2026 19:51

Then I'll pay the fine. Just wondered is anyone was suffering things through menopause. Are you ?

Yes, but litter dropping isn’t one of them

Disturbia81 · 28/04/2026 19:53

You sound stressed rather than anything else.

KhakiOrca · 28/04/2026 19:53

Theysignoffquick · 28/04/2026 19:51

No chance.

Come back and update 😆

I will. Not really worried about the fine tbh. Just wondered if anyone is feeling brain fog through menopause etc

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Theysignoffquick · 28/04/2026 19:56

Cut out drinking if you do

KhakiOrca · 28/04/2026 20:05

Theysignoffquick · 28/04/2026 19:56

Cut out drinking if you do

Just come on here tonight as I think menopause has finally hit me. My girls did laugh when I told them what happens when you get to my age. They're 28 and 29

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Theysignoffquick · 28/04/2026 20:08

KhakiOrca · 28/04/2026 20:05

Just come on here tonight as I think menopause has finally hit me. My girls did laugh when I told them what happens when you get to my age. They're 28 and 29

To my suggestion you cut out alcohol if your drink?

BarefootHippieChick · 28/04/2026 20:10

I get brain fog but it’s more forgetting words or things I need to do. I haven’t yet walked into a men’s toilet or lost my keys. You just sound stressed. I also get hot flushes at night, but it’s bearable, for now …
And I have to say, I absolutely hate it when people throw their nasty cigarettes on the
floor so I agree with the fine, although it is pretty harsh!

KhakiOrca · 28/04/2026 20:12

BarefootHippieChick · 28/04/2026 20:10

I get brain fog but it’s more forgetting words or things I need to do. I haven’t yet walked into a men’s toilet or lost my keys. You just sound stressed. I also get hot flushes at night, but it’s bearable, for now …
And I have to say, I absolutely hate it when people throw their nasty cigarettes on the
floor so I agree with the fine, although it is pretty harsh!

I get it. I never throw cigs on floor. I would have normally got in car and used ashtray.

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KhakiOrca · 28/04/2026 20:15

Theysignoffquick · 28/04/2026 20:08

To my suggestion you cut out alcohol if your drink?

Well yes. But I have always drunk. Its nothing new to me. I am not an alcoholic.
So maybe menopause is caused by alcohol is what you're saying?

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Theysignoffquick · 28/04/2026 20:19

KhakiOrca · 28/04/2026 20:15

Well yes. But I have always drunk. Its nothing new to me. I am not an alcoholic.
So maybe menopause is caused by alcohol is what you're saying?

Edited

No OP doesn’t cause it 🙄

exacerbated, yes

cutting down alcohol is a good thing for most things in life, especially hormonal

KhakiOrca · 28/04/2026 20:24

Theysignoffquick · 28/04/2026 20:19

No OP doesn’t cause it 🙄

exacerbated, yes

cutting down alcohol is a good thing for most things in life, especially hormonal

Edited

Well thanks. But if you look at my thread title I was wondering if any of the old girls on here had any funny stories to tell. I didnt ask if they may drink a martini and lemonade of a weekend,

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