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If you could get back with your Ex would you?

52 replies

Blondiebrownie · 04/05/2014 11:34

I have been a LP for 2 years but I would jump at the opportunity to get back with my Ex. I miss everything about being a family and my feelings haven't faded for him either; I'd do anything to go back to how it was.

Anyone else?

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WheresRyder · 04/05/2014 11:37

No we split 4 yrs ago been divorced for 2. We get on really well now and have even been on a family holiday but could feel us slipping back into old ways by the end of the fortnight.

I miss having the support there and someone to talk to once the dc are in bed. But they are getting older now my oldest is nearly 17 so the nights aren't as long and lonely as they were. Also past all of the night waking and feeds etc which was what I used to hate as no one there to settle baby after the fifth feed of the night etc.

lostdad · 04/05/2014 14:11

Definitely as soon as I have my head replaced with a melon.

Seriously though - no. Never. She's proven to me a thousand times that she'd happily tell me black was white if it suited her. When I read the question the OP has set I think of a line from Blackadder:

`Mrs M, if we were the last three humans on earth, I would be trying to start a family with Baldrick'. Grin

BitOutOfPractice · 04/05/2014 14:14

lost Grin

No. Only 2 weeks ago he once again reminded me why he's my ex

ImeldaMaybeNot · 04/05/2014 14:21

Yes as he has been so emotionally abusive to my DC, if I had stayed with him I could have protected them more Sad

AmeliaToppingLovesShopping · 04/05/2014 14:22

No the marriage wasn't good and left me very stressed. I do miss having someone to help look after the house and to talk to after the DC go to bed but he wasn't really there for us and I dread to think of how many other women he slept with while we were together.

sixcheese · 04/05/2014 14:23

Hell no! We never really had a family life to start with as I left him when I was pregnant. My feelings for him have turned to disgust, especially when reading about him being sentenced for violent crimes against a woman....

Anyway I'm remarried now and new DH is lovelier, kinder and a much better provider than ex was and ever could be. If you keep pining after the past you'll never learn what better opportunities there are out there!

GiveTwoSheets · 04/05/2014 14:27

No no no just never shudders

17leftfeet · 04/05/2014 14:37

Never in a million years!

ForeskinHyena · 04/05/2014 14:46

No never. I look at him and can't imagine ever having found him attractive! We get on well enough, spend birthdays/Xmas together with the DCs etc, but I have since met DP who is my absolute soul-mate.

We share everything, totally get each other, like the same stuff and find each other irresistible! I can't imagine ever swapping that level of compatibility for anything.

I can imagine though, if I ever separated from current DP and had to see him regularly for some reason (no DCs between us) that I would find it very difficult to let him go, regardless of the reasons for the split.

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Blondiebrownie · 04/05/2014 19:07

ImeldaMaybeNot I'm sorry to hear that :(

I've been trying to get my Ex to come back and be a family but I'm not sure that he ever will.

It's nice to know that other posters have moved on and are happy as it is hard to imagine that I ever will be.

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giggleshizz · 04/05/2014 20:05

Blondie...I do sometimes consider it (not that I have a choice as he's shacked up with OW) but I know I would not be happy nor could I ever really forgive him. I think it's my desire to be a family (what family means to me iyswim) and for dd to grow up with her dad that makes me feel this.

I am sure when Mr fantastic comes along I'll happily tell ex to jog on Grin

starlight1234 · 04/05/2014 21:06

No not even for a visit.

HollyBollyBooBoo · 04/05/2014 21:11

No not at all. But I still mourn being part of a couple, part of a family and the fact that DD is growing up with a single parent and a dad that lives thousands of miles away. Breaks my heart.

Meglet · 04/05/2014 21:18

Christ no!

I had it on pretty reliable (and unbiased) authority that he was being just as much of a shit to the girlfriend he had after me. The last thing I heard (around a year ago) they were still together. Poor woman.

Lioninthesun · 04/05/2014 22:12

Hahaha! Is your post sarcastic?

In a word, NOPE!
Shitty men are always shitty men. Leopards and spots etc.

HerrenaHarridan · 04/05/2014 22:15

Never!

DioneTheDiabolist · 04/05/2014 22:44

No. He still struggles with that fact (6 years on), but I did warn him that if I left I would never return. I have since found a wonderful, kind, happy, supportive, hard working man who loves DS and adores me.Grin

Imelda, your Ex would be just as emotionally abusive to your DC if you were still together.Sad He is an abuser. At least this way they get a break from his abuse when they are with you. Going forward, you can protect them (and yourself) further. You just need to work out how. Perhaps you could get some Counselling to help you with that.

IneedAwittierNickname · 05/05/2014 00:08

I did get back with my ex. 6 months later I remembered why he was an ex!
It was such a mistake, and if I'm honest, messed the kids up :(

Never again

AdeptusMechanicus · 05/05/2014 01:34

I would begin a friendship with my ex first then if we are both happy together in the friendship i would then see if she would like to resume our relationship. So in summary yes i would.

dancemom · 05/05/2014 01:45

Hell to the no!

giantpurplepeopleeater · 05/05/2014 16:50

Not in a million years, for a million pounds, or for anything else on this earth.

I am constantly reminded why it was a godsend we split up!!

lostdad · 05/05/2014 18:04

There is the fact too that I am with someone I should have been with first time round.

My son aside life would be a lot easier if that had happened and I would be considerably better off!

everynameisbloodytaken · 05/05/2014 18:18

absolutely N O T ...

theywillgrowup · 05/05/2014 21:21

umm sometimes usually when im on a downer,just been diagnosed with bipolar

split up 18mths ago and seems recent

but i remind myself he was a compulsive liar,work shy,a serial cheat and was abusive mentally and physically

good thing is ive always been very independent so i dont mind bringing my 3dc's up i did before as one wise move i made was NEVER letting him move in

theywillgrowup · 05/05/2014 21:22

oh and i know i made the right decision the kids are so much happier,and doing really well at school,something that wasnt happening before