dating and the singleton hints and tips thread

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ok so having not dated since teens and now in late 30s ,i would love you to share your hints and tips avoid me still acting like teenager !thanks all

lol dont be embarrassed, i wouldnt mind a casual thing , but certainly nothing serious

i am ok ty

prob i have is being detached if i fancy someone enough for a casual fling i ,like being loved so i get too serious am old romantic ,,

ahem... OOML - watch your typing love before yuo give yourself away

i can do detached easily

i run a mile atm if someone hints at feelings for me, lol

I love feeling loved. My big weakness cause I never know if its put on or not so then I doubt it...

i feel loved by my kids

Its a sex thing for me though, I love being held really tight and hearing lots of sweet things. Fortunatly one of my biggest turn ons also seems to be my biggest (man related) weaknesses. Im all to ready to believe what I want to hear iyswim.

tamba everyone knows who i am lol ,i cant be ased to change yet how are you

ew no, if a man is all romantic with me like that i find it a huge turn off

I would love to meet someone and fall head over heels in love. Obviously the sex would be good too, but it's the love I want most.

oh tamba that is a womans fatal flaw and all men know it ,no matter howm any times you hear bull ,you r redy to believe the next one

I missed out on a few really lovely guys when I was younger, because I thought they were too nice .

nc yes agree 100% i want the cuddled on the sofa giggling and happy kind of love..lous gonna chuck up ..sorry lou

Im alright, am sick to death of being exhausted though.

Im wierd when it comes to turn ons though. Poor blokes cant keep up, the change so often (the turn on not the bloke ) good to keep them on their toes though

I know what you mean... you hear the crap so often that when someone says it and means it you dont believe them! And then get all insecure "do you really love meeeeeee" or is that just me?

bleurgh @ cuddles

lol @ lou.

Oh no cuddles are lovely, thats what was missing from my last relationship.

I love affection. Like I said my biggest weakness (along with being taken shopping - oooh i look shallow now )

oh tamba ,i second guess everything now and always expect men to hurt me ,its really difficult to believe the nice ones which is a real prob ,sure i will sort my life out at some point

I know how you feel. But when you meet the right bloke, some one whos patient enough to understand that youve been hurt and need to take emotional things slowly, you will stop feeling that you arnt good enough and learn to trust again. And when you do meet someone who can make you feel safe enough to be yourself it feels pretty amazing :)

looking forward to it x

as i am meeting him in my local, i am expecting to be the talk of the vullage, and for them all to eagerly pounce on my xh to let him know what has been going on in his absence, when he returns the end of next week to see the kids

hi I realise I have come a bit late into this conversation but what the heck. I have been single for the past four years apart from a brief fling last year for a month. A year ago I started internet dating and have made quite a few friends. I think I deliberately pick the guys who live miles away so there is no chance of us meeting up :) I had a date with a guy on 2nd April and then I met him in May, he lives in London but we get on really well so fingers crossed. I used www.girlsdateforfree.co.uk as it is what is says the women dont have to pay to use it ! I have had a few disasters tho mind also but just miss the companionship really

it's best i just go down in my usual casual gear on friday, instead of making any effort isnt it?