leaving teenager alone whilst going on holiday for a week

[ladydeedy]

just heard today that my DH's exw has gone on holiday for a week leaving my DH's oldest boy at home alone. He is 16 and has exams next week.
Are we over-reacting at not being made aware he was going to be left alone (I think the first he heard of it was two days ago). So not only is he going to have to look after himself, cook meals and get himself to school, etc but he'll also have to make sure he's ready and prepped for exams, get himself up for school in time for the bus, make sure he has everything he needs, etc.
I know he should be pretty responsible at that age but even so, I'm surprised she didnt at least let us know she was going to be away when he needs a bit of extra support at this crucial time.

Oh. What a horrible woman she must be. Looks like you can do no more then.

If I were you I would get him to stay at his grandma's irrespective of what his mother thinks. Your earlier post read as if there was no way you'd not be going to the funeral as that would mean the ex had 'won'. I can see from your latest post the real reason you want to go to the funeral and I can understand that.

Well as its someone so close then you do have to go to funeral, when i saw the bit about you were going to the funeral or ex-w would have 'won' thats when i thought i would suggest you rethink one of you going but as its dh's sister thats different.

Ex-w behaviour in this is really really bad, how can any mother just go away leaving a 16 year old with no food or money at anytime let alone at this difficult time for your dss. I think as others have suggested, persuade him to stay with Grandma and just deal with the fallout when ex-w gets back.