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What are your xp's priorities?

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mellowdramatic · 06/02/2011 18:22

My xh's priorities are as follows -

  1. his work
  2. his fitness
  3. his hobbies
  4. his rental properties
  5. his social life
  6. seeing his kids

And as time goes on he seems to have less and less time to see his kids. When we were married I used to think he was a good dad Sad

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TequilaMockinBird · 06/02/2011 18:24

My xp only has 1....

Himself

I feel so sorry for our DD but she is slowly learning that he is a fuckwit waste of space!

belledechocchipcookie · 06/02/2011 18:25

Same here, my xp only has himself.

PepperMoonchild · 06/02/2011 18:29

Ds is so far down exh's list I don't want to think about it :(

brightwell · 06/02/2011 18:41

Himself.
Money.
Flash car.
Status.

Smadarama · 06/02/2011 19:07

I'm glad to say that 99% of the time it's DS. It wasn't before we split and he's had his moments where he's almost gone off track but, credit where credit's due, he's mostly got his priorities right. (much to the annoyance of his gf).

ChasingSquirrels · 06/02/2011 19:13

I would say

  • our kids
  • his work
  • his new partner and her daughter & building a family life with them and our children (when they are with him)
I have no idea about the order, although I would suspect that our kids are pretty damn high
BringOnTheGoat · 06/02/2011 19:43

God alone knows but they sure are messed up!

lilacisinlove · 06/02/2011 19:45

According to my DD who did a questionnaire for him on Facebook:

  1. work
  2. his daughters
  3. exercise

I would be heartbroken if they thought I put work ahead of them, I doubt he even noticed.

Hazeleyedbaby · 06/02/2011 19:50
  1. Himself
  2. Pub with his friends
  3. his parents
  4. DS

Very warped priorities IMO!!!

WherecanIhide · 06/02/2011 19:56

Himself
himself
children
himself
himself
himself
himself
himself

Megmog2000 · 06/02/2011 21:12

Hmmm, now let me think about this one!!

  1. himself
  2. his new wife
  3. his new wife's kids
  4. his mum
  5. his job
  6. his sleep
  7. money
  8. money
  9. money
10. money 11. money 12. money 13. money 14. money 1,000,000 - possibly the children.

Bitter - never!!!!

BringOnTheGoat · 06/02/2011 21:30

This is such a sad show of what X's are like - I know some are putting DC's first (as they should) but the ones who don't!?! It's an eye opener!

makemineapinot · 06/02/2011 23:22

hmmm.... not hard

  1. himself
  2. big tv
  3. SKY + HD
  4. PS3 - latest supersonic version
  5. games for above
  6. PSP
  7. games for above
  8. DVDs for big F* off TV
  9. work
10. flashy car 11. shopping 12. shopping with partner and buying her lots of expensive things 13. taking me to court 14. feeling sorry for himself 15. finding ways of not paying maintenance 16. phoning DC to tell them he misses them and what an evil bith their mother is

continue on same vein for a while like megmog
then....

drum roll.......

  1. his children - but only if it suits and he can so something expensive and exciting with them like Alton towers (but still not paying maintenance)

thing is he is now becoming lower and lower down on the list of DCs priorities too and he only has himself to blame. Sad

Darnsarfupnorf · 06/02/2011 23:28

Getting his leg over
Keeping his slag happy
Himself
Her kid (not with him)
work
DD

then somewhere waaaaaay down the list somewhere between what time emmerdales on and how much a bikini wax costs...me! (who is pregnant with his child)

makes you feel good doesnt it!

doubleease · 07/02/2011 13:52

Just so we have balance

  1. His DD1
  2. His DD2 with his new DP.

After that I have no idea, he has his life, I have mine.

I count myself really really lucky to have an exp who isn't a selfish prick after what I read on mn.. Although not saying he can't be a knob sometimes but that's more to do with his interfering mother.

wooga · 07/02/2011 14:43

Himself
Football-tv
Computer games
Nights out with mates

and unless I have a relationship......dcs

he's not seeing them due to my meeting someone and his not coping with it-we separated over 3 years ago-he's had several girfriends!!! Confused Sad

HanBanan · 07/02/2011 21:31

hahaha brilliant
My ex:
Booze
Curry
Girlfriend (pregnant, poor lass)
Booze

Snorbs · 07/02/2011 21:37

My ex about half the time:

  1. Herself
  2. Her latest victim DP
  3. Our kids

The other half of the time:

  1. Booze
Shodan · 07/02/2011 21:50

Hmm.

  1. Himself

2)... no, that's pretty much it.

Oh hang on...

  1. feeling that life is out to shaft him and really it should give him everything he wants on a silver platter.
soverign21 · 08/02/2011 00:34

i dont even think our DC's factor on any list of priorities for my X, he once screamed at me to stop hasseling him to see DC
even when we were together them and me were very low on his list

Firepile · 08/02/2011 00:49

Fucking his lover.

That's it.

Darnsarfupnorf · 08/02/2011 02:50

good to see a man on here :) just goes to show not all women are perfect like us :p

MatureUniStudent · 09/02/2011 10:50

Snorbs you made me laugh re victim.

I pretended for decades my ex H cared about his children, but I think I was a helicopter wife, I just did the caring for him by proxy so he still looked good in the children's eyes. Unfortunately now he has left, they can see just how very little they really matter to him.

I often wonder how we can be so blind when we first meet our partners?

CherylAnnTweedy · 09/02/2011 10:58
  1. Getting stoned
  2. Getting drunk
  3. Getting more stoned
  4. Playing Playstation/xbox
  5. Getting even more stoned with his dropout mates
  6. Trying to get 'one up' on me by lying to the boys about me
CherylAnnTweedy · 09/02/2011 11:00

Soverign21 - snap, priorites haven't changed since we were together. Me & the boys were always below getting stoned and drunk