What are your xp's priorities?

[mellowdramatic]

My xh's priorities are as follows -

1. his work
2. his fitness
3. his hobbies
4. his rental properties
5. his social life
6. seeing his kids

And as time goes on he seems to have less and less time to see his kids. When we were married I used to think he was a good dad

Same as mine, the children.

• Himself
• Alcohol
• Badmouthing me
• Going out
• Planning his wedding that I and DS are not meant to know about (poor future wife)
• Moaning about the time and money it takes him to drive back and forth to pick up his kids to see them - he is the one that moved out of town!

The sad thing is DS openly states he doesn't like his daddy and it seems such a waste to me that he can't be arsed to understand our son and spend quality time with him.

CherylAnnTweedy, your X sounds exactly like mine!!! although his car and mates are on that list too and he doesnt bad mouth me to the DC yet but does to anyone else that will listen!

1.himself
2.himself
3.picking up dds's and buying them junk food
4.telling us off about whatever because he is of course perfect

1. religious rants made all the more annoying by the fact he's totally amoral

6.himself

1. trying to prove I'm alcoholic because I drink 3 units once a week or less he even goes through the rubbish!

I wasn't really sure abt this before, but since friday its very clear.

1. himself
2. getting pissed every evening
3. doing no.2 with his mates
4. fucking whatever will agree to it
5. doing drugs

-10000. his kids

My son was threatened on friday evening and had his fone stolen. He was shaken and upset, yet his dad still carried on with his daily routine. Of pissing off with his friends. :-(

I felt so sad that even at a time like this he was carrying on as usual.

• Himself
• Money
• Car
• Roof over his head
• Sex
• Work
• Girlfriend
• crap family
• Girlfriend's DS
• DD

g/f provides the money, roof, car, sex, but tbh she could be any girl, so long as she could provide these things. Since that's where XP lives atm, he tries to keep her happy.

I actually thought long and hard over the answers.

Oh I forgot, gambling on bingo and fruit machines comes just after...the money I would say, hence why he never has any money even when he's working.

drinking and getting stoned.
Ignoring the fact that he's seriously twisted.
Ignoring the fact that its his fault his other two children are in care.
Ignoring the fact that my son will probably want to find him in 18 years.

drinking and getting stoned.
Ignoring the fact that he's seriously twisted.
Ignoring the fact that its his fault his other two children are in care.
Ignoring the fact that my son will probably want to find him in 18 years.

1. Booze
2. Money
3. Gambling
4. Work
5. Baiting and verbally abusing me for finally daring to end the horror that was our relationship.
6. Going out and away with his mates.
7. His kids

He would say his kids are number one, yet he got a substantial bonus that he managed to have a high old time on but somehow didn't manage to buy beds so his kids could stay with him. Now strangely enough if I wasnt living with my kids then got a fat wad of cash I would probably faint with joy that I could now have them with me loads. Not him.

Alcohol
Drugs
His social life
Not falling behind in the social scene
Partying
His new girlfriend

DS, explaining why he hasn't been in contact for 7 weeks

money
his rights

oh wait - I might have got that the wrong way round

himself
booze
football (man U only)
booze again
his family (not including DC)
booze
money
his mobile phone went into a totaly tizzy when h lost it a couple of months ago and I quote "that phone is my life"
his flat

his kids (if he can be sober enough to make his weekly call, he has not seen them for 5mths)

HerBeX, he sounds like an absolute loon

1. his career
2. Money
3. Holding on to all of that money and not giving any to his children
4. Cars
5. Motorbikes
6. Not spending any money on anything else
7. Making sure people show him the respect he is due
8. Money
9. Seeing his children

lunar, yupp, i forgot. His rights.

Fuck knows.
And that's being honest as we haven't seen hide nor hair since Toad was 18 months. He's now 9.

A vague idea would be his car (he bought a £8000 second hand XR3i convertibile 7 years ago), his computer games. (bought a game cube instead of the gas for the flat)

There's probably more but I try not to think of him too much.

I haven't spoken to him in over a year but I daresay the list is pretty much as it ever was...

1. himself
2. going to the pub
3. playing on his mates Wii's.
4. work

I suspect further down the list there is a slot for ranting about the CSA taking money from his bank every month, but he doesn't see the DC's (that's not a bad thing, he's not very nice).

LOL Snorbs he is.

I thought he'd grow out of it.