Well, as some of you may know, I've been miserable here in Oz the entire time since we came over. It was my h's decision to move over and I feel there was a lot of pressure on me to move even though I wasn't unhappy.
A lot of decisions have been made for me, and it's made me a very bitter and angry person. I'm so miserable here, and have told him this several times. It has in the past fallen on deaf ears.
Today, I had to again ask to see the rental accounts for our house back in the Uk, as this is making over £700 profit each month, and I haven't seen a penny in the 20 months we've been here 
So, I got to see them, and apparently we've also been getting dividends on the shares he secretly has and hasn't told me. That's another thread. I could only see the last few months accounts, but am still dubious as to what he's done with the money.
I mentioned to him, that he needed to show me the accounts more than twice in 20 months as the house is ours, not his, as it was pre engagement and me selling my house at a massive profit is to why we now have a tiny mortgage. I then mentioned that it wasn't financially viable to be here, as the one wage he's on is not enough, and me working in my profession doesn't pay very well here, and that gets soaked up in childcare fees.
We never have any money, and seem really poor to what we had in the Uk. He's not had a pay rise since we've been here either. Going out for dinner is a major treat now, as before we'd go out weekly.
I didn't like his comment, as he said that I hadn't given it a chance. It's been nearly two years, and I think that's long enough being miserable. It has effected our marriage, and my gp suggested counseling. I said I've achieved the grand sum of chuff all being here, and I have tried to go out and meet people, through groups taking dd's to swimming, gymnastics, and don't ask about the playgroup
I currently have a broken leg, and have had surgery on it. It has been dreadful, and very stressful for all of us, as we not have sil to help at weekends, and occasionally a friend miles away can have our girls for a day whilst dh goes to work. It's been awful, and has highlighted how much I really miss the Uk and all the support we had there.
The resentment towards my h is incredible. I'm so angry with him, and I'm someone who is told I'm always happy, and in a good mood.
He did query how we'd pay for a container, but I really don't care how. I want to go back home and get some work, see my family, my friends, and stop paying ridiculous amounts in rent, and healthcare.
Sorry, that was epic, but he's finally acknowledged that I want to go home. It's taken long enough.
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We had a talk about moving back home.
Longdistance · 20/06/2013 12:53
Sorry Mos, it seems my life can be quite jammy at times lol.
Well, dh is now on 'gardening leave' and they took his laptop off him , but dh had to grapple the mobile off them as it has contacts in them he needs, and he needs it to find a job.
The HR guy hasn't a clue what he's doing as he's a junior. So he's home til they find him something yeah, right and he still has the company car, so that's something.
I now have an assistant to help me with selling all the baby stuff, and need to look at selling my car and several bits of furniture. He wants to keep the fridge, but fuck knows where that's gonna go in our house in the Uk, as we don't have the room in our kitchen.
If anyone has anymore ideas of how to sell stuff, I'm doing Gumtree and car boot, then I'd appreciate it :)
Thanks thecraicdealer Stalk away and join in :)
Scone they knew about dh's holiday, and they're being quite good considering they took his laptop, and have now switched off his phone
He spoke to them earlier, and they're contacting the container company to contact us. They paid for a container out here, and flights. The guy has also said they were giving redundancy from time spent with the company in the Uk.
Thanks for the offer of help. Think we'll just leave it to the container company, seen as they're paying.
Mos it's an utter bitch that they're charging for schools on a 457. It's all about the money here. They'll be charging for oxygen next
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