Well, as some of you may know, I've been miserable here in Oz the entire time since we came over. It was my h's decision to move over and I feel there was a lot of pressure on me to move even though I wasn't unhappy.
A lot of decisions have been made for me, and it's made me a very bitter and angry person. I'm so miserable here, and have told him this several times. It has in the past fallen on deaf ears.
Today, I had to again ask to see the rental accounts for our house back in the Uk, as this is making over £700 profit each month, and I haven't seen a penny in the 20 months we've been here 
So, I got to see them, and apparently we've also been getting dividends on the shares he secretly has and hasn't told me. That's another thread. I could only see the last few months accounts, but am still dubious as to what he's done with the money.
I mentioned to him, that he needed to show me the accounts more than twice in 20 months as the house is ours, not his, as it was pre engagement and me selling my house at a massive profit is to why we now have a tiny mortgage. I then mentioned that it wasn't financially viable to be here, as the one wage he's on is not enough, and me working in my profession doesn't pay very well here, and that gets soaked up in childcare fees.
We never have any money, and seem really poor to what we had in the Uk. He's not had a pay rise since we've been here either. Going out for dinner is a major treat now, as before we'd go out weekly.
I didn't like his comment, as he said that I hadn't given it a chance. It's been nearly two years, and I think that's long enough being miserable. It has effected our marriage, and my gp suggested counseling. I said I've achieved the grand sum of chuff all being here, and I have tried to go out and meet people, through groups taking dd's to swimming, gymnastics, and don't ask about the playgroup
I currently have a broken leg, and have had surgery on it. It has been dreadful, and very stressful for all of us, as we not have sil to help at weekends, and occasionally a friend miles away can have our girls for a day whilst dh goes to work. It's been awful, and has highlighted how much I really miss the Uk and all the support we had there.
The resentment towards my h is incredible. I'm so angry with him, and I'm someone who is told I'm always happy, and in a good mood.
He did query how we'd pay for a container, but I really don't care how. I want to go back home and get some work, see my family, my friends, and stop paying ridiculous amounts in rent, and healthcare.
Sorry, that was epic, but he's finally acknowledged that I want to go home. It's taken long enough.
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Longdistance · 20/06/2013 12:53
Oh giggly, sorry to hear you're so miserable here in Perth.. (And longdistance too..) But do remember the good weather's so rare in the UK, I think it's easy to take it for granted over here (she says typing through a massive rainstorm outside!), I know it's seriously hot in the summer but the blue skies are just sooooo blue, and so big and wide! We've been here a year now, and will stay if we can sort out visas.. Friends and family are a big issue, but (sorry to them!) not enough to bring us back, as we wouldn't be able to live near 90% of them anyway. Maybe things will be different for us after a few years, but who knows.. You've both/all given it a go, you need to seek your happiness, but don't put off too many other people from coming over here - some people like it! 
Ravenous, I don't know if I put in any of my posts here, that I really couldn't give a shit about the weather tbh. I'm easy. In fact I hate the summers here. I sweat like an idiot, shower 3 times a day, the air con pumps out cold, but still can't enjoy that heat. Its too bloody much, and expensive to boot.
I really didn't like my h's comment about me not giving it a go. 2 years in October, and I'm still pining for the Uk. I even did an order from Debenhams today, as the
clothes here are hideous. But, that's me probably being
picky.
Now, you'll all love this little gem today...Fuckwit comeshome from work, and declares at the dinner table that he has the forms for pr 
[anger]
Couldhe be anymore fucking stupid?
After everything I said.
I've got a right mind to see a solicitor about divorce,
and declare that at the dinner table.
I can understand your anger Long, but if you do decide to see about a divorce keep it quiet úntil you're back where you want to be.
Of course Tallulahbelle!
Well, I've not got far with the selling. We have a rental inspection next week, and the house is really unorganized in a state since I broke my leg.
I'm still under physio, which us taking longer than expected, and still have my crutches. So, hoping to be off them soon. This rains not much fun, was hoping to do a swap market car boot soon to make money. There's a few things that can go on gumtree soon.
You'll all be pleased to know, that I haven't signed the forms for pr.
We're going on holiday to Thailand in 4 weeks time. We had it booked for April, but then I broke my stupid leg. And my lovely lovely db is coming just after holiday, and hopefully celebrate dd1's 4th Birthday, and help me out.
Its really hard, as am home 3 days on my own with dds, and as I can't drive yet, can't go anywhere. I've been getting cabin fever. I'm sure inmates in a prison get more visitors than I do 
Mos, good luck with your venture, and hold off trying to bat the h with the frying pan lol.
Oh you poor thing! I'm Australian, and frankly, I couldn't wait to get out of there. I've been back twice in more than 20 years, and while it's lovely to see people, I have never been sad to leave.
When I'm in Australia, I feel stuck.
I remember my family going on (and on and on) about the bloody weather when I first came here to the UK. I soon told them there are more things than weather. Anyway, we never had that magic of snow in Australia. We never really had Autumn, and that wonderful hope of Spring. Christmas is far more magical when it's dark and cold. So, Summer is a bit unreliable? Umm, pop to Spain for a couple of weeks?
The main trouble, of course, is that your H is acting like an arse. You need to get some good legal advice about the Hague convention. Can you just take the DC with you and go? I don't know the answer to this (and maybe you already do) but it's what I would want to know.
I am just that he brought back those PR forms, when he knew how miserable you are. Why does he want to stay? What is keeping him there? Obviously, he has some family, and it sounds like some friends from work. But if he is working all the hours god sends, then that's not much fun. I really think you need to get to the bottom of this.
Thanks for asking Rosh my legs getting better day by day, very slowly unfortunately. I've ditched the crutches as they get in the way now, but my leg still gets swollen like a balloon after I've been on my feet all day.
Sanity my exact reasons for not applying for pr is so I can come and go. I don't want o be 'stuck' here if the shit hits the fan.
On a lighter note, my gorgeous dm asked when we were coming home, I mentioned it to dh, and he said in a few months after Thailand we can all go back to the Uk. I told him I may not come back to Oz, his face was a picture, like my comment was a surprise
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OMFG!!!!
Dh has just been told he's being made redundant. We are now going back to the Uk as I haven't settled here. Hurrah!
His company have to oblige flights and container, and he's gonna see what he can get out of them for dragging us here.
No details as of yet, but told dh to warn tenants we are coming back.
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