So my DP has stage 4 cancer. He's been having treatment for the last 4 years, primary cancer appears to have been resolved (for now) but his liver metastasis is the part that keeps recurring. He had quite a massive surgery to remove 75% of his liver (and remove all the cancer again) in September and he has been placed back onto monitoring mode with a scan in Jan. we have been here before and it didn't turn out so great last time, hopeful this time that it all comes back clear.
But coming back to my actual post - 3 years ago he proposed. We have been together for 11 years, so a long time, through good and bad - cancer and non cancer related! We have decided to book 2 weeks in Jan to go to Vegas. It's our favourite place in the world and prior to his diagnosis we used to go 2 or 3 times a year, BUT..... this time, we are going to get married!!!!
We are fortunate in having the flexibility around work and flights etc that we can book relatively last minute (apart from the dog sitter). I would rather we book before the scan as he always gets upset around scan time but he's worried about booking incase his scan comes through for a date while we are planning to be away. Today he's accepted that maybe we book and then say he can't make the date and reschedule if it comes through for while we are planned to be away.
But - I feel it's progress that's he wants to make plans. He's always been up and down about waiting until it's all over, and even if it is - this won't be his last surgery as he will also be having a stoma reversal and he does get the absolute all clear. For him, it's not over until the stoma is gone.
I'm just so happy that this could actually be happening, regardless of everything else. 😄
We could be getting married in January! And while we are keeping it a secret from everyone so that we can elope - here I can shout it from the roof tops!
I just know something is going to happen to bite me in the arse and it's not going to happen but for now I want to be really excited!