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Adjourned, dismissed or full hearing?
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user1499775533 · 06/10/2019 18:52

I was due to attend the Family court with my exes mother on the 11th of September but unfortunately my grandmother suffered a major stroke on the 5th of September so understandably I didn’t attend as I have more important things on my mind. I emailed the court explaining and giving my grandmothers name and ward number but have heard nothing since! Cafcass did say that any contact with my baby would have to be arranged between my exes mum and myself but they also suggested sticking to the no contact that the police had put in place to prevent her abuse and harassment. My other threads explain it all. I also recieved no safegaurding letter from cafcass prior to the court date. I’m just wondering if the court has thrown it out seen as she’s never seen my baby and in legal terms is no relation. I did email the judge when I first received the papers asking for him to change their mind based on all of the facts so unsure if this has been accepted. Also on the same application for my baby she’d asked for a whole day with my elder Daughter who she sees for 2 hours a month with her son then she asked for a separate contact order with my 1 year old who she has never seen!!! I’m hoping a court can see her games and see the pattern that’s forming and hopefully put an end to it. Any advice would be appreciated.

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Joe2019 · 07/10/2019 10:21

Contact the court and ask them.

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user1499775533 · 07/10/2019 17:31

I literally don’t want to entertain the whole court thing anymore. If it’s bad news then I’m just going to stress myself out too much and I have enough going on at the moment. My gut feeling is telling me that there couldn’t be a hearing for my baby and it would of been one of them applications filtered out. Cafcass more or less said a court couldn’t help regarding my baby. It’s just my elder daughter I’m worried for.

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titchy · 07/10/2019 17:39

So right now you could be going against a court order? Be responsible - phone the court. Can't believe you've ignored it tbh... could be a whole heap of trouble.

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user1499775533 · 07/10/2019 18:28

I think if any orders would of been made in my absence then I’d of been informed before now by letter. No news is good news so I’m told.

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Joe2019 · 07/10/2019 21:18

You are being very silly.

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user1499775533 · 08/10/2019 16:02

I have so much going on, things that matter to me. Like I told the police and cafcass I’m sick of these manipulating games and constant court threats. Hopefully the courts have seen the pattern too and the obscenity’s in her court applications. I’m standing firm and hoping the judge has considered my letter to filter this one out.

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titchy · 08/10/2019 16:30

What's more important than your baby ffs?

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Joe2019 · 08/10/2019 16:57

Very silly . . .

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ClemDanFango · 08/10/2019 17:00

Literally no one here can tell you the outcome. Either phone the court and find out or don’t and hope for the best those are your options.

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user1499775533 · 08/10/2019 18:12

Erm, I dunno?? Maybe continuing to keep my baby away from a bad person 🤔

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user1499775533 · 08/10/2019 18:14

I’m sure if any orders would of been made I would of got it in writing by now. I’m 100% sure about that.

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whitershadeofpale · 08/10/2019 18:22

Are you the same poster who was planning to lie about your youngest DC's father in order to play silly buggers?

If so you've been told before that you're being very silly. Plus 6 days is plenty of time to have got to court after your DG's stroke, I think they would have only taken this into consideration if it had happened on the same day.

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IDontBelieveYou · 08/10/2019 18:30

“Filter it out” ...? That’s not a thing.

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NotJust3SmallWords · 08/10/2019 18:38

I don't think any of us can advise you what the Court has done op, but if she's made some kind of application and a Judge has dismissed it then I expect that dismissal would be recorded in an order and sent to the parties.
If you call the Court they will be able to tell you what was decided at the hearing.

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Itsarainyday555 · 08/10/2019 18:51

Orders can take a long time to be sent to the parties so I wouldn't be so sure that you would have received it by now. Your only option is to call the court and asked what happened. They may well have gone ahead without you as you failed to turn up and the other side may have used that to their advantage. I'm afraid the courts don't take very kindly to people thinking they have more important things to do.

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user1499775533 · 09/10/2019 17:08

It’s not regarding my children’s father. It’s his mother. He has never got involved in any applications she’s made as we get on okay and want to keep it that way for the sake of the kids.

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user1499775533 · 09/10/2019 17:13

I emailed the court explaining what’s going on regarding my grandmother. I will be holding power of attorney so have a lot of decisions to make regarding her future aswell as getting that put in place plus juggling work and home life. I did ask for it to be adjourned but prior to that email I’d wrote a letter to the court asking them to change their mind on the whole hearing based on the facts and they emailed me from the court asking me to fill out a c100 form because they felt a judge should see it sooner due to the nature of it.

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peachgreen · 09/10/2019 17:18

There's no point asking us OP, you have to contact the court. Do you have a solicitor?

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Collaborate · 09/10/2019 18:36

I suspect very few of us will be bothered enough to search for someone with an anonymous user name's previous posts to find out what this is all about.

Your reason for not attending the hearing is likely to be considered weak and obstructive by the court. The judge could have made any order in your absence.

You'd better find out pretty quick what order the court made.

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PatriciaHolm · 09/10/2019 19:16

OP had a very long running thread on this - I don't need to AS, it was long and memorable for her dogmatic stance that she didn't need or want to engage with the court, as she completely disagreed. No matter how many qualified lawyers tried to tell her she really really did need to engage or anything could happen.

Looks like she continued to ignore that advice.

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user1499775533 · 09/10/2019 20:10

Well, on her application she was asking for a full day with my 3 year old that she sees for 2 hours with her son and not unsupervised then she was asking for regular contact with my 1 year old that she has never seen and her son has no parental rights for. Would of made more sense if she’d of asked for contact with them both together but it’s not about the children, it’s another arrack on me. I did contact the police prior to this as she was very abusive over the phone and telling me I should do this and that or she’ll take me to court. In 3 years she has made my life hell. Her first court attempt was for contact with my elder Daughter at her home not for contact being refused. That paperwork would of been viewed too to hopefully see the pattern. Cafcass told me that regarding my baby it would ultimately fall on me and the exes mum to sort out, in other words the court couldn’t do anything but she’d suddenly changed the whole day with my elder daughter to 4 hours because realistically it wouldn’t work as my daughters at full time nursery and then full time school next year,

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user1499775533 · 09/10/2019 20:16

And it’s not about me not engaging with the court, it’s me saying I’ve had enough of being threatened and taken to court by a manipulative bully. I’m glad the police have supported and believed me. I have never refused anyone contact to my children but naturally boundaries have to be there for a reason and maybe a little bit of respect wouldn’t go a miss. Also I have spoken to a solicitor who told me to stand my ground and have advised to ask for the consent order for my elder Daughter to be discharged as she visits with her dad, the grandparent and myself have had no contact in 2 years and I have taken steps to ensure she can not threaten or harass me again in the future.

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Ginger1982 · 09/10/2019 21:14

Doesn't change the fact that only the court can tell you the outcome.

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peachgreen · 09/10/2019 21:26

But by refusing to engage you're not standing your ground, you're reflecting poorly on yourself. Go to court, get it sorted and it will all be over.

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user1499775533 · 09/10/2019 21:36

I’m not refusing to engage, I’ve simply told the court that I’m emotionally struggling to deal with all of this and her behaviour and asked for the court to reconsider their decision which I was entitled to do according to paper work and then after then 5 days before the court date my gran has suffered a massive life changing stroke. I did ask the court if they could adjourn but have heard nothing back and understandably I’m definitely not in a good place at the moment emotionally and do not need anymore humiliation from that woman. I been informed by a solicitor that it is not a criminal court and I’m not obliged to attend if I find it too much to deal with.

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