Hi. My DH and I have discussed this on and off for as long as I can remember, always procrastinating about it. I know there are similar threads and have poured over them. Didn't know whether I should be in 'older mums' thread...?
Am 39 this autumn, have DD 12, DS 10. We are expats (immigrants? as I don't think we will move back to UK), living in USA. Never seemed like the right time to expand family as we have been travelling around world since birth of DD. Now we have made the decision to stay and see DD's school years through here in USA, I find I constantly feel the pull to extend family to 4DC, so would like 2 more. Feel like we should stop the procrastinating and make decision given my age. DH is 46.
I'm trying to work out if I would regret it if we didn't (regret is hindsight thing so not sure in present moment?) but am terrified to 'take the plunge'. Financially we are fine, TG. DH says yes, but I am constantly over analyzing it. I feel it's just the 4 of us here in USA and feel need to have big family as we miss ours back in UK. Am I just lonely? (Was on an Overseas thread) I am not a big socialite, my life centres around family, so what am I waiting for I hear you ask?! Our lives are very ordered (and busy) and is it crazy to try for another? DD says she would be jealous if we had another, (kind of asked her the hyperthetical, "what if...").
LIfe might seem perfect to others but I constantly feel like something is missing (maybe it's the expat thing, being away from 'home'). Would truly welcome thoughts from anyone who has been in or is in similar situation. . Thanks.