Larger age gap between 3 and 4 how did it work out?

[Charlie9S]

Our lives are full on busy, disorganised chaotic and loud. 3 wrecking ball boys bless them. 2 dogs. one child suspect Audhd not high needs.
I can't shake having a 4th. But I feel insane for thinking it. I always wanted 4. Find 3 an odd number. But my boys are 9,7 and nearly 5 (very close but competitive and fight all the time). So they'd be a 3 close in age and then 4th would be a big age gap.
I'm 38, maybe its biological clock in my ears, hormones this is my last shot. The want to try for a girl. The letting go of this little stage? Anyone have advice or experience having a 4th with similar age gaps and how that has worked out as they grow? How you make sure you have time for everyone. Did it change the dynamic for the better? worse? Tip you over the edge?! 😂

A difference perspective from me as I was that youngest sibling with a big age gap - my sisters are six and eight years older than me. From my point of view, it wasn’t ideal. They were always close, being so close in age, and I was always too young to join in whatever they were doing. This has continued throughout our lives, and while I would say the three of us are fairly close, they are closer to each other than they are to me. I used to long for a sister who was the same age as me!

I did it! My daughter was born when my boys were 9, 8 and 6. The four are now 23,22, 20 and 14. It’s been brilliant! The older ones could help with the baby -amusing her when I was making dinner for example -so that bit was easier. She had always adored her brothers and they have fun with her. Do it!

I'm intrigued as to whether or not she got a girl on her 8th?! 😁