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chocochoc · 07/05/2013 17:39

Hi ladies , I'm chocochoc , I'm 35 and starting ivf for the first time . I'm due to go for a consult In June .
How long does everything take from that meeting ?

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chocochoc · 07/05/2013 17:50

Hi ladies , I new to all this .
I'm going for a consult to start ivf , I'm very nervous about the whole thing as I've heard the success rates are low Sad for people of a certain age ( I'm not far of 35 ) . Has anyone got any success stories they fancy sharing being in the same age bracket as myself ( all stories welcome ) , including how long things take from the first appointment .

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piprabbit · 07/05/2013 17:55

I was 37 when I had IVF, we were very lucky and it worked first time, DS has just had his 5th birthday.
Once we'd been referred and had our initial consultation, the doctor left it with us to contact them one the first day of my next period, once I was sure we wanted to go ahead. I was pregnant within 3 months of the initial consultation. However, this was at a private clinic. I get the feeling NHS treatment moves more slowly.
Good luck with your consultation and treatment.

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chocochoc · 08/05/2013 07:56

Thanks piprabbit , that's great that thing worked out for you Smile and it's good to hear that things move quickly Smile

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Isabeller · 08/05/2013 08:04

Hi, good luck with your treatment. I had unsuccessful treatment in my 30s with exH (male factor) now having donor egg treatment with DP in late 40s.

I think there is a really good chance of it working fairly quickly these days but if you do have disappointments make sure you find good support. Have you looked at the fertility friends website? It's probably not entirely healthy to obsess but I find it difficult to avoid when in the middle of treatment Blush xx

Devilforasideboard · 08/05/2013 11:37

I found my first appointment card a few days ago and realised the date of our first clinic appointment last year is the due date for our baby this year. Good luck!

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chocochoc · 09/05/2013 16:24

Isabeller , thank you . I'm so sorry to hear that your treatment didn't work Sad I hope and pray that egg donation is successful for you Smile I've suffered 6 m/c's and one of which I had was very recently and my heart brakes everytime I have af or even if I see a bfp ( fear of m/c again ) Support is definitely something everyone needs in these situations . Ive not heard of the fertility friends but i'll definitely be having a look Thank you for sharing your story with me x

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chocochoc · 09/05/2013 16:30

Devilforasideboard . Aww that's brilliant , congratulations Smile . I hope someday in the near future i'll be sharing news like that , Wishing everyone the best of luck with bfps Smile

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chocochoc · 09/05/2013 16:38

I should add I have 2 children from a previous relationship and suffered
Two m/c's in that relationship . I've a new partner and we've had 4 m/c's

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Isabeller · 09/05/2013 19:14

Thank you chocochoc, lining scan tomorrow and frozen embryo transfer next week if all well. I have an adult DD from a previous relationship and failed treatment with exH. Good luck with everything Smile

EuroShaggleton · 09/05/2013 21:52

choc have you had miscarriage investigations?

I had my first IVF cycle at 37. I went for natural IVF, so only got one mature egg (the one I produced naturally). To my astonishment, I got pregnant first time. I miscarried, but it worked! We're starting again as soon as my period arrives (any time now).

Fertility friends has great info and lots of knowledgeable posters, so it is well worth checking out.

BTW, there is a thread over in Conception (excellent egg buddies) for people doing IVF in April/May/June if you would like to meet some people going through it at the same time.

Good luck for your FET, isabeller.

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chocochoc · 09/05/2013 22:52

EuroShggleton

Hi , yeh i've had tests done and everything seems to be normal so far . I went for a progestrone test last week and i feel that it should have been done sooner as progestrone is a big factor in staying pregnant . I'm terrified of going through ivf and then to loose another pregnancy as its getting harder to deal with Sad.I was told today that it could take up to a year from first consult to getting the treatment started .Where i live you only get one chance on the NHS . It could come to us paying for the treatment which we don't mind doing if we thought it would be successful ,but if it failed thr first time there's eveery chance it could fail again . Sorry for sounding negative . I must have a look at Fertility Friends . I'm sorry to hear that the treatment hasn't worked the first time for you , i really hope you get lucky and have some good news to tell on here Smile

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BadBuddha · 09/05/2013 23:05

Hi Choco
I had my first IVF baby (DS) three years ago when I was 39. I'm now 42 and our second IVF baby (DD) was born just two weeks ago :D. We've been very lucky - we too only had one attempt on the NHS but that one attempt was all it took. Going to try to get some sleep now but i'll check the thread in the morning and feel free to message me if there's anything you want to ask. Good luck!

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chocochoc · 09/05/2013 23:45

Thanks BadBuddha . That's fantastic to hear that ivf worked for you , congratulations on your DD Smile . I'd be over the moon of ivf worked for us , the more success stories i hear give me hope that something good might just happen

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BadBuddha · 10/05/2013 07:58

Thanks Choco! Realised that I didn't answer all your question last night. Once all the paperwork was done we didn't have to wait long at all - told to phone up on the first day of next period and given a date to start on the drugs 21 days later. Was the same for the FET - called to request treatment and treatment went ahead that cycle. It probably depends on your NHS Trust though - whereabouts are you?

EuroShaggleton · 10/05/2013 12:22

choc you can't feel that because IVF hasn't worked once, it will never work. Depending on age and other factors, each cycle has maybe a 30% chance of working. Some people will get lucky quicker than others. NICE recommends 3 cycles be given on the NHS, but my area like yours only offers one.

Pocket1 · 10/05/2013 18:24

Chocochoc please join us on the assisted conception thread. It's such an amazing place for support and advice from women in exactly the same boat. I found it a lifeline and I'm still hanging around on the thread even though I'm pregnant. I can't quite let go!

We had three cycles if donor ivf. Got a bfp round 1 then mc. Got a bfn round 2. And got a bfp with round 3 and I'm 32 weeks today. Our little girl is due on 5 July. Im in my 40s. So please stay positive. It's a tough journey but you'll get there Smile

See you on the AC thread?

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chocochoc · 10/05/2013 22:07

hi BadBuddha i'm from Northern Ireland and all the women here get one chance on the NHS after that you've to pay for the treatment .

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chocochoc · 10/05/2013 22:24

hi EuroShaggleton , i just dread the thought of having another m/c . I know i could get lucky and the first round of IVF might work but still in the back of my mind that doubt is there and it will be niggling away at me.

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chocochoc · 10/05/2013 22:26

aww congrats to you Pocket1 that's brilliant news . I'll take a wee look on the AC thread surely

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EuroShaggleton · 10/05/2013 22:28

I completely understand. I've asked Mr euro if he can get them to continue the sedation from egg collection to BFN or 12 weeks! Next time is going to be really, really tough. I'd sleep through it if I could.

whiskymiller · 15/05/2013 16:28

Great to read success stories on here!

I have my co ordination appointment in July for my first cycle of IVF and reading positive stories on here really gives me faith.

MayMiracle · 16/05/2013 18:24

Hi chocochoc,

Just to say that I also have had IVF success. It was our second cycle, first FET that produced our DD. We are now expecting our 2nd child after another successful FET.

Like the others, I found that once the initial consultation is done (and providing there are no more tests to be done) that things moved quickly. We were private both times though, so cannot comment on NHS timings.

However, my best friend has a DS from successful NHS IVF.

I know of lots of IVF babies, so keep the faith. Fingers crossed it happens for you first time.

xx

millimax · 21/05/2013 11:55

I too am starting IVF in a couple of weeks -our first appointment was a month ago and things have moved really quickly. We are private as I have a DS from a previous relationship already. 37 now so worried age is a greater factor along with the PCOS. We are with the London women's Clinic anyone else had experience with them? I will look over on the assisted conception thread, would be great to link with ladies going through this roller-coaster at the same time!
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crazyhorse28 · 03/06/2013 08:33

Hi, I'm due to start my Buserelin injections tomorrow. Generally have been feeling ok about everything but today feel really scared and keep crying. Not scared about doing the injections, I know I'll just get used to that but scared of what they will do to me, scared it won't work. Also feel quite lonely, no one to talk to about it, who would understand or care people have there own lives. Need to snap out of this I know, positive thinking is important. Maybe I am thinking about it to much, someone said to me today that most people going through this don't give it that much thought. I've never posted on something before, suppose I just wanted to feel like I wasn't alone.

BrainLikeASeive · 07/06/2013 05:50

Aw. Good old buserelin. I remember those days.

Choc.. I had ivf on the nhs at 33. We first went to see our GP in june 2009. Just to say we'd been trying for 6 months but no joy & could we have some tests done please.

Things flew from there. We were swept along by the system & before we knew it we were referred for ivf.

Almost exactly 1 year from seeing the gp... the first round worked & I was pregnant with twins.

OHSS nearly killed me so watch out for that btw.

And.. beware the TTC baby trap. Even though the twins are really hard work, at 1.5 years I couldn't resist doing the do with DH & then lying on my side. Idiot!
Im currently holding our 6 week old baby.

Yeah... now everyone says they know someone who had ivf & then fell naturally. Gah.

So good luck with it. Hope its quick... and i