colditz, according to madonna, she picked him up from an orphanage and did not know at first that he did have a parent. As part of the adoption process in malawi you have to get a relative to "approve" the adoption. It seems that when they went looking for such a relative they found a father. A father who had given the child up at 2 weeks old and had never visited him afterwards. The child had several siblings as well as his mother who had already died of disease and hunger. Anything she can offer has to be better than growing up in an orphanage.