Trinity I have only really just caught up with the threads, and read your thread about the cleaner.
You sound completely exhausted with the whole thing
DH's don't really seem to get it do they!
I am glad he has agreed to getting one. I hope it helps.
I used to find the actual clutter was a pain.
When I first gave up work, and had only one baby...that was tiring enough and I just couldn't get to grips with the house at all...led to arguements all the flaming time! DH would come home from work and shout at me for the huge piles of crap, all the washing, blah blah....he would ask me what on earth I had been doing all day!
It isn't easy...really it isn't, so don't feel bad for not being good at housework, like I keep trying to tell all these anti fly people, it doesn't come easily to everyone!
I think for me, the fact we moved house helped, as I de-cluttered drastically.
De-cluttering really is the key (we can't clean clutter as everyone always says!)
Hopefully you can find a cleaner who might help you to do this first.
Good luck...chin up, and I hope you get some rest too xx