Flying into Spring with icicles on it

[icypompoms]

Hello everyone, iWelcome back to our regulars, and if you are new or returning, a huge welcome to you as well! Please feel free to post or lurk, whatever helps you most.

This is an incredibly helpful thread and the system can be confusing but someone on here will be able to answer your questions and get you on track.

So, Flylady. That mysterious system that promises a lovely clean house! This link is a good place to read about the basic principles, but we strongly recommend ignoring the first bit - do not sign up for emails as you’ll be inundated!

www.flylady.net/d/getting-started/

If you’re new to the system, or are wanting a refresher course, the baby steps may be a good idea. Some are more useful than others, we’ve found, and stuff like affirmations may not work for you, so pick and choose what you want to try. You don’t have to do it all! Perfectionism can be left at the door, we celebrate any achievement here no matter how small it seems (this is why you’ll see our Ta Da lists as well as To Do lists!).

www.flylady.net/d/getting-started/31-beginner-babysteps/

There are parts of the house called zones, each taking a different part of the month, and missions in those zones to do little tasks we may have neglected. If you don’t feel ready for those though, a good way to start is doing 15 minutes decluttering in that zone! Remember it didn’t get messy in a day so it won’t be fixed in a day either. Slow and steady.

Then there’s the daily focus - each day of the week has a theme, although many of us switch them around to suit our own lives.

Each day I’ll provide the link to the launch pad, which is where you can see what is meant to be done that day (but again don’t feel you have to do all of it! That way lies burnout!).

A couple of principles we talk about on here are:
Future Friend - the idea of doing something today that benefits you later, such as choosing your clothes or making your lunch the night before.
Power of Three (po3) - if you’re overwhelmed, just pick three easy tasks - no matter how small - and forget about the rest until they’re done. Then reassess and decide another three.

Finally a few acronyms:
DW - dishwasher, not dear wife!
LOL - load of laundry, we aren’t finding washing hilarious
WM - washing machine
TD - tumble dryer

FRIDAY: flight plan
www.flylady.net/c/fp.php?tzm=0&d=1

🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿 clean out bag and car
🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿 For today let's grab our feather dusters and dust off the leaves on our house plants and give them a drink of water! If you want bonus points you can pull of some of the dead leaves and blooms, declutter the plants! If you don't have any live plants but have some artificial arrangements, dust those off and dump any loose leaves and petals.

🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿 15 mins declutter
🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿 shine sink
🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿 get dressed to shoes.
🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿 reminder: www.blogtalkradio.com/flylady
There's a radio you can listen to.

I've name changed again, didn't care much for my previous one (UNP here).
Pompoms what's a wonderbag? It sounds like something I need in my life.
Red I wish my DH helped to unpack. If I wait for him to do it, both kids would be off to uni and we would still have boxes. All he does is complain these days. You can argue I am doing the same thing on here.

I did no housework today. House is a mess. Even more of a mess given it's only partially unpacked. It can wait until tomorrow.

Shoulder red wrt the people. it is not optional. it is essential. <shrug> tis what it is.

@DomesticElf

A wonderbag is a South African bag that basically is a slow cooker that uses no power. So today I chopped all the veg for a chilli and drained the beans. I put the biggest saucepan I have on my job and cooked off the onions and garlic and chucked the veggies beans and spices in.

Bring it to the boil for five minutes then put the whole saucepan in the wonderbag and do it up. The food cooks in its own heat. We then ate it tonight and it was cooked and piping how.

www.wonderbagworld.com/

Evening all

ta da
🧋last minute meeting which threw my entire day out of whack
🧋took Cagletini to gym
🧋ordered leaver’s hoodie for DD1
🧋reported tutoring finances for Feb

So the wonderbag is pretty as well as practical Pompoms

I hate squeezing things in last minute. Hope you can recover your equilibrium tomorrow Perry

Elf I recommend counteracting that sort of thing with telling him he's a miserable old man and to shut up whining. Every single time. Even if he's only 20. Women are expected to be beacons of happiness and a delight at all times. That's incompatible with listening to constant moaning. There's no talking their way out of that one, though it can be amusing to watch them try

Ta-da's:

🌼 Morning routine
🌼 Hairdressers appointment
🌼 Took a walk
🌼 Decluttering
🌼 Got a head start on tomorrow by cleaning the car
🌼 Evening routine

ditzy beacon of light and happiness - you have clearly never been around me in RL🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Tada-
*Furry overlords needs met
*Wash on
*S+s
*Wake D's/make sure dd2 has thyroid meds
*Wake lil zoo,offer food
*DS breakfast and lunch sorted
*Toast English muffins
*Apply muffins to own face,ensure girls are up and eat
*Chivvy D's get sorted as taxi arrives from 7.25
*Get myself dressed
*Write list as discover no spread left,D's has drunk 2pints milk since yesterday so he has none left and has been over feeding the girls so kibble supplies are critical(annoying as they have wheat free and can be difficult to source so I need more than crumbs left warning)
*Wave off ds
*Email scholl lil zoo not coming in(and she hopefully will be talking camhs later)
*Decide as dd2 anxiety is at sun circling stage she can come shop with me and make herself useful/chivvy her to get dressed

@DomesticElf if nothing else works you can buy an enzyme spray in petshops that gets rid of cat wee smells.

@HillsBesideTheSea sorry to hear about the shoulder

Right, its my day off today. Need to go and do the food shop, yoga class, then taking DD to college (she's a bit under the weather and not feeling up to going on the train). Lots of paperwork to catch up on too.

I've dipped in and out of these threads under various UN but I do need this push, so going to follow you all and try and get a handle back on things.

Will do car and bag as suggested, that seems manageable. Happy Friday.

ED and Zoo thanks, I will have a look. I am pretty sure RugDoctor odor remover is enzymatic and it didn't work well 😥 I like the chair, so will exhaust everything before giving up.
Ditzy I may have to start doing that. He is mid 40s going on 70. At the moment I internally roll my eyes and try not to engage, but it is grating.

I am off today as working the weekend, and there is lots to be done. I think I will need to break things into PO3s, because at the moment I don't even know where to start 😂 (I just want to go to bed and sleep)

So to do:
💪Start writing job application
💪Load recycling to the car and take it to recycling centre
💪Load things in the car to go to the previous house

Next Po3:
💪Go to old house and defrost the fridge, final touches to get it ready to give the keys back
💪Unpack and organise 'spare supplies' cupboard, 'random crap' drawer, 'utilities cupboard', and 'Christmas/seasonal stuff storage'
💪Meal plan for the week

Oops, username changed to previous one. C'mon, MN, work with me.

Oh, yes that's the new MN feature, it reverts you back to whatever name you first posted on a thread with, I don't like it but most seem to according to the thread on site stuff.

I suppose it is a way to help reduce sock puppeting. But yes it is an arse if you are making a sensible change that you want to keep.

I love it, but then I use different names for different areas of the site.

It will certainly help me not mess up with username confusion!

Welcome back to the thread @FailingFlyFightingtoFlutter

So far I've
✅got two kids sorted in world book day costumes and face paints
✅ judged an craft competition at school
✅ been to toddler group
✅ s&s
✅ tidied car
✅ had to eat a pasty with loads of brown sauce.

Tada-
Tackled the TV unit that looked suspiciously like had a bit mould on...
End up throw it out,along 1/2 dvds in it(experience says in this house once it's got a hold bleach or anything else,cannot stop it returning quickly).
scrub a square of black mould off wall with bleach too

Added wooden shoe rack,and a mirror to pile of things outside to go

Then had note in door council are start guttering work Monday please ensure all access to front and back of property.

operation mad panic I had to borrow money to get a clearance man to come as side is awash with binbags and furniture...

thankfully in the area,it's all been sorted today as wasn't deemed "a huge job"

speak ASD team about lil zoo(officially now has diagnosis)discuss school(it rather lack attendance) and agree I need sort ehcp<adds to never ending to do list>

still need to restack dvds left and put TV back but am very tired and need a break

3lol done,and some emergency supplies done

Ah, I see re username. I don't change them often, I just didn't like my other one. Clearly imagination was on leave that day.

Zoo you can do it. Sending coffee.

PO3 progress:
💪Start writing job application - STARTED (will take a few days to finish)
💪Load recycling to the car and take it to recycling centre - DONE
💪Load things in the car to go to the previous house - DONE

💪Go to old house and defrost the fridge, final touches to get it ready to give the keys back - DONE.
💪Unpack and organise 'spare supplies' cupboard, 'random crap' drawer, 'utilities cupboard', and 'Christmas/seasonal stuff storage' - still to do..😮‍💨
💪Meal plan for the week - still to do 😮‍💨

When I lived in a housing association house they gave me some stuff to treat the mould. We'd paid out so much on solutions and stripped the wallpaper and redecorated so it was only fair that as landlords they started to pull their weight.

Sorry if you've already said you've tried this but is it worth hassling them regularly?

Whereas I have never used different names for different areas with one or two exceptions about my DCs schools but I NC regularly and now I’m on a different name on every thread (mostly I only post on long-running ones) which is really irritating.

ED I like the new feature with usernames. I name change on a whim, sometimes frequently, but I don't like to confuse people so I keep the same username for an entire thread even if I've actually changed it. It's why you lot get all my new usernames, because there's a new thread each month. The new system means I don't have to remember to return to an old username for a particular thread because it's automatically done for me. I hardly post on any threads though, perhaps I'd feel differently if I posted on lots.

I don't know what sock puppets are Hills but whenever I venture out of my Threads I'm On/Watching lists into the wider world of Mumsnet I'm convinced a lot of posters are trolls. So many people sniping at each other for no reason

Refusing to conform to society's expectations Zoo? How rebellious of you 😉 If the damp problem is the gutters overflowing hopefully the mould situation will improve as the walls dry out. I'm sorry you're losing furniture to it. It's a health hazard having so many mould spores in the air.

Welcome back Fly. I find posting here really helps me. I think I remember you under a different username (but still Fly)?

Busy day Pompoms but sounds fun.

Elf I have more!

If the complaints are about the cost of things (as if he's never heard of price rises or inflation) another good tactic is to add your own complaint onto the end of theirs. So you listen to the moan then say something like "it's awful. And the price of bread today! It was only tuppence ha'penny in 1943". He'll shut up once he realises what a prat he's being. "I'm sure I'm being scammed...the last time I bought one of these it was half this price and twice the quality!". "Yes dear, when you were 25 - some time in the 1980s?...things have changed a bit since then."

If it's a petty complaint about work, tell him to be sure to contact the union first thing, you're certain they're gearing up to send him up the chimney tomorrow.

If it's a ridiculous complaint about a person, look at him like a spaceship just landed in front of you and tell him the phone number for the GP is on the noticeboard and there's medication for paranoia.

If he complains about having to park under the tree today where the birds will poo on his car, tell him to write to his MP.

Stop validating him with your time and energy and it'll stop. You're not an emotional cesspit for him to dump his frustrations into.

Ta-da's:

🍇 Morning routine
🍇 Routine appointment
🍇 Popped to the shop
🍇 Filed some paperwork
🍇 Decluttering

To-do:

🌰 Watch decluttering videos on YouTube
🌰 Maybe do some more decluttering
🌰 Exercise
🌰 Read my book, need to start a new one
🌰 Evening routine

I'm always ED so regulars on the threads can tell who I am (I normally change on the 1st of the month to coincide with this thread). It looks as though I'm in a minority on this one, but I really am not keen on names I ditched months ago resurfacing.

In that case ED it should be that it remembers the last name you used on a thread, this wouldn't really make any difference to sockpuppeting as they would still need to change.

Ditzy I post of far too many and have long running threads I use where I want people to know who I am.

But all this above points to my real problem and why I am here. Procrastination. It is a killer.

🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿I did a last minute declutter go at a hot spot so pleased with that. Totally clear now.

🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿cut fringe.

🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿Nice family film before bedtime which is out of the ordinary for us. With homemade popcorn!!!

🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿And I actually had an afternoon nap with the baby. Absolutely incredible. I've been up for most of the night and I honestly loved the nap.

SATURDAY:
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🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿 family fun day
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🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿 then all the normal stuff. If you don't normally press on the link for flight plan I thought I'd copy and paste the details instead. *
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🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿** • Morning Routine:
◦ Get Dressed to Shoes including Hair/Face, Brush Teeth
◦ Make Bed
◦ Swish & Swipe
◦ Empty Dishwasher
◦ Reboot Laundry (a Load a Day Keeps CHAOS Away)
◦ Check Your Calendar
◦ Check Your Control Journal
• What's For Dinner?
• Drink Your Water
• Declutter for 15 Minutes
• 15 Minutes of Loving Movement (exercise)
• Before Bed Routine:
◦ Lay out Your Clothes for tomorrow
◦ Check Your Calendar
◦ Put things needed for tomorrow at the Launch Pad
◦ Where are your Keys?
◦ Spend Two Minutes Clearing off a Hot Spot
◦ Shine Your Sink
◦ Wash face/Brush Teeth
◦ Go to Bed at a Decent Hour