Making my cleaning list. Accountability Post

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So DD3 is having a party on Friday! I need to have at least the downstairs tidy. My utility room and downstairs loo have to be decluttered.

To Do
Washing
Move Christmas Decs out of downstairs shower
Dishes
DH's Dinner

That will do for starters

See my head is away with the fairies!

Happy birthday to them instead!

Guests arrive this evening. I don’t plan to see them until tomorrow they are arriving at quite a stupid time give Dd is 7 and I’m cooking a baby. No reason they couldn’t have come in the afternoon or tomorrow morning (both options were suggested) apart from it being their personality that they don’t like to be ‘told’ what’s happening. Can’t wait to get my house back on Thursday...

They are with you till Thursday?! Oh my days that would do my head in.

Good luck @NotTakenUsername !

Also today:
Vacuum and mop hard floors.

Oh yes.
I will have days of ‘well-meaning’ advice, random wittering on for the fear of silence and constant questioning about everything thing I’m doing.
A healthy dose of gossiping and judging others, and a daily commentary about how amazing dh is because he, you know, interacts with his child occasionally and cooks the dinner...
We’ll have comments that imply he is the main breadwinner and therefore should get more of a say in how our money is spent (I earn about half what he does - all goes in one pot, I just happen to do so in about 17hours a week vs his 72hrs, allowing me to be almost exclusively a sahm as well).
By the end I will be worn down and exhausted and likely be in a horrid mood until about Easter Sunday! 🤦‍♀️
Believe it or not it washes over me/I cope with it much better than I used to. I used to think it was my fault, but now I just know it is who they are.

Urgh they sound horrible. How rude for guests to sit there judging you and telling you how your relationship should be. I'd probably be given them directions to the nearest hotel after one night if that were me.

Aha you see that’s the kicker. They tell me they aren't guests because they are family! 🤦‍♀️ I’m not sure how you get to the point of telling someone when you are in their house that you aren’t guests, but there you go. They aren’t evil, just bloody annoying!

What relations are they to you?

Inlaws of course. I’d just tell my family to wind their neck in!!

Such a delicate relationship to navigate. But I’m more in control of it than I used to be and it improves as I become stronger and have a higher self esteem.

It would be worse if they didn’t care to visit Dd.

I would be going to my friends or going for lots of walks a lot just to get away from them. I dunno why people speak down to in laws. I plan to be the kindest and least interfering mil one day

I think it is a tricky dynamic. Especially with my mother in law because of some level of subconscious misogyny.
She thinks I should ‘take care’ of her son. I think we are two individuals that should look after each other, but not necessarily in the domestic sense. She gave me recipes he liked before we got married! (He doesn’t even like these recipes and left home over ten years before we even met!!)
But there is no badness there - just an old lady set in her ways. There is nothing that goes on that would warrant a big row! Just nice to anonymously vent.
If I have a son next at least I have a “what not to do” blueprint!

Feed kids DONE
Wash dishes and put away DONE
Anti bac'd kitchen tops DONE
Showered DONE
Dry hair DONE
Get changed DONE
Make beds Done
Bleach upstairs loo Done
Anti bac bathroom basin Done
Put new towels in bathroom Done

To do

Take laundry downstairs and in washing machine
Get kids changed
Tidy downstairs
Clean downstairs loo

Set alarm for 11.30 and get up! I so want a proper nights sleep, See you in a while.

Right, am up.
Going to tackle the girls room.
And make DH's lunch

✅Rise at 6am!
✅steam floors
✅tidy toyroom
✅clear away yesterday craft
✅Make up guest room
✅clean guest bathroom
✅wipe around other bathrooms
✅tidy kitchen
✅wash and dry guest towels
✅laundry
❌more laundry
❌bit more
✅Dd Club #1
✅Dd Club #2
✅return clothes to a store
✅attend a charity fundraiser
✅collapse in a heap in bed very early

Also:
✅Washed dressed hair makeup
✅flatten yesterday’s curly painting
✅dishwasher

😴💤💤💤

Laundry ✅
DS dinner with extra for freezer done ✅
Dinner ✅

Good luck with the inlaws @NotTakenUsername.

Tomorrow's list:
Laundry
Organise play date
Online shopping.
Tidy landing and children's bedrooms.

Today's list:
Laundry
Make dinner for children.
Nespresso order
Organise play date

Today's List:

Fold washing
Hang out washing
Fold Washing
Wash a load
Hang out washing
Fold washing
Wash another load
Hang out washing
Fold washing
Eat a good lunch
Plan dinner
Cook dinner
Go to scouts
Exercise for 15 mins
Practice breathing every hour
Drink 3 litres of water
Work 6 hours

Contact insurance company
Contact scout leaders

Oooh, can I join please, I used to be on a similar thread a while ago and t really helped. I’ve already done a lot from my list though:

Iron uniforms & work clothes ✅
Empty dishwasher ✅
Reload dishwasher ✅
Load of washing ✅
Washing into dryer ✅
Wash cat bowls ✅
Clean kitchen ✅
Tidy living room ✅
Tidy beds ✅
Hoover upstairs and downstairs ✅
Dust living room ✅
Go to Sainsbury’s ✅
Ring for some quotes for blinds ✅

Still to do:

Make lunch
Go to work 😭
Make dinner for me

Clean kitchen (again)
Fold and put away clean washing
Get meat for tomorrow out of freezer
Clean downstairs bathroom

That’ll do me for now as I only finish work at 7pm and want some time to sit and relax later on.

Heya. Huge lists there mikeyssister and Kim

So far I have

Showered
Fed kids
Dressed kids
School run
Supermarket top up shop
Unpacked shopping
Washed dishes and put away
Anti bac'd kitchen worktops
Made beds
Tidied kids rooms
Put a washing load on
Hoovered all rooms
Hung out washing

Gonna blitz the bathrooms this afternoon.

Doctors appointment made (for two different things which is my time saving exercise for today ) ✅

Children's baths ✅

Fold washing
Put away
Hang out washing - yesterdays
Fold Washing
Put away
Wash a load 1
Hang out load 1
Fold washing
Wash load 2
Hang out load 2
Fold washing
Wash load 3 - on but not finished yet
Hang out load 3
Fold washing
Eat a good lunch thank you DD
Plan dinner
Cook dinner
Go to scouts
Exercise for 15 mins
Practice breathing every hour
Drink 3 litres of water oops
Work 6 hours - 3 so far

Contact insurance company
Contact scout leaders
Put away 3 baskets of washing
Clean Toilets - steeping at the moment