I had a meltdown a couple of weeks ago and did various things to make my life easier (and fingers crossed I am starting to notice the difference)
started to get rid of "stuff" Ten bin bags of clothes already gone to charity and five boxes of toys waiting to go. This will be an ongoing task because I tend to keep stuff just in case.
increased cleaners hours and switched my cleaner. This is making a big difference.
put roomba on every morning without fail, do a load of washing put dishwasher on. By 7.45 I feel like I've achieved something!
given the DCs a chores list (this one might take a while but I'm currently bribing them with football stickers!)
ordered hooks for the masses of keys we have hanging around and stuck them all to the inside of a cabinet in the utility room so that I can always put my hands on the right keys (I spend too much time hunting!)
had a big sort out of utility room and so now I know exactly where to find things like torches, candles, hot water bottles, spare lightbulbs.
new laundry baskets one for whites one for coloureds
bought the DSs a basket each and put all their hats scarves gloves etc in there ready so that they can always find what they need and we don't have constant arguments in the morning about which hat belongs to which boy
making "ready meals" I cooked two chickens at the weekend. We had roast dinner and then I chopped up all the meat and made "ready meal" curries and jerk chicken which are now in the freezer and ready to be whipped out if we come home late.
bulk bought toilet roll, kitchen roll etc so that we don't run out.
arranged for the window cleaner to come more regularly.
I will be adding more to the list!