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Rememebr i was telling you about the boy who doesnt like ANYTHING coming for tea? well he is coming for the weekend!

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sunburntats · 22/09/2009 18:03

Wanna ask his mum what to feed him, but dont want to come across as irritated....so how do i put ti to her?

need to be breezy and nice about it.

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CarGirl · 22/09/2009 18:04

as x is here for the weekend what are his favourite dishes; I'd like to make him feel at home?

cornsillk · 22/09/2009 18:06

Ask him what he wants for tea when he arrives. Then serve it at each meal.

RubysReturn · 22/09/2009 18:08

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sunburntats · 22/09/2009 18:27

hmm, i aksed this before, and was told that curry was his all time fav.
so made a lush curry.

he took huge gulp of water with all 3 of the mouthfulls that he ate, saying that the chicken was not the same as his mums.

mum just smiled knowingly and said "yes, he only likes mine".

grrr

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sunburntats · 22/09/2009 18:36

What do i do??

Also, we have a bit of a routine, Friday night is pizza night (he hates pizza) sat morning, we have bacon n egg, and usually a curry for tea, sunday we have a sunday roast...he hates sunday roasts because he doesnt like chewing stuff.

what do i do???
I actually think that he doesnt like ANYTHING at all (yet he is overwight????)

He likes scrambled egg and beans, but wont eat mine beause i dont mix it all in together properly.

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HeadFairy · 22/09/2009 18:38

Tell his mother to come round and cook for him every night!! Seriously, he won't eat your egg and beans because you don't mix it properly... erm, how about he mixes it himself?

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sunburntats · 22/09/2009 18:41

ahh dont get me started, he is 11 and has never picked out his own clothes, is incapable of picking up his own clothes to take home with him, has to be told to put on his shoes and coat if we are going out, he jsut stands there morosley waiting for you to do it all for him.

Not in our house he doesnt, i ensure he does every thing for himself.

I was looking after my 3 siblings, cooking meals and cleaning the house at 11....thought it was just kids today tbh.

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Tinfoil · 22/09/2009 18:41

Think of a few easy things which will turn out the same whether it's you or his mum who makes them. Then ask his mum "would he like X, Y or Z"? If she says no to all of them then maybe she could suggest some others. If he still doesn't like those then you've done your best.

Beachcomber · 22/09/2009 18:44

My DD has a friend like this, it is very frustrating.

She too only seems to like things when her mum has made them (or they are chocolate cake).

I tend to make things that her mum has told me she likes and try not too feel too concerned when she refuses to eat. If she really doesn't eat anything I give her toast and butter although sometimes she refuses that because she doesn't like the toast/butter I have!

BTW I slightly blame her mother as she has a weird attitude to food and thinks her own cooking is marvelous and everybody elses's is nowt special.

DISCLAIMER: I know there are plenty of children who have issues with food and it is no fault of their own/their parents. I am talking about one individual case.

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sunburntats · 22/09/2009 18:45

he would happily survive on crisps and bicies (which he drops all over the floor like a toddler)

cant just give him them....can i? is that not child abuse?

thinking of my sanity when we are all tucking in and he is sat with a gob on.

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JodieO · 22/09/2009 18:46

He doesn't like chewing stuff??? How does he eat then? Surely you wouldn't have to chew a roast dinner anymore than a curry or other food?

BroccoliSpears · 22/09/2009 18:47

Does he like any readymade or raw things you could buy?

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sunburntats · 22/09/2009 18:47

thats ok for one meal, but not for a whole weekend beachy.

sigh.

I am tempted to jsut carry on as normal cooking and doing what we do. I refuse to buy special stuff just for him.

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sunburntats · 22/09/2009 18:49

no, what she tells me he likes, he doesnt like mine because it doesnt taste the same as his mums.

How the fuck do people with fussy kids cope?
Im so glad that mine will eat whatever is put in front of him.

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LadyOfTheFlowers · 22/09/2009 18:52

Sunburn - I remember your earlier thread.

TBH, if it was me, I wouldn't have him over. Sorry if that sounds harsh.
'Doesn't like chewing'..... A bit pathetic.

I know that doesn't help because you are having him over, just admirable of you. You have a lot more patience than I.

Good luck.

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sunburntats · 22/09/2009 18:54

ta ladyflower!
i love his mum, and actually i love the kid to bits, she helps me loads with childcare, so i jsut want to do the same iyswim.

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LadyOfTheFlowers · 22/09/2009 18:56

Ah right - that changes it a bit then...... but not much!! lol

QOD · 22/09/2009 19:11

right, I know what you are saying about the chewing, my dd HATES food that requires chewing - yes yes late to wean and crap at it.....
I would suggest
spag bol
lasagne
shepheards/cottage pie

DD also likes plainish sausages, jacket spuds, mash, tinned crappy slime pasta (which I refuse to serve so its a weekly nanna treat), microwaved (BOAK - again this is a flippin nanna thing) fish fingers, and, strangely she adores faggots
The recurring theme of course is......... mince! Nice & tasty with the different sauces and easy to chew
DD tends to strop when she gets roast chicken put infront of her - but loves roast spuds, veg & yorkshire puds
Just ideas from an irritating eaters mum!

Tinfoil · 22/09/2009 19:13

Even if it's packaged stuff like fish fingers or beans on toast? But maybe that's not what you had in mind.

"no, what she tells me he likes, he doesnt like mine because it doesnt taste the same as his mums."

bigchris · 22/09/2009 19:14

but how does he eat biscuits and crisps if he hates chewing????

I would add in sausages to beans and eggs and toast

cook what you normally cook but also put a plate of bread and butter out

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sunburntats · 22/09/2009 19:23

It is very iritating no?

Not just me that finds this irritating no?

please tell me its not just me, that you would all feel verry irritated by it too?

ALSO could you advise me on the computer games that he plays 24 hours a day If i let him put them onto my computer, it NEVER works properly for ages after, think he download a sneeky virus (i do have firewalls and Norton) yet it is completely buggered up every time.

Got him for the weekend and not made any plans as such, he will want to be on it from the moment he gets here.

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CarGirl · 22/09/2009 19:28

yes it would get on my nerves.

I wouldn't make anything different, offer him fruit and bread & butter as the alternatives.

Tell him your PC isn't working properly after last time? Disconnect it from the internet in case he tries it?

BalloonSlayer · 22/09/2009 19:30

Tell him it's broken? Then no Mumsnetting for you...

Maybe his Mum wants him to come to you to be "cured" of the fussy eating.

Yes I would be irritated but By Gaw, it does my heart good to know there are kids around who make my DD look unfussy.

Mimi1977 · 24/09/2009 12:24

Thought when I read the doesn't like chewing thread it sounded bit like my daughter who has certain food she will and won't chew - but she's 13 months!! 11? God I'd be so embarrassed if that was my child. IT's a hard one. Ask his mum what he would like you to cook for him and how it likes it. Do it but if he doesn't eat it return to your normal routine and let him go hungry. Not your problem is it. And don't give in to the biscuits. Why should his behaviour be rewarded when your kids are good. Sends the wrong signals to them.

meltedmarsbars · 24/09/2009 12:28

Just make what you normally would and IGNORE it if he doesn't eat it. Don't even mention it.

Then step outside and scream VERY loudly in the woods, come back in and smile sweetly.

Then late at night offer a bowl of cereal to all the kids (no singling out the meal-refuseniks!). At least no-one goes to bed hungry.