Rememebr i was telling you about the boy who doesnt like ANYTHING coming for tea? well he is coming for the weekend!

[sunburntats]

Wanna ask his mum what to feed him, but dont want to come across as irritated....so how do i put ti to her?

need to be breezy and nice about it.

when DS1 was little i had the same thing with my best friends little girl...dont want.dont like...not hungry..dont like meat...might make me fat.etc etc..

My son ate really well, so rather then ask her mum what she would eat...i guess i already knew as mum was veggie and child had veggie burgers thrust on her and veggie sausages. Mine ate what they were given.
Her mum wasnt bothered about her child being veggie,it was just easier for her to 'make ' her eat the same way as herself.

So i made dinner that night for both DS's and her,but i put it all on one big plate in the middle of the table.
I had forwarned mine not to take alot in one go ,but to take small portions ,frequently.
I made no fuss ,just plonked it in the middle of the table and said tuck in.
She just got up and down ,sang songs,tried to annoy me by doing what i considered were spoilt little brat things..but i ignored her and kept saying ...come on boys theres not much left...when its gone its gone.

Lo and behold,turned my back for a few minutes,because it was a shared plate she felt she was missing out and ate absolutely loads.
Her mum looked apprehensive about asking what she had eaten for tea and when i told her she didnt believe me. dont make a fuss it just makes them worse

I think you are a saint for having him for the weekend by the sound of it!

Also your weekend meals sound lovely so if he cries off can I come?

positive point...wont cost too much if he doesnt eat

I would do what mmb says, but I wouldn't offer the cereal That way he'll be starving and eat everything the next day!

Just serve up a smallish portion and if he doesn't eat it don't say anything and clear away. If he says he doesn't like it, say oh that's a shame, we all do!

Would he want to phone his mum if he "couldn't" eat anything?

DD has two ultra-fussy friends, so I'm well used to this scenario.
I work on the principle that 'ordinary' levels of pickiness I will work round (eg if a child didn't like potatoes then I'd cook pasta or rice for all of us), but for those two I just cook whatever I would normally make and they can eat or not as they choose. I do put things as separately as possible on the plate so they can, if they want, eat the pasta & not the sauce for example.
Heartless, me . . . ?

Carry on as you normally would. He'll never want to come again and you'll only have to do this weekend once

Could you puree it (gravy for savoury food, milk for sweet) then serve it with a straw. I thought my dd was fussy and picky till I saw this.

Decided to jsut do what we normally do, not ask him, just put it in front of him.
I dont intend on making a fuss.
We all usually eat together at the dining room table for nearly every meal, so just going to do this, set him a place and put the plate down.

As long as we all eat, not that bothered really.

I just despair that it has got to this.

i think you are totally right just doing what you normally do. thats what i would do. your house, your rules i say. besides giving in to his fussiness sets a bad example to your own kids('why can he not eat it but we have to etc').
he is probably overweight because he is so fussy and his mother probably gives in letting him snack on crisps, biscuits etc all the time instead of making him eat proper meals.
i think people are too sensitive to children being fussy with food now-a-days. if they are hungry enough they will eat it, thats what i say. my ds only gets treats (a biscuit, ice lolly or packet of crisps) if he finishes all his tea, especially his veggies, and if he's hungry in-between meals he gets offered fruit as a snack. i genuinely believe me being so strict with him is the reason he is not at all fussy with food.
i appreciate some children might have genuine problems with food but on the whole i think parents are seeing problems where really there is just a fussy child knowing they'll get their own way.
this is not meant to offend anyone, just my opinion

my mum used to bring out any food i didnt eat for lunch at tea time...but that was in the good old days when kids did as they were told.

yep - just give him what everyone else is having and don't stock up on crisps and biscuits.

little oik,send him to me ...

"yep - just give him what everyone else is having and don't stock up on crisps and biscuits."

Absolutely. My fussy DS2 first ate many foods at other people's houses because when he was there he had no other option.

You are doing the poor lad a service. And tell him to pick up his own clothes, shoes etc etc.

I used to be (and mostly still am actually) a very fussy eater. Not because I wanted biscuits/crisps etc. (I didn't like them) but because I genuinely didn't like the food. I'd try it, but if I didn't like it, I wouldn't eat. And yes, even if my friend's mum made lasagne it didn't have the same taste as my mum's so I didn't like it. And when my mum changed one ingredient in the sauce I wouldn't eat it either! (very sensitive taste buds me! )

Thing is, I also was never very hungry, despite being very active - I didn't like eating as a general rule and punishments like "you'll have no pudding" never worked as I didn't like the pudding!

My advice : if there is a "special" brand squash or something that he likes that you don't mind buying, get that (my friend's mum just to buy it just for me as I wouldn't drink anything else - very kind), but other than that I wouldn't change what you eat. I used to (and still do) hate people changing to try and please me because I felt incredibly guilty and still didn't like what I was given!

However, I never used to complain about being hungry - I don't know if this lad does complain?