Ijust stopped watching a film after 10 mins because of child sex abuse scenes

[eenybeeny]

DH and I sat down to watch the Buterfly Effect. 10 mins into it a man was about to molest little children and I felt sick and turned it off. Now I am watching the Island. Anyone seen either? Anyone else cant stomach films like that?

The scene is relevant as the boy goes back in time and stops it from happening at then makes sure the bad mad gets his dues.

I saw that before DD came along so I'm not sure I could cope with it now.

i just kept thinking Ashton thingy can't act serious to save his life. he should stick to trying to find his car,

I can't watch anything with rape scenes. Not good with torture either. There's loads of films lauded as brilliant, thought-provoking, challenging etc. (Clockwork Orange, Irreversible, Funny Games) that I will never see because of this.

Frankly I'm much happier for not having seen graphic scenes of people being brutally raped and tortured, but each to their own!

i had to aturn Blood Diamond off when the little children were being initiated by killing gagged and bound men with machine guns

wasn't blood diamond based on stuff that really happens though- if you want it changed surely the best way is to realise the full horror?

i ddint say i htought it was wrong to have it in the film - just that i couldnt watch it

I can't watch annything horrible anymore

especailly with cchildreen in

I don't watch horror films ever or gratuitous sexual assault.

I don't need the images in my head and I know they stay there.

hope none of you saw that spanish film on bbcfour last night then

also never watch Lady Vengeance

Relevant or not, I can't watch scenes like that either.

It disturbs me rather that child actors have to play those scenes out - yes, I know it's acting, but all the same these are not things that I think children should be deliberately exposed to.

"Realising the full horror" is one thing; using children to re-enact it disturbs me.

providing the child actors are treated in such a way that it will not stay with them, as it would with the children that it really happens to then i have no problem in watching it in order to get a real sense of the scene.

It's such a good film.

i knew this would be about the Butterfly effect.
I made DH stop it too after about 7mins.
I don't care if it all turns out all right in the end, I can't bear to watch such awful things.
I couldn't watch Syriana after the boy died in the swimming pool and I want DH to watch Blood Diamond without me because of what you lot said on here about it

presume none of you liked hard candy either?

I happily watched Blood Diamond because the violence is 'real' and makes a very strong point - it's glorified/unnecessary violence like sexual assault and horror I can't bear.

I love Schindlers List even though it's at points unbearable to watch

do any of you have the same reaction to sickly sweet overly romantisised scenes though? personally i have to switch off things like Lassie as i can't bear the ott niceness.

I don't like that sort of stuff particularly - but I'd still prefer that to watching scenes of child abuse. However much the film makers justify it, and however much someone feels they want to realise the full horror, child abuse packaged as entertainment sticks in my craw.

I was abused as a child so I am some way towards realising the full horror. And because of that I find it hard to see why people want to watch it in the name of entertainment.

WWB- am sorry to hear that.

i would rather raise my family in an atmosphere where the truth about war, rape and violence is acknowledged rather than pretend such things don't exist because they aren't nice to see. yes i advocate parental controls but as an adult i think that in terms of telling a story to make an important moral point is more important than only using the pretty bits of human experience. take the film alive for example- tells a horrifying story without gloryfying the canibalism, and in a responsible way.

Do you not think, though, that there is a difference between acknowledging that these things happen, and seeing them as a valid form of entertainment?

I am perfectly happy to talk about these things, raise awareness of them, discuss them in my home. But seeing them in all their gory detail, dressed up as entertainment and often intended to give a cheap thrill, does not appeal to me in the slightest.

WWB
it depends on the film and the context for me.
i find anything where children are hurt or scared very difficult but not especially sexual abuse even though I too was abused.

I think in the right context it can be relevent and appropriate.
Still the butterfly effect was shite so probably not the right thread to discuss context

a film can portray emotion and someones perspective in a way that a report with bare facts cannot- it can show more of what it is like in someone elses shoes, their motives, but it needs to be a well charactered story. noone ever learned about prostitution from pretty woman, or being a nun from the sound of music- the characters were totally removed from what their setting would have been like. But you can see why Brad Pitt' character was moved to violence at the end of se7en as you are shown why. it is all dependant on the tallent of the storyteller.

have you any more examples of what you are finding unacceptable?

off topic I know, but I find it far worse in soaps or whatever, when the adult characters are shouting or chasing about and there is a baby or child in the scene that is genuinely upset and distressed. God knows how the parents of these child actors (who I presume are the in wings watching the action) can deal with that.

Do any of you read, or have you read, those books by David Peltzer or those awful 'mummy please make it stop' books.

Much much much worse IMO

beanie - I agree totally. The publishers of that crap should be heartily ashamed of themselves. It's almost a version of porn imo.