Hands up if you find Mother's Day hard

[willsurvivethis]

I do

The only thing that makes it easier is that I no longer feel as bad a mum as I did last year..

My mum died 12 years ago. In the past year I have learned that she 'did not meet my emotional needs' when I was a toddler and she did not spot or stop the abuse i suffered later. But she was my mum and she's gone.

And last summer by lovely MIL died. My poor dh is a minister and will have to do the usual cheery Mothering Sunday stuff in church...

Yes Riven I think you should - after all your life is so easy and you have nothing else on your mind....

I do

• Mum still alive, but isn't well, so it makes it hard for me to admit my youth/early days. and I am still not a mum

Have to go to church too, and be all smiley when children give out daffodils, cos dh on deacon duty (so can't not go!)

Pillow sounds good idea!

My dd is away to her dads this weekend. Unless i buy my own card and gift (which i dont see a point in) i will get nothing. Ill just sit at home on my own and probably just listen to my twins heartbeats. Always seems to cheer me up.

I hate it too.

MIL rang to thank DH for the flowers and I couldn't even bare to hear her voice.

My mother gave me away as her boyfriend didn't want me.

DH has bought me the most gorgeous bunch of flowers though .

I hate it
I want to hide in my room all day and not come out but I cant, I have to put a big smile on my face and let my kids think I'm having a good day.

I dont want to be like my mum was, I dont want my kids to feel like I did every year on this day and they dont but I cant help feeling I'm letting them down by not being the cheery happy mum they should have.

The messages that are going round facebook and bebo are really triggering me, I want to reply to them no I didnt have a good mum, infact saying I had a bad mum is still too good a word for her but I cant go back and change it I just have to get on with it.

My pet hate is all the 'treat the special person in your life, your mum' I think ooooh boy you wouldn't say that if you'd ever met her!!!

I find it easier to ignore it actually, dd and dh are loving enough on a normal day, I don't feel that I need cards / flowers one day a year to make up for anything, iykwim.

The sentiment makes me feel queasy, none of those card-shop emotions are ones that I associate with my mother...How about...

"Feel the shame of your inadequacy as a daughter this mothers day"

"Mum you are always there to crush any feelings of self worth I may have"

Sorry, I am still bitter...

Nemo i think you have uncoverd a new market for cards. Bet those would sell out before all the slushy ones do lol

I hate it too. My Mum walked out the day after mothers day a long time ago and I hate the day - but have got through it again, my 3dcs had a nice time and didn't realise how hard I found it.

As long as I never turn into her (and there's scant chance of that) I'll be a good mum to my kids.

I'm glad I don't speak to her and don't have to acknowledge the day - am more than happy to do so with my lovely stepmum and great MIL.

I do too and with no good reasons really. Failed to manage discreet crying in church, so probably everybody saw that I'm a complete fruitcake.

I have two lovely DSs and DH did manage to organise a present, even if he wouldn't get up with the baby and sprung a pointless, day destroying trip to Ikea on me at no notice. So it's pretty bloody silly of me to be upset. Day just makes me feel like not a proper mother and not a proper woman.

Ikea, mrsgboring? That's harsh...

Do not worry we are all complete fruitcakes here.

I am off to flog my Anti-Mothers Day cards on the stately homes thread...