A really stupid sounding problem but absolutely terrified of seeing my HV next week

[mummytosteven]

Had a lot of problems with my old HV - a real old dragon - told me when to put steven into his own room, when to wean him etc, and she was very critical - told me I wasn't an instinctive mother, told me I was lifting him off his playmat wrong etc. I got her down to brief monthly visits till the end of weaning, then she moved to another six months ago, and my new HV didn't get in touch with me - until today, wanting to do a home visit. I said no, I would bring s to clinic next week (next Monday)

i am bricking it now, feeling quite churned up about seeing the HV on Monday, as I am scared of more unwanted interference/criticism, and being forced into agreeing some more regular home visits.

could someone please tell me how to pull myself together, and just forget about it till Monday please!

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MTS, only just seen your thread, but i wanted to add that I'm glad the new HV seems nice. There are 2 at my clinic, one is really lovely, but she just agrees with everything and nods her head all the time and doesn't really give any guidance, which I sometimes need as I don't know anything about babies! The other is really quite unpleasant and hasn't let me into her good books since i messed up her stats by delaying DS initial immunisations. Because of that, I just don't ever go to the clinic unless I need to ask them something! It sounds like you're doing really well with the OCD / depression and if you're 95% better then you've come along way and you're nearly there! Don't know the point of this post really, but you have always been really helpful to me when I've needed advice so I just thought I'd let you know that you've got lots of support on here when you need it. But I'm sure you know that already!