Anyone else struggling with regret despite doing reasonably well after childhood trauma and ACEs?

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I have 7 adverse childhood experiences (ACEs). In spite of this I went to uni and got a reasonably ok job. But a lack of confidence has held me back throughout my life. I think I have ASD and ADHD as well. I think my parents did as well which is why my upbringing was so bad. Sometimes I feel that I am doing well, I have a job and family and am doing ‘ok’. Other times I have so much regret for missed opportunities and not fulfilling my potential. In spite of bad background I have a high IQ, went to a top uni and was identified gifted and talented at school. I tried therapy but it wasn’t that helpful and I can’t really afford it. Just wondering if there are others like me?

What’s your personal life like though? You tell us your career are you happy in your relationship? Children ? Friends?

I have a husband and kids. Family life ok. I feel I’ve missed out a bit at work due to lack confidence. I have trouble with exec functions like driving and keeping a clean home.

If you think you has ASD and ADHD… it might be an idea to explore that further for your own understanding (and possibly meds)

when you say “family life is ok”… can you elaborate? Happy?

Severe childhood trauma can of course present like ADHD and ASD.

I feel similarly to you. I am sure I should have done much better in life but trauma has led to me having a complete lack of self belief.
I do however find therapy useful - but I started after having a complete mental breakdown so have very specialised trauma therapy.