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Struggling with my eight-year-old’s behaviour and feeling at breaking point

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Bigworldsmallgirl · 13/08/2026 15:38

Hey I didn’t know where to put this but in simple terms I’m losing my mind here !
my 8 year olds behaviour is driving me insane . She makes me cry every single day. I’ve been told it’s possible PDA but it feels like she literally has it in for me like I’m being bullied . She’ll keep at me and keep going until I go mad and shout and scream which results in me sitting up feeling guilty or her carrying on until I’m sobbing . I never use to be like this but she is ruining the family . Every morning she wakes up angry . I’ve tried all the books I’ve tried to change my approach to asking in the ‘pda way’ it makes no difference . All day is you’re an idiot , you stupid fat liar . She’s no better with my family I take her to my mums and she is the same there . Like I thought things would’ve got easier as she got older it’s getting worse and it’s getting me down . I just don’t want to be here anymore when this is all life is . All I wanted was to be a mum and now my child is breaking me . I’m sick of all the people saying imagine how she must be feeling . Well she is sat laughing at me every time like I’m a joke . She is definitely not being deprived . I give her all my time , I buy her stuff , we do days out . I just don’t get where things are going wrong .

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TrunkElliot · 13/08/2026 23:43

Have you sought professional help?
How is she in school?

BibbityBoppityTwo · 13/08/2026 23:44

This is just awful. My daughter went through a period of being like this and I felt the same. It doesn’t matter if it’s a child — being abused all day every day has a terrible impact on your mental health and is not sustainable. I went to the GP about my daughter and she was found to be very low in iron. Correcting this made a bigger difference than I would have imagined. I also will be kind and understanding with many things but I will not under any circumstances put up with being abused. If she gets into name calling or anything like that she immediately loses privileges. It’s not the way I typically like to parent, but it’s the only thing she understands when she gets into those headspaces.

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