Hi, not sure how to phrase this really, but I'm having and have had issues with obsessive (sexual, romantic, infatuated) thoughts about a person, it's really taking over and I know it's down to my low confidence, self esteem etc, possibly depression that I've had in the past coming back again, but although the common sense part of me can see that and understands its all down to that and it's not real, I just seem to impulsively keep going back. It's further complicated as he feels the same way and I'm married. We work together, so I can't avoid him, although I've tried and do as much as I can.
So I just think I need to talk it over with someone and try to find a way of stopping self returning to thoughts of him again and again..just not sure if something like CBT would work.