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Anyone awake? DH not home and I am sick with worry

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PanickingAndShaking · 29/11/2006 01:21

He called me from work at 9:30 to say he had to go deliver these documents he and some colleagues had been working on all day. ANd I havent heard from him since. He said he was sorry he was running so late and would pick up some wine on the way home. I have been ringing his mobile for the last 2 hours but it just rings. I feel nauseous with worry. 5 month old baby asleep. My mind is playing games with me now - have a "feeling" something has happened. The colleagues were female, so now am imagining him either having an affair with one, or something has happened to him en route home!!!
At one point when I tried calling it went to answer phone, so I assumed he was on the underground on his way home.
SICK SICK SICK with worry.... what can I do??????

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sandcastles · 29/11/2006 01:37

Hi, I'm around for awhile.

Any news?

abitmessedup · 29/11/2006 01:39

Oh poor you {HUG}

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PanickingAndShaking · 29/11/2006 01:45

no
I now know what the term "blind panic" means I am realyy battlign to think straight and don't want to be over reacting.
We had a masive row over the weekend, and spoke a bit on Monday, were planning to talk about it tonight. Now I cant help but wonder if he has gone off with someone because he is sick of this relationship! The only other explanation I can think of, is that he and i have a small office we hire and he may have gone there if it was too late and he was worried about waking the baby but SURELY he would have called or texted first?!?!?
I dont know wether to try and sleep, or what.
He is the kind of guy that if there is trouble will get involved - not to partake, but to try and sort it out, so I am also madly thinking maybe something happened to him when he came out the underground.........
What should I do???????????????????????

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PanickingAndShaking · 29/11/2006 01:51

and to add insult to injury, I have no milk!
Cant make a cup of warm milk or tea to calm me.
cant walk to the all night shop either cos I cant leave the baby.
aaaaaaaaarghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

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abitmessedup · 29/11/2006 01:52

Don't know what to advise really. Can you call London Underground to check there are no trains stuck in tunnels etc and that there wasn't an incident at the station he got off? Is there a friend he may have gone to that you could call?

I'm sure you've thought of all this. I'm sorry.

sandcastles · 29/11/2006 01:53

Ok, try & call the last person he was with.
Call the hopsitals & police. If for nothing more than to put your mind at rest.

I know you can't report him missing, but they should be able to tell you if they have had any incidents reported involving some one with his description.

prettymum · 29/11/2006 01:54

oh no!! try and relax (i know its hard) {{{{hugs}}}}}

fortyplus · 29/11/2006 01:54

This happened to a friend of mine - her husband was stuck on a broken down tube train & didn't get home till 2 in the morning.
He'll probably be home soon REALLY pissed off at whatever has happened that meant he couldn't contact you.

Of course you are worried, but he won't be off shagging someone - people who have affairs are much more devious.

There will be a simple explanation and he'll probably feel terrible that he's putting you through so much worry.

I'm off to bed in a min, but why not go to bed yourself and read a book or something - with a bit of luck you'll fall asleep & be woken up by him coming in.

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PanickingAndShaking · 29/11/2006 01:54

i dont know the people he was with.

Too scared to call the police!
Also feel like a neurotic housewife.
Am I being neurotic?

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PanickingAndShaking · 29/11/2006 01:55

thank you, fortyplus.
The trouble is, his phone is ringing, so wherever he is he does have a signal!

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sandcastles · 29/11/2006 01:56

Has there been any reported problems with transport? Check the net for this & ceefax also.

Does the office you rent have phone? Call there if so.

fortyplus · 29/11/2006 01:56

Presume he'd have some sort of ID on him? If something awful had happened you'd have had a knock at the door by now.

No... there'll be a straightforward explanation.

sandcastles · 29/11/2006 01:58

His phone ringing won't always mean he has a signal. Dh phone used to ring off signal too, before it clicked into his voicemail.

The police thing, I usually fnd comfort in the fact that if there WAS something to be worried about, they would have been in touch.

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PanickingAndShaking · 29/11/2006 01:58

he doesnt carry ID, but they would have found the "home" number I guess, thank you for that, feel a bit calmer now.

The guy we share the office with today took the phone off the hook, and I reminded him to put it backwhen he left but I dont think he did cos it just rings (normally goes to answer phone)

sob!

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mamama · 29/11/2006 02:01

I don't think you're being neurotic, just worried. I'd be the same.

I'm sure he'll be back safely soon (& hopefully with some milk).

Can you call London Underground or the local police to see if they know of anything?

fortyplus · 29/11/2006 02:08

OK - the police must be really used to this sort of thing. Why not look up the number either for your local police station or the one nearest his office?They won't think you're neurotic - anyone would feel concerned under these circumstances. Just ask them what they would advise - stress that it's out of character and he'd told that he was just leaving to deliver some documents at 9.30.
Maybe he has been held up and has left his mobile somewhere. xx

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PanickingAndShaking · 29/11/2006 02:15

arrrrgh
YOU WERE RIGHT FOURTY SOMETHING!
He just picked up my call, saying he is on way home now. His boss took them all to a bar to celebrate the end of this project, and because they dont have to go to work tomorrow they have been drinking!
I am so glad he is OK, but now I am furious that he didn't even think to call me......
I ended up hanging up on him because he was still with his boss, and I didnt want them to all know how much I have been panicking! He probably wont come home now!

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fortyplus · 29/11/2006 02:19

HOORAY!!!
What a twit he is not to phone! Don't get angry - much better to be quiet & hurt-looking, then he'll feel so guilty he'll make it up to you. Have a good night's sleep now

Chandra · 29/11/2006 02:19

Good to hear he is OK.

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PanickingAndShaking · 29/11/2006 02:20

thanks
I guess I was being neurotic.

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mamama · 29/11/2006 02:29

Phew! What a relief. Can't believe he didn't phone earlier but am glad he's safe. Make sure he brings some milk home

Go and get some sleep!

sandcastles · 29/11/2006 02:50

That's a relief, but he should have called. Men don't think tho!

Hope you can get off to bed now!!

fortyplus · 29/11/2006 09:18

What did he have to say for himself?!

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PanickingAndShaking · 29/11/2006 10:14

errrrrrm,
his boss suggested they have adrink after delivering the documents which ended up being several drinks and he didn't want to call "incase" he woke me or the baby
He did feel bad though as he should.
Also ended up sleeping on the couch because he was so drunk he thought he was going to throw up!!
Thanks for calming me last night, men dont think like women at all do they!?!?!?

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ssd · 29/11/2006 10:16

no!