Mental health advice for a friend who has just failed 4th and final IVF

[kanna]

My best friend, is deeply private. She has not shared with her family her obsession with having a baby. She is single, successful, exceptionally bright, and has spent a fortune on IVF over the last 2 years. At 45 her odds were slim and she has just failed her 4th attempt. She has only shared this with me not her family as I have had IVF and one occasion - her first attempt - she was seriously ill and I rang well she was in hospital. I'm now worried about her mental health and want to help. Can I speak to her GP, or the Lister, or find someone for her to speak to who can break through her barrier. She is incredibly depressed tonight as it seems all her attempts to have a baby have failed. I'm really worried about her mental health and the fact she is on her own. Mumsnet has always helped me with my children but I know this is something very different. Any advice with be so helpful

Most fertility clinics, especially those that have private facilities have counsellors attached to them which she could use. Often they offer some free sessions as well. If any use.

I think many people struggle in the aftermath of failed Ivf, I know I did, so worth seeking private specialist counselling for infertility if an option.

I have no idea if you can speak to people on her behalf. If she can be encouraged to seek help from her gp that would be helpful. But worth talking to her before you intervene as if she is considering adoption and people raise concerns about her mental health tat may be an issue. Obviously if her life is at risk you can contact emergency services on her behalf.

Maybe she can find some comfort at gateway-women.com.