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What to prioritise - ttc, planning wedding or house

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Lili24188 · 27/09/2024 11:58

Hi, I’m a bit confused so looking for some opinions please. I found out a year and a half ago that I have low amh (low egg reserve) and despite trying to convince my partner to start having kids he always found a reason to stall. We’re now 30 and got engaged recently. He would prefer we married before having kids but he wants the sort of wedding that takes a year or two to plan to get the right venue, make sure everyone can come etc. on the one hand I get how being married first would be easier but I’m also stressed about the amh and my parents being 70 and getting older. They are very much wanting grandchildren. We bought a house that needs doing up but is liveable. I’d love to do an extension on the house and sort it out. Fortunately we are ok on the money side to fund what we want to do on the house.

I know these are 3 big things so what do you think? I work full time now but would move to part time after maternity leave. Thanks

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Bobbybobbins · 27/09/2024 13:24

I would try for baby first but be really sure your DP is onboard.

BananaPalm · 27/09/2024 13:29

MidnightPatrol · 27/09/2024 11:59

If I had a low egg reserve, I’d be having the baby first.

The house can be renovated at any time.

Absolutely this!!!

ErrolTheDragon · 27/09/2024 15:01

A big wedding is by far the least important aspect of a marriage.

Does he want a family, or just a big family party more?

PolaroidPrincess · 28/09/2024 09:24

Having TTC for a few years in my 30 without any diagnosed fertility issues I'd TTC now but it does sound as though your DP doesn't want the same things that you do?

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