To cut a long story short, ds is at a selective academic prep school and until this year I had been extremely happy with it. This year neither ds or myself have been able to get on with or communicate successfully with ds's form tutor or the headmistress. We have also known for a while that ds has problems with concentration, he finds it hard to stay on task and often seems distracted in class, along with some co-ordination difficulties and v weak hands this effects his work. At the beginning of the his new teacher told him that he couldn't use his yuoro pencil which he had always used and despite much talking I couldn't get the teachers to change their mind. Anyway recently we were called in to talk to head who told us not unreasonably that these difficulties were getting in the way of his education. We agreed that we would find an educational psychologist to prepare a report etc. We had school prepare feedback for them which they sent directly to EP. Well we had meeting with EP yesterday and it was very interesting although we haven't had the full report back yet. But EP thought we should see what the school had written about him, most of it was stuff we had discussed with them in the past concentration etc. But some of it was not relevant to his educational needs at at all. He is too thin for his height and age, his arms hang loosely by his side and he looks gormless and his fingernails look dirty and he looks unkempt ( he's an 8 year old boy, lots of them look a little unkempt.) Anyway the EP thought this sounded judgemental and vindictive and I just feel so sad that they felt the need to write such horrible things. I can't imagine what they were thinking really as it only makes them look mean minded. The only silver lining it new form teacher next year and also new headmistress starting,so slightly fresh start. What would you do feel so sad? Also he felt it was very wrong of them to make his change his pencil and will include pencil requirements in his report.