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Son, GCSEs, nervous breakdown incoming

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DungareesTrombonesDinos · 23/08/2026 14:13

My 16 year old has struggled throughout his education journey so far and this resulted in him getting a grade 2 English Language GCSE and a U in Maths on Thursday. We are still really proud of him as at one point we thought he wouldn't actually sit any GCSEs. Hes been at a PRU and they were amazing for building relationships with him but not so good at the education side. Hes come away with an encyclopedia of AQA units like making fish fingers sandwiches (no im not lying) but Colleges wont accept 200 certificates.

He has an EHCP (dyslexia, dyspraxia, ADHD, Irlen and I suspect dysalculia) and we originally put down for a multi skills trade course so he could have a taster as he he 0 idea of what he wants to do. College put him in for a level 2 bricklaying course and he hasn't got the grades - he needs 2 grade 2s.

College have essentially said its tough luck and he can do art (no interest), sport (no interest) or some random sounding course with no qualifications. They've said they wont just let uim retake GCSEs, hes got to be on a course. Ive put him down for the waitlist for multi skills - might be December or never.

Has anyone been in a similar situation and come through it with a plan??? I honestly thought we were done trying to work out a plan for him and I am so stressed Im not sleeping. He appears to not give a shiny fuck but I know his self esteem will be even more ruined when his mates start College in September and he doesnt....

Sorry for the essay and thank you for any words of wisdom.

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whatwouldlilacerullodo · 27/08/2026 14:27

Talkingfrog · 27/08/2026 00:48

If he has dyscalculia, and hasn't been able to pass gcse maths, how would he manage to take pure maths?
I thought to take programming and economics also required a good maths grade.

Some people with adhd prefer a job that is more practical than a desk job. They are moving more often.

Don't forget adhd, dyslexia and I assume dyscalculia can impact people in different ways. They are not linked to intelligence levels, so people with the conditions will all have different intelligence levels, in the same way that those without the conditions will.

Sounds tk me that OP's son maybe didn't get the right support/teaching for his needs. Multi trades nay be exactly the right thing for him because he can learn some practical skills, instead of having to demonstrate his ability in a written exam. Skills he would learn could lead him into a career that suits him.

Some people are bad at exams, even if they are good at the topic/discipline. I was trying to offer a different perspective, and obviously the OP's DS need a pathway that doesn't involve lots of exams and tests.

There are practical things that are not trades. But in any case, since OP didn't reply to my posts, I assume my suggestion is not useful in this case.

Talkingfrog · 27/08/2026 20:01

whatwouldlilacerullodo · 27/08/2026 14:27

Some people are bad at exams, even if they are good at the topic/discipline. I was trying to offer a different perspective, and obviously the OP's DS need a pathway that doesn't involve lots of exams and tests.

There are practical things that are not trades. But in any case, since OP didn't reply to my posts, I assume my suggestion is not useful in this case.

I agree that exams aren't always the best way of assessing.

People can understand but forget things under the pressure of an exam.

There are practical things that aren't trades, but trades may have been what her son was wanting to do anyway.

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