Donor child looking like the mother or sibling?

[AAK1980]

Hi
We are about to start on an egg donation journey. We have a 5 year old through natural conception with no issues conceiving, but am now 43 and have an extremely low egg reserve and after 3 years of trying we have resulted that this is the best route.

I have a massive worry (which I am sure is natural) about the child not looking like me (my son is my spitting image) but also that the child wont look like my son either. We have asked for my characteristics in the donation process, but that doesn't mean anything.

Am I right to have these feelings? Can anyone share their experiences with having a natural child followed by a donor child - do they look like the sibling? Do they look like both parents?

Sorry for the ramble!!

Hi did you end up going down the donor route? I am in the same situation, dd conceived 5 years ago naturally, now 3 years ttc 2 failed ivfs as my egg quality is rubbish and extremely low AMH. I have all these worries about donor eggs too xx