Ex has teenage daughter 2 or 3 set nights a week. He does shift work so sometimes home 8pm but some nights (2 this week) not until 10pm. She caught the bus to his, cooked herself dinner and basically just sits there alone until bedtime, to see him for possibly 1 hrs before school in the morning. I've made it clear to him that I am happy to swap any days that his shifts mean he won't be around (i work school hours and he has his rota months in advance). I have also told her she doesn't have to go on these nights if this situation makes her uncomfortable. She says she's ok with it but isnt the type of child to speak up and make a fuss and he's very controlling and overbearing. Am I overreacting to be upset by the thought of her in this situation ? This is a new arrangement as his house was closer before and she would always come to me from school for a few hours first. She's 14.