How to prove I was the main carer?

[BookArt55]

I've been to court for the final hearing... only for it to be postponed and to go back again soon. The judge has decided they want to hear evidence from me and dad. One of the points the judge wondered was who was the main carer while we all lived together.

There was domestic abuse, I did the majority for the children. Dad is saying the exact same.

How is best to prove I was the main carer? Any advice?

So far it have thought about:
-statements from the kid's clubs saying I've always taken them, he doesn't attend
-statements from nursery/school saying i have all communication and pick up/drop off
-going to see if I have phone records showing all calls to medical arrangements appts etc because the kids have a lot

Is there anything else I can do to support my case that I was the main carer? He really didn't do alot, never did a party or playdate, then day to day it was very much the bare minimum. He rarely made food for our daughter with allergies, it was all on me. Struggling to see how I can prove the day to day pattern!

@rosemarble cafcass officer was questioned at the latest court date, stuck with everything she said, said good things about me, not good things about him. At the end the judge asked 'if dad had been the main carer would your recommendations have changed'. Only question cafcass was flustered on and said probably a bit more time... and here we are.

The lies are wild. The photos dad submitted to court were all photos I had taken, and any event was one that I had planned or was with my family... so the camera roll comment is good! Thank you!

Weekly routine is best. Work hours for you and your routine around school and nursery.m delivery and collection. Plus everything else for dc such as meals, reading, clubs and ferrying around. Weekend activities and all related dc activities such as medical appointments and seeing their friends. All other social arrangements for them and school parents evenings etc. Add those in. Are you main school contact if there’s an accident? Who sees the teacher if there’s a need? Are you named contact for anything else?