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SEX...come on guys-how often do you expect/get it?

102 replies

MusicLover · 26/09/2006 13:35

Sorry to invade the mens room, but think I need advise from a male point of view, & women if they want to add....

We average 2/3 times a week, but that doesn't seem to be enough for my dh. He doesnt say so-he's just moody about it, which infuriates me.
Although we have a great sex life, sometimes I just feel pressured which ends up putting me off. To be honest I dont think any guys will understand this but Im sure plenty of women will.

He sends me texts throughout the day-asking if Im up for it? Just recently I told him Id prefer it if he were more spontanious & wished he let me initiate it sometimes. It worked well for a while, but like most women I know I could go a week without sex & not be too bothered, but my dh is. He watches porn on the pc but only when Im at work in the evening. It bothered me at first, but I just sort of got used to it & put it to the back of my mind, & admit to watching it on my own too.
He was away last week for few days & the first thing on his mind is sex! We had sex on that night, then 2 nights later (which I initiated), then the following night he send me a video on my mobile phone of his willy with the message saying "do you want some of this sexy" I acnowledged it as a laugh because I really wasnt in the mood for it, but he spent the rest of the night with a face on him.
So Im feeling rather tedious & pressured about the whole "sex thing" now.

But to be honest we are a really loving couple who have been together for few yrs with 2 kids aged 9 & 3. We are very kissy, touchy, feely people.

Am I overreacting or is he asking to much of me.

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desperateSCOUSEwife · 27/09/2006 12:04

my dh works nights

if he worked days the poor sod
would have his bones jumped constantly

desperateSCOUSEwife · 27/09/2006 12:07

my dh suffers from sweaty arse syndrome in the morning
so no way
thought all men suffered with that

cd i call it seth breath after seth= emmerdale= manure=shit

TambaTheDragonSlayer · 27/09/2006 12:08

sweaty arse syndrome??? Whats that!

expatinscotland · 27/09/2006 12:08

no, not all men have sweaty arse by a long shot.

my DH is one of the most un-sweaty people i've met.

desperateSCOUSEwife · 27/09/2006 12:10

it was a joke btw

I wouldnt know as I would NEVER go near it LOL

TambaTheDragonSlayer · 27/09/2006 12:11

Do you think having such a high sex drive is really abnormal? Sounds dumb but I was thinking about it the other day

expatinscotland · 27/09/2006 12:23

Even at my peak, I didn't want it that much, Tamba.

But it's different for everyone.

If you feel that's what works for you, great!

sandyballs · 27/09/2006 12:54

Blimey, reading this makes me think I need some libido pills

BROWNY · 27/09/2006 13:03

Same here sandyballs! Think we could do with a "has anyone any recommendations for lotions/potions to boost my libido" thread

kama · 27/09/2006 13:23

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auntymandy · 27/09/2006 13:26

I wish DH wanted more!!!
but maybe I am greedy!!!!

auntymandy · 27/09/2006 13:27

really embarrassed now as I see one of you netters knows me and will see that!! she will think I am a nympho!!!!

TambaTheDragonSlayer · 27/09/2006 13:30

I think its because its only over this last year that ive discoved good sex... and orgasms!!!!! (had nt had any before then!)

kama · 27/09/2006 13:32

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poppiesinaline · 27/09/2006 14:05

Tamba - you are putting us all to shame here. I kicked a RL friend the other day when she was saying in front of my DH that her DH and her had sex 3 times a week SHHHHHH don't tell him that

ewwww at sweating arses and morning breath You girls are not selling it to me.

poppiesinaline · 27/09/2006 14:06

Tamba , never had an orgasm before you DP no wonder you are making up for lost time

TambaTheDragonSlayer · 27/09/2006 14:08

Im 23 Kama.

I was starting to think there was something wrong with me

Flamesparrow · 27/09/2006 14:42

What contraceptive are you on Tamba?? When I was on cilest I was like that... broke DH He was walking funny for a few days!!!

When I am not tired, I could happily have several times a day, but I have just been exhausted for the last 2 years (wedding planning, pregnancy, newborn, non-sleeper) and my sex drive has been beaten down by my need for sleep

I would also easily swap tidy house for sex... Instead I swap tidy house for books!!

After pub sex... the smell of alcohol seems to do something strange to me . He tends to refuse to go to pubs with me now...

TambaTheDragonSlayer · 27/09/2006 14:54

I love the smell of alcohol on a mans breath!

Im on Yasmin (the pill)

And omg one particular brand of aftershave.... mmmmmmmm cant resisit it

Flamesparrow · 27/09/2006 14:57

Yasmin's a pretty name for a pill!!! (Yes, I'm odd)

Glad I'm not the only one liking alcohol...

Oooh, and Cerrutti Image aftershave - which DH gets annoyed with because his ex chose it for him and he wants to change it, but I like it too much . To my mind, he's put up with it for 7 years now (been wanting to change it that long, probably worn it for about 10), so he can cope a bit longer til I find a better one

expatinscotland · 27/09/2006 15:19

I like that boozy smell, too.

A bit too much, I'm afraid, if my past is any indicator .

Flamesparrow · 27/09/2006 20:52

DH is in the pub now....

Flamesparrow · 27/09/2006 20:53

DH is in the pub now....

expatinscotland · 27/09/2006 20:54

i'd SO jump him when he came in, flame.

i swear, i'm a sucker - no pun intended - for the post-pub knee trembler.

alexsmum · 27/09/2006 21:02

tamba-how do you have sex 3 times a day when you have children?