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DD has covid, I have to go to work.

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Tangletester · 29/11/2021 16:21

We received DD’s pcr results this morning and she’s positive, she’s 17. She has very mild symptoms and is self isolating in her room. Up until last night I spent all weekend with her, we ate together, she was in my car, we spend a lot of time together.

I work in a nursery and work Tuesdays, Thursdays and Fridays. I phoned the manager to ask if I should come in, she said ‘of course you should’. I know there is no legal requirement for me to self isolate as I’m double jabbed, but I feel I will be putting a lot of people at risk. Finding cover for me wouldn’t be difficult.

I am off for a pcr test shortly.

I’m just wondering what others have experienced with work really.

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HaveANiceFuckingDay · 29/11/2021 16:28

I'm positive, my DH positive but the school have told us unless our daughter is showing symptoms then she can go in . So its the same thing I suppose.
My friends son has just tested positive they've told her to give him back to his dad !! ( shared custody) .. shes waiting on a PCR as this all happened today.
My workplace told me unless I show symptoms I've got to go in ( daughter close contact a few months back and showed symptoms )

whereisthekey · 29/11/2021 16:31

I've managed several staff members now who have lived with someone with covid and it hasn't passed onto them. just keep testing daily with the legal flows and keep her separate in her room , being extra careful with shared bathroom facilities.

whereisthekey · 29/11/2021 16:31

lateral..*

Whywhywhy48 · 29/11/2021 16:42

My husband did a LFT last Tuesday as he wasn't feeling well. It was positive. We booked a PCR test on Wednesday for us all. My husbands was positive. Me and my daughter Negative. His isolation runs out this Friday. I did a lateral flow this morning as I was going to the shops and it was positive. Been for a PCR test at lunch time which is probably positive. Now wondering should I send daughter to school tomorrow 🤔

HelplesslyHoping · 29/11/2021 17:00

I'd be isolating with her, your manager sounds ignorant to think you're safe to go in.

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Tangletester · 29/11/2021 17:00

It’s interesting to see how different employers deal with this. My DH has been told not to go to work even if his PCR is negative, but he is able to work from home for part of his role. My DS went to college today and his tutor has told him he really should have stayed home.

I might avoid catching it, I might not, I’m happy to go to work and be paid, but I’d rather not be putting others at risk tomorrow.

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PinkSparklyPussyCat · 29/11/2021 17:55

If DH gets it I won't be comfortable going into the office as I'd worry about spreading it. We won't be isolating from each other so it seems risky to me.

DSGR · 29/11/2021 17:57

The official advice from the government is to carry on if your own PCR test is negative. Your workplace and the schools are just following the official line

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 29/11/2021 18:00

I'm going to push to work from home if DH is positive. I'm going to be sharing the same bedroom, bathroom etc so surely it's too big a risk?

HeatonGrove · 29/11/2021 18:01

Are you offering to take the time off as unpaid leave or holiday or are you expecting to be paid?

If the former and it is easy to arrange cover then I think your employer is being unreasonable. But if you are expecting them to pay you for staying at home and to pay a replacement I can see why they woukd not want that.

At the end of the day they are following the government rules.

JSL52 · 29/11/2021 18:07

@HelplesslyHoping

I'd be isolating with her, your manager sounds ignorant to think you're safe to go in.
You're allowed to go to work if someone in your household is positive
SymbollocksInteractionism · 29/11/2021 18:14

If your PCR is negative you should isolate.
PCR negative- lateral flow test to be done every day for 10 days, image of PCR sent to manager and recorded in portal.
If you get any symptoms or positive LF, PCR test again.

In the meantime your daughter should isolate as much as possible away from the rest of the household (which should be easy enough at 17)

Whataday21 · 29/11/2021 18:16

Dd had it and I had to go to work. I didn't catch it. Thems the rules.

ittakes2 · 29/11/2021 18:17

I don't get why if you knew she had symptoms to the point she took a PCR test just why you would spend al that time with her? It would have made more sense to stay away from her...

SymbollocksInteractionism · 29/11/2021 18:18

And depending on how quick the turnaround of PCR tests in your area, I would wait until tomorrow to get a PCR test (to allow you to go back to work on Thursday) as you will then be testing about 48hours after your daughter so more likely to pick up infection if you have it.

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Tangletester · 29/11/2021 18:24

@DSGR that’s why I’m a bit torn on this, I know that’s the advice, but I still feel i might be putting other staff members and the families of the children at risk. Also I might not have the results of my pcr test by tomorrow morning, but I still have to go in.

@HeatonGrove it would be unpaid. If I don’t go in for any reason I don’t get paid. No sick pay. Cover is easy to arrange.

My LFT is negative and I have no symptoms so I feel it’s unlikely that I have it so I will be going in.

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SymbollocksInteractionism · 29/11/2021 18:39

Do you not have to isolate until you get your PCR results?

We definitely do (in Scotland though so possibly different)

Bobholll · 29/11/2021 18:43

To be fair, I had covid & no-one in my household caught! I’ve had it twice & my DH hasn’t caught it either time! We’ve never isolated from each other. My kids never caught it either this time round.

Similar stories with two sets of neighbours, one had & no-one else did! It’s a strange illness.

Comefromaway · 29/11/2021 18:45

Ds (17) had Covid.

I was told to stay home by my office.

Dh who is a teacher was told to go to work but take a daily lateral flow.

Ds isolated in his room and we didn’t catch it.

Spottyphonecase24 · 29/11/2021 18:47

I think it’s a stupid rule. If anyone in your house has it then I feel the house should isolate.

Saying that my house had it (5) and I was the only one who didn’t catch it

Exhausteddog · 29/11/2021 18:49

DS had it a couple of weeks ago. We didn't isolate from each other although we didn't cosy up on the sofa or give hugs etc and no one else in the family got it. He had been in the car with me the day he had a positive test and he usually hugs me several times a day. We did pcrs on day 1 (DH as he had a cold at the same time) day 4 (me and DD) and day 9 (all of us) and lfts every other day. I wfh as much as I could but I did need to go in some of the time.

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 29/11/2021 18:59

The confusion lies in what is legal (at least in England) is nut necessarily what is safe.

lazylockdowner · 29/11/2021 19:01

Two of my children have covid dd17 & dd14, one now out of isolation and other due out on Wednesday, the other 3 people in our household haven't caught it (2 of us double jabbed, other 7 year old)

The rest of us have continued to go to school/work etc... I work in a school and have still gone in

DramaLlllama · 29/11/2021 19:23

My employer (NHS) put me on medical isolation when DD tested positive. I could work from home though, so did. I did not isolate from DD (who is 8), and snuggled on the sofa and did everything I normally would with her. I didn’t catch it.

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Tangletester · 29/11/2021 19:45

@IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads yes, that’s exactly how I feel.

@lazylockdowner that’s helpful, thank you. I guess if everyone who had someone at hone with covid self isolated schools, pre schools and nurseries would really struggle.

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