Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Covid

Mumsnet doesn't verify the qualifications of users. If you have medical concerns, please consult a healthcare professional.

Original poster

How strict are you social distancing with family?

108 replies

Justwantacuddle · 11/06/2020 07:56

Name changed. Hard hat donned. Truthfully, how strict are you personally being at not giving select few, closest family a cuddle? Letting them hold your baby? I haven't broken any rules, but I'm struggling to keep that up with my nearest and dearest.

OP posts:
hermyweasley · 11/06/2020 07:58

I have started to let my mum cuddle my 2 and a half year old and 12 week old for the first time this week. I went to their house and we stayed in the garden as it was sunny.

They haven't been going out, just once a week for food, and same here. We've both been going for daily walks too but live in places where we don't pass anyone else.

It was me being cautious for their sake before, but my mum was so desperate to see and hold the kids she deemed it worth any risk to her health.

WineLover1234 · 11/06/2020 07:59

I've had a cuddle with my 11 year old niece and 5 year old nephew. Couldn't do it any more I've been desperate.. We made sure to keep faces away from each other, but we had a lovely, what us Welsh call it, Cwtch! 😊 Xxxx

wksh182 · 11/06/2020 08:01

Following the rules properly, no cuddles or physical contact only seen people outside etc.

MeadowHay · 11/06/2020 08:01

We have been a 'bubble' with two other households the whole way through lockdown essentially. Three NHS workers as part of it and one other keyworker too. We are a very close family and had previously all lived together in one house on a few occasions although prior to toddler DD's existence hah. This was also for practical reasons as it involved childcare and car sharing to work. None of us are seeing anyone else without social distancing until the rules change but we have always seen ourselves as one family and if we wanted to we could have all moved into the biggest house. Didn't see what difference it made whether we actually did that or not as the social contact would be the same. Well, less if we didn't all live together I guess.

Original poster
Justwantacuddle · 11/06/2020 08:02

I have an infant son and it's just so hard to not pass him to his family. He reaches his arms out and it's just heartbreaking to say no when they're desperate and he's asking them. It's so so hard.

OP posts:
DamitJanet · 11/06/2020 08:02

Completely strict here, didn’t see them at all during ‘full’ lockdown. Have done a couple of socially distanced walks since things loosened up, but toddler in the buggy, always 2m apart etc

rosybell · 11/06/2020 08:03

Timely thread.. my parents are arranging a socially distanced picnic in their garden this Saturday. DH is v worried but I think it's ok so causing a bit of conflict. It is technically breaking lockdown rules but we have all been pretty careful (none of us going out to work etc)

My sisters are going too. Not sure what to do so interested to hear what others have been doing.

2anddone · 11/06/2020 08:07

Keeping our family and friends at a 2m distance and in the garden. Apart from my godchildren who I childmind for. I wear a uniform when I childmind and they (5 and 6) know if I am wearing that I am allowed cuddles!! I am a lone parent and so can have a family bubble this weekend. Shit is going to hit the fan as my godchildren's family are going in my bubble as their mum is my best friend (we are like sisters) my parents won't be happy but they live 20 miles away and only see us once a month when things are normal so don't want to waste my bubble when I can have someone in it that lives round the corner and gives me and my children so much more support!

EmmaJR1 · 11/06/2020 08:08

I've seen my mum and my sister with my niece and nephew and my 2 children. (All pre schoolers ) In the garden but not social distancing. We literally don't see anyone else other than in our households and shopping.

After 11 weeks it was too lonely and too upsetting to continue and we considered the risk one we were willing to take.

Weetam68 · 11/06/2020 08:09

Jesus Christ this makes North Korea look like paradise.

Whoever came with all these inhumane and tyrannical rules and regulations should be put up against a wall and shot.

We demand our country and freedom back from this criminal government.

IncrediblySadToo · 11/06/2020 08:11

@rosybell

Timely thread.. my parents are arranging a socially distanced picnic in their garden this Saturday. DH is v worried but I think it's ok so causing a bit of conflict. It is technically breaking lockdown rules but we have all been pretty careful (none of us going out to work etc)

My sisters are going too. Not sure what to do so interested to hear what others have been doing.

Why can't they just keep it to 6? That's the number the middling has shown should keep the transmission risk low (yes it's different in other places, but it depends on the number infected etc).
WingingIt101 · 11/06/2020 08:11

I cracked. I couldn't do it any more. I'm a first time mum who gave birth the day lockdown was announced. I didn't see anyone other than my husband for two weeks prior to this.

I needed a cuddle from my mum so I did it. I have also get her and my dad and my mil hold my baby once she had her immunisations.

Thinkpinkstink · 11/06/2020 08:14

Until lockdown was eased we played it by the rule book, only left the house once a day (max) for exercise, visited the shops maybe twice or three times in 10 weeks (when deliveries weren't possible).

After lockdown eased, but before DD went back to nursery, we met with my parents once in our house, not socially distanced. They'd upheld lockdown too, and we judged it safest to meet them before DD went back to nursery.

Now we're back to the rules, meeting in a small group, outside only and socially distanced.

NaturalBornWoman · 11/06/2020 08:16

@Weetam68

Jesus Christ this makes North Korea look like paradise.

Whoever came with all these inhumane and tyrannical rules and regulations should be put up against a wall and shot.

We demand our country and freedom back from this criminal government.

How would you have approached the situation, just let the virus rampage through the population?
Nquartz · 11/06/2020 08:18

We've seen family but only from.a distance, but we're lucky that DD is 8 & knows to keep away.

We've taken her best friend to the park twice in the last week, they are generally keeping at least 1 metre apart but the benefit of them running around outside for 2 hours outweighs the risks IMO. Neither of them go to school, haven't been in shops etc

wendz86 · 11/06/2020 08:18

I’ve only seen my parents once and we socially distanced .

BestOption · 11/06/2020 08:18

@Justwantacuddle

I have an infant son and it's just so hard to not pass him to his family. He reaches his arms out and it's just heartbreaking to say no when they're desperate and he's asking them. It's so so hard.
I've not broken the rules, I've chosen not to Meet up with DP & try to SD (we had to lock down separately) - I haven't seen him at all because I know I wouldn't be able to SD myself and he definitely wouldn't. Maybe that's a better option for you?

I presume you have a DP/DH or you'd be able to choose one person/family to bubble with.

Still, hopefully if people stick to the rules for now we can get the transmission rate and number of cases down so other things can be 'allowed'.

Small people are just too cuddly!!

Parky04 · 11/06/2020 08:19

Since the protests in the UK I no longer follow the rules as strictly as I have. Saw mum and sister in house on Tuesday. We were not 2 metres apart. Got friends coming to mine on Friday, as weather looks poor we will be inside and definitely no social distancing as I do not have the room. Really fed up of following the rules when others break them and are not even criticised for doing so!

apric0t · 11/06/2020 08:20

We were strict until the Cummings fiasco. Have seen my mum now twice. She's come over to spend the day with LO. She lives alone so minimal risk, and we were on holiday right before lockdown so she hadn't seen us since beginning of Feb. Feel a bit guilty but also don't really give a shit

golddustwomen · 11/06/2020 08:20

I saw my mom for the first time last Friday. We hugged and I let her hug my children.

Original poster
Justwantacuddle · 11/06/2020 08:21

I'm in Wales. We don't even have the option of a bubble here and knowing Drakeford we won't, atleast not anytime soon.

OP posts:
IncrediblySadToo · 11/06/2020 08:21

@Weetam68

Jesus Christ this makes North Korea look like paradise.

Whoever came with all these inhumane and tyrannical rules and regulations should be put up against a wall and shot.

We demand our country and freedom back from this criminal government.

You are relentless.

It's a shame that after this many months you still don't understand that the VIRUS is causing the problem, not the Govt. your conspiracy theory is nuts.

MarcelineMissouri · 11/06/2020 08:21

We’ve seen my mum just once since lockdown when we met for a walk. She lives 3 hours away from us. She did have a quick cuddle with my dc and me at the end before we drove off. No regrets.

twinmum2017 · 11/06/2020 08:27

We've kept to the rules. I'm lucky that my parents live close so have been to the garden a couple of times but we've kept them at 2m from us all including the children Sad

It's all well and good saying 'others have broken the rules so I will too' but it doesn't change the risk.
If I passed it on to my parents by breaking the rules and the worst happened I would never forgive myself.

ivfgottostaypositive · 11/06/2020 08:27

10,000s of people met to demonstrate and didn't comply with social distancing. Lockdown is over in my house as far as I'm concerned

Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.

Join Mumsnet Log In

This thread is closed and is no longer accepting replies. Click here to start a new thread.