How strict are you social distancing with family?

[Justwantacuddle]

Name changed. Hard hat donned. Truthfully, how strict are you personally being at not giving select few, closest family a cuddle? Letting them hold your baby? I haven't broken any rules, but I'm struggling to keep that up with my nearest and dearest.

[VaTeLaverLesMains]

If lots of people are mixing like this it'll be a long time before things are back to normal for everyone.

We need to get the numbers right down. Proper tracking, tracing and isolating.

Would the huggers and party people on here self isolate with no symptoms if they were told to by an NHS tracker?

[okiedokieme]

Not seen my parents yet, will stay a metre away as 70+. I give my DD's hugs when I go home (I'm staying at dp's and it's legal from Saturday anyway as I legally live with them and dp can be in my bubble!) No vulnerability and we all are wfh or study from home

[MakeMineWithRhubarbJam]

Grown up son who is living with me has been meeting up with his gf throughout.

I've been on walks with a couple of friends and we weren't strictly 2m the whole time. Sat in the garden with a friend at 2m.

Would jsut like to say, I'm single but the change in rules isn't going to make any difference to me. Haven't had significant physical contact with another adult for years, and that's unlikely to change even if lockdown were totally removed.

Both parents died 10 years ago and I would love to be in the position of looking forward to seeing them again. No other family, so I'm just a sad, lonely old fucker really!

[Wecandothis99]

I won't break any rules but I am pregnant so a little sensitive to it. I don't hold it against anyone who does, within reason though.

[20viona]

We have stuck to it no cuddles a 2m distance at all times even in the garden. Iv got an 11 month old and it's been tough as they have missed so much of her growth. And I'd like some
Help with her too!

[ifonly4]

My Mum is in her late 70s so we're not allowed near her yet. Doing her shopping though, so we can have a chat 6m apart at drop off. Saw BIL a few weeks ago, we had a lovely 4m chat.

I'm not remotely willing to risk passing it onto people I know. I know someone who died of it, a neighbour whose still not right eight weeks later and three colleagues who were really ill - it really isn't worth the risk.

[namesnamesnamesnames]

Very but now it feels ridiculous to be honest. I'm a key worker and get closer to my colleagues than any family outside my house. I feel like giving up.

[MaverickDanger]

We are four hours from nearest family, so haven’t seen anyone since January, and won’t until they allow houses to mix again.

[usernotfound0000]

We have only seen MIL and FIL once, but when we did I didn't attempt to keep the kids away. They are not in a vulnerable category and they were happy to take that risk also. We haven't seen anyone else yet though.

[IdrisElbow]

:02Justwantacuddle

I have an infant son and it's just so hard to not pass him to his family. He reaches his arms out and it's just heartbreaking to say no when they're desperate and he's asking them. It's so so hard

We (husband and I) along with quite a few of our friends have come to the conclusion that we will observe the 2m rule but are not enforcing it for our children. I am not willing to tell my children to keep away from the people they love (grandparents). For me, that is my line.

[jellybe]

I have hugged one friend since lock down started he is doing things tough at the moment, lives alone and at that point in time his need for some human contact out weighed any concerns we both had about COVID. It was a brief squeeze but made all the difference to him and his mental health.

[namesnamesnamesnames]

@jellybe I think you did the right thing.

[fishonabicycle]

Both myself and husband list our fathers to covid, and have had close contact with our families since then.

[fishonabicycle]

Lost, obviously, not list.

[FrugiFan]

My mum has been in our house. Mum and dad have both played with 3yo and held the baby. I have stayed at a distance but I cant expect the kids to. My parents are accepting of the risk and are in their 50s, perhaps if they were over 70 we would be approaching it differently.

[EnglishRain]

We have been abiding by rules, but it transpires that my PIL haven't. They have spent time in close contact with my 6 and 8YO nephews, and admitted this during a socially distanced 2m visit in the garden. My DM works in an environment which is very risky and I'm heavily pregnant. I think not letting them meet the baby will go down like a shit sandwich as rules are being eased, but I don't think I even want DM or PIL coming to a socially distanced meet and greet. Certainly for PIL I don't feel like they get it. Yes the risk is small, but it's still a risk. I worry that DM and PIL will come too close and I'll end up having to get shitty which won't do me or my baby any good. So thinking via a closed window or not at all will be best.

[1990shopefulftm]

I haven't seen any family or friends at all, the nearest one is 30 miles away and I don't want to risk it I'm pregnant and asthmatic. I'm lucky to be working from home and that DH is too and he is able to drive to go food shopping for me.

I know the guilt of if I made my baby or any of my loved ones ill it would break me.

[Bartlet]

I have always disagreed with lockdown but we were diligent and stuck to the rules for the first 8 weeks or so but when they loosened the rules on meet ups outside the house then we changed our stance. Kids are allowed to see groups of their friends outside only and my mum and a friend have been to our house on separate occasions. We kept 2m apart but enjoyed a socially distanced lunch. I won’t deliberately create massive breaches - 50 people for an inside party for example but I won’t constrain our life to be isolated when the science doesn’t back it up.

[Justwantacuddle]

This thread makes me desperately sad. This isn't just no way to live.

[Namechange3007]

My parents are in their 60s and we have told kids thet cant high them. However we are all home, including them so we are keeping safe, only going out for food shopping. It's my sons birthday next week and I really want him to be able to give my parents a hug. He misses them (seen them twice since lockdown). He would be allowed too now if there was only one of them? Just feels so cruel to tell kids they cant hug their Grandparents.

[Namechange3007]

Cant hug them not high them!

[DoingMyOwnThing]

I have cuddled someone from another household who is living alone for the last 3 weeks (shock horror arrest me now).

I am amazed at how adults have quickly allowed others to make all decisions for them around a virus that for fit healthy young people is less likely to kill than being involved in a fatal car accident. Interesting how quickly people give up freedoms.

Dons hard hat since the you are a murderer brigade might be lurking ready to report me and have me arrested

[ParkheadParadise]

I've basically stuck to the rules. 2 weeks ago I took dd to my sister's house to sit in the garden. When we arrived her grandchildren were there. Dd run to them and gave them a hug. They spent the afternoon in the paddling pool, walking around holding hands.
Last week my friend came to mine for afternoon tea (I ordered it from the local cafe). We had a nice afternoon sitting in the garden 2m apart. As the day went on we were drinking more and more wine by 8pm we were both drunk. At 10pm we were linking arms and dancing round the garden 🙊🙊 until dh told us to keep the noise down as dd had woke up.
I'm still sort of keeping to the rules🤣

[WowLucky]

I have been very strict with it. On the whole it's not been difficult, my parents are not huggy people and even the most huggy friends are keeping their distance, but there is one person I could see within the rules now but who I haven't because not being able to hug would just be too hard.

[AwwDontGo]

I think we are probably fairly typical in that we have generally been really good apart from one thing which was adult daughters boyfriend coming over twice. They definitely didn't SD. 😕. He was leaving to work away for a couple of months so they wanted to see each other before he went.
No excuses though - it was wrong. 🙁
We are back to 'almost' fully complying now. I've still met up with a friend for Coffee (brought my own) in her front garden which is against the rules.
I want to see my parents but they are over 80 and don't live near by. I'm waiting until that's allowed though.
Trouble is that people are still getting infected and it's partly due to all these little breaks in the rules I suppose.