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If or when the lockdown rules relax for a bit

37 replies

HistoryHeroes · 05/04/2020 20:00

Will you start seeing people or stay in isolation? Will you be someome who waits for a vaccine and lives like it's still lockdown, vulnerable or not?

I'm curious as know a few people, including those classed as vulnerable, who are eagerly waiting for lockdown to be over and it's all they seem to talk about. I haven't said that actually, they could still get very sick and the virus won't have disappeared, as I don't think they could cope with the thought of a year right now.

I know this is all a bit hypothetical but wondering about gut reactions!

I think I may just see close family and friends in that period and nobody else, before a lockdown probably restarts again in autumn. As I have a small baby, I would like to see my parents and DH parents a few times so they can see their grandchild, but no one else. Siblings live abroad sadly so that's ruled out anyway.

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HistoryHeroes · 05/04/2020 20:02

Dh and I are not seeing anybody as government instructions, but if we just see our parents when it's allowed, we feel like it will sort of be like they're part of our household!

Anyone else think they're in it for the long haul?

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Pishposhpashy · 05/04/2020 20:04

I'll definitely be seeing my mum.and my sister as soon as I'm allowed to.

mynameiscalypso · 05/04/2020 20:10

I'm pretty sure my parents will come over the minute that the restrictions are relaxed as they are missing my DS. I'm high risk because I'm on immunosuppressants but I plan to start my normal life when restrictions ease. My life isn't particularly high risk in any event - walk everywhere, on mat leave so just going to baby classes and the gym really.

KaronAVyrus · 05/04/2020 20:11

I’d love to see my parents as soon as restrictions lift.

wouldyouadamandeveit · 05/04/2020 20:13

I'd love to see my mum and nan, both vulnerable and 120 miles away. But until I know I'm immune I won't chance it :(

BlessYourCottonSocks · 05/04/2020 20:18

I can't see my rushing back into normal life. Still intending to go out as little as possible for a long time. This isn't over by a long shot.

Matildathehun77 · 05/04/2020 20:19

I'd like to go and see my mum, dad and sister. I won't be going anywhere crowded for a long time but then I don't like crowds anyway.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 05/04/2020 20:23

I’d like to get back to normal ASAP, I’ll be out and about.

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HistoryHeroes · 05/04/2020 22:44

I think for us it also depends if dh has go go back into work. Ideally he'd keep wfh!

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TolstoyAteMyHamster · 05/04/2020 22:53

DP and my parents. And walking in the park with friends - sensibly spaced but I really miss them.

Gellert · 05/04/2020 22:56

I'd rather 18 months of living in lockdown until a vaccine is available. I know that's not a realistic possibility, but I can't help be scared of catching it - vulnerable family members.

DrMadelineMaxwell · 05/04/2020 22:59

I'll be able to go back to seeing my Mum on a weekend rather than just dropping shopping off at her door and her phoning me later. I'm very worried about her (over 70, smoker) and hope that she will be ok through all of this.

cobwebsoncornices · 05/04/2020 23:04

I'd love to see my parents and MIL but they're both 3-4 hours away so it will depend upon the rules around essential journeys. After weeks and weeks, seeing them will feel pretty essential!
It's occurred to me that the immediate post lock down meet ups could be a bit of an anti-climax for us as all of our friends have family locally and will presumably want to see them over us so we might be at a bit of a loose end. It also made me realise that I can't think "oh, well just limit it to seeing a few close friends" as they will all be seeing family, friends, going out to work etc so it will be quite risky.

Imok · 06/04/2020 08:38

I think it will depend on how gradually restrictions are eased. I suspect that people who are in the vulnerable group, and definitely those in the shielding group, will still be advised to stay at home as long as possible. Once it is clear that new cases are minimal and hopefully, effective vaccination and/or treatment is available, then I think they'll begin to lift restrictions on everybody else.
FWIW, as someone in the vulnerable, not shielded, group, I will be very careful about who I see to begin with - dcs, their partners and dgc, I'll see soon as I know they have been very careful themselves as they each have a vulnerable person in their households. My mum and siblings, not so much as despite being vulnerable, they have chosen to take what I consider to be unnecessary risks because they consider this to be no worse than a bad cold and 'nobody tells me what to do'.

SimonJT · 06/04/2020 08:39

I’m in a high risk group so not really apart from safe situations, e.g outdoors with some distance between us.

CeibaTree · 06/04/2020 12:15

I can't wait to see my brother! DC really missing their uncle so he's the first person we will see. Other than that some good friends who live locally, and it'll be nice to see the in-laws in person rather than on facetime :)

iCorona · 06/04/2020 12:16

I will be first to the pub/restaurant/swimming pool etc

Thighmageddon · 06/04/2020 12:20

I'm in the high risk group and I will be mostly staying at home, maybe going to work if I still have a job.

Helenshielding · 06/04/2020 12:23

I'm on immunosuppressants but I plan to start my normal life when restrictions ease

Arent you shielding?

Helenshielding · 06/04/2020 12:25

If lockdown continues for 12 weeks I expect the shielding group will be advised to shield longer.

I wont be going anywhere busy for a long time. I cant wait till I'm allowed to touch another human being. And see my boyfriend. 12 weeks is a long time.

IDSNeighbour · 06/04/2020 12:25

I will do as much as possible as quickly as possible.

I live on my own in a rural area and I'm in a pretty bad place at the end of week 2! I would genuinely rather die than continue to live like this for a year. It's not life.

I didn't even see another human being for 7 days straight until I went to a small shop on Friday.

user1493413286 · 06/04/2020 12:29

I can’t see that it’s all going to suddenly lift, I think it will be gradual. My priority will be to be able to see my family

OtterPotter · 06/04/2020 12:33

People do realise that a lifting of lockdown does mean that the risk to you and your families is in any way different to what it is now. You're still able to catch it, it won't have gone away.

All the lockdown is doing is reducing the spread now, to allow the NHS to cope without being overwhelmed by everyone suddenly catching it at the same time.

Lifting the lockdown essentially would mean gradually allowing more people to catch it, until another peak looms at which point we will lock down again. It's about opening the taps to allow the flow of infections, then tightening them when it gets too much.

So you take your chances, and decide whether you and your families are going to be some of the people the government have decided they will allow to get infected.

OtterPotter · 06/04/2020 12:33

Typo fail - *doesn't mean!

Bluntness100 · 06/04/2020 12:35

Lockdown will end but there will still be a huge amount of restrictions in place, no social events and venues will be open, only allowed out for work, shopping, school run, daily exercise, social distancing enforced etc.

Lock down will be relaxed soon. It has to be, but that doesn’t mean normal life will return and we can all pop off down our nans or to the pub or gym.

That’s not how it’s going to work. Normal life won’t come back for a good while until they are sure this is under control and remains under control.