Family going out for dinner

[crispysausagerolls]

My brother came round today and mentioned whilst round he and my family went out for dinner last night. I’m pregnant and wish he had mentioned this tbh before coming round - my mother wants to pop into tomorrow too and now I’m not sure if any of them should as they aren’t taking this seriously and I am trying to seriously limit social contact where possible!

Then why are you seeing family, as the government advise against?

And that is exactly why your brother and your mother and everyone else you know should not be coming around.

None of them should be popping round!
Social distancing doesn't just apply to non relatives!

@namechanged984630

It’s not possible to 100% self isolate if you live with someone else, is it? I mean we need food etc so even if DH goes out and not me, he is going out amongst other people and potentially bringing stuff home. I just assumed my family were also being sensible and it would be ok - I didn’t realise they were literally just not giving a fuck at all!

Social distancing is not the same as isolation.

I know. I am practicing social distancing - it’s not possible for me to self isolate at that time

You’re not following the rules. It is hypocritical to be pissed off at them.

You are socialising with your brother and possibly your mother - that is not social distancing.

How do you not understand this?

You can't assume anything about anybody. If you want to reduce the risk then don't have people round!

It means minimising contact so no one popping round to you at all and you don’t make any unnecessary trips out.

You are socialising with your brother and possibly your mother - that is not social distancing

I see what you mean. I have just been seeing it as me personally not leaving the house unless absolutely essential eg food, but people coming being ok (which is ok in some guidelines people have posted on here). Eg limiting social contact. But I take your point

We are not seeing anyone, my DH doing the food shop thats all u are ment to be doing.
We have children a baby and a sn child we are following the rules.

From the nhs website relating to social distancing...

You need to keep social interaction to a minimum.

Yes, your DH needs to go to the shops (and wash his hands after) but that doesn't mean it's ok to see other family.

Every additional interaction brings increased risk so your mum, brother and any other family should not be popping round regardless of how sensible or not they have been.

The rules are fairly simple. I'm struggling to fathom (and despairing) why there are so many people who think they don't apply to them.

The rules are fairly simple. I'm struggling to fathom (and despairing) why there are so many people who think they don't apply to them

I think that this is unfair, directed at me. Like I am the person in this scenario who is at increased risk and I have not been leaving the house, as I said I didn’t really think through having people pop over but I will find the advice someone else posted earlier which suggested it was fine to have small gatherings with symptomless people. Additionally pregnant people now have a window to go shopping in the morning at supermarkets, and are allowed to go out for exercise. So it’s not as cut and dry as you are suggesting.

Someone posted this on another thread

If you end up in hospital because you didn’t follow the rules, you’re going to be taking resources that could be used to treat others. If you catch it, you could infect everyone that comes to visit you. It is absolutely that cut and dried.

This Coronavirus thread is literally as pile-on-y as AIBU! I posted for advice. I have already said point taken there is no need to keep adding to it or being rude/unpleasant!

I will find the advice someone else posted earlier which suggested it was fine to have small gatherings with symptomless people

It isn’t. Read point 5. Read ALL the points.

People do love taking a pop at a vulnerable pregnant lady, don't they. It's charming. Try not to worry OP but yes just make everyone stay away.

I’m also just pointing out there is conflicting advice - “safe to do with caution” etc

My DD is pregnant and I won't be seeing her for the foreseeable. It breaks my heart but we can't take the risk.

@dontaskformedicaladviceonmn

Did you read what I uploaded that directly contradicts that? Someone posted it on MN this evening

The above is from the Gov site. I can’t zoom in enough to see where the picture you posted is published but it is possible that it’s out of date.
For up to date advice see Gov.uk of nhs site. Do not rely on old out dated pictures someone else posts.

@Tootletum

Thank you! Posted for advice and just getting jumped ffs it’s like I posted saying I had been for several pints and then snogged a bunch of strangers whilst coughing all the while