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The Hut of Gl/Doom... Please don't ask about our reproductive plans as a smack round the head with TCOYF often offends

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OracleInaCoracle · 02/06/2009 09:05

new thread.

for those who are having problems getting pg

or staying pg

or are simply fed up of being told to relax and having to smile and say "you never know"

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cedar12 · 16/06/2009 12:01

Well it looks like I will have to have a d&c just did another pg test with conception indicator. Still showing 3+ weeks. My bloody body I think if I carry on waiting it could take ages. First shift back at work today my manager knows what has been happening but no one else does so I will have lots of question this afternoon feel like telling them all to fuck off really. If I ahve to have a d&c will have even more explaining to do!

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OracleInaCoracle · 16/06/2009 17:15

oh cedar, im so sorry. how utterly crap.

rainbows, things can change quite a bit, anything from having a weird period to an op can alter your bodys functions quite significantly.

still no period. too scared now. odd isnt it, i have no prob testing early, but when im late i chicken out!

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DarrellRivers · 16/06/2009 17:20

CD28 here and just gave in and tested-negative
Crap
Crap
slinks off
my life whizzes past me in 2 w cycles, 2 weeks trying, then 2 weeks waiting
I don't know where the last year has gone

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OracleInaCoracle · 16/06/2009 17:34

DR, i know. dh said something v simillar the other day. we spend 2w disheartened because the last month didnt work, then 2w terrified. all the while waiting.

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DarrellRivers · 16/06/2009 17:36

A while back lissie, I remember you saying you were going to stop TTCing, and move and train in a new role
How did that go?
Where you able to put TTCing out of your mind, or did it sneakily draw you back in?
[what am I going to do, i'm going crazy]

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OracleInaCoracle · 16/06/2009 18:03

tbh i cant give up. while there is still hope we will keep trying. i feel that to give up would be to trivialise what weve been through. however, i am at uni.

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DarrellRivers · 16/06/2009 18:26

good on you for your uni
when are you going to test again?

rainbowdays · 16/06/2009 21:29

cedar - you really need to go back for another scan, just in case they have got things wrong see this thread, I don't want to raise false hope, but your levels should have been going down by now or they will see more on the scan. Last scan the sac had got bigger for you, with me the sac had decreased, my levels are going down. I would not advocate rushing for d&c having read the above thread, but I do think you have waited in limbo long enough. You are too far along to get useful blood tests now, as between 8 and 10 weeks hcg levels start decreasing in normal pregnancies anyway. Hope you get answers soon.

Darrell - sorry to hear about the negative test, life sucks sometimes.

I am not ready to start giving up yet either. It is so hard sometimes just keeping going.

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OracleInaCoracle · 17/06/2009 08:34

totally agree with rainbow!

still no period. may just have yto bite the bullet and get another test.

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Thandeka · 17/06/2009 12:00

Lissielou in the spirit of internet stalking solidarity I looked you up on Facebook and my you look really really familiar- I see you are living in the same part of the world as I am from and I wonder if you ever went to that groovy dive heaven that was known as Chicos above the bus station ooop Hanley! I swear I have seen you somewhere before...... [Grin]

love your friendly neighbourhood weirdo

p.s fingers crossed on the testing front.

Heebeejeebee · 17/06/2009 13:37

Hi all

Sorry - I ducked in very briefly a while back, but have been meaning to post for a bit.

Just to say - Cedar - definitly have the scan. With my second m/c (in December) I had an ERPC and my levels hadn't started to fall - they were just rising very slowly and I still had all my symptoms (including m/s on the morning of the op).

Rainbow - I had the tests after the send m/c and I came out borderline for the killer cells test (I happen to be in Surrey where the guy from the miscarriage clinic on Harley st is). The thing is I think that those levels can fluctuate so it might be normal one month, but not the next. I ended up seeing him privately on Harley St and am taking steroids post-ov.

Lissie - have been following your journey over the past week with everything crossed for you

Just to say as well I saw my consultant who decided i needed a PLAN. My PLAN is to wait until October, have the test where they flush your tubes with dye and then she will refer me for ivf. I felt really weird when she said that - depressed that we are at that stage, but I guess positive that she has a plan for me..

cedar12 · 17/06/2009 14:26

Hi all, Just spoke to the clinic again. They are going to scan me again before refering me to the epu. Scan booked for 2pm fri. Its an ivf clinic as this was a result of a frozen transfer they have been so great so different from my ectopic pg. Pleased I am having another scan sure it is a mc but at least I wont have that doubt after 3 scans.
Rainbow hope you feeling better today. Thanks for the link it amazing how many dr write off so many pg.
Lissie any news? hope no news is good news.

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OracleInaCoracle · 17/06/2009 15:46

hi all.

heebee, i remember you. its good that yu have a plan. did you have to push for the NK cells test? m y cons won't consider it.

cedar, glad you are getting another scan. your clinic sounds pretty good!

thandeka, fraid not, have you ever been to shrewsbury/ironbridge? and why havent you added me?

tested, bfn with a CB. so now just waiting for period to start

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Thandeka · 17/06/2009 15:58

Yeah all the time- used to get the X64 there regularly. Will add you now! Ooops!

And boo hiss for CB digital BFN.

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OracleInaCoracle · 17/06/2009 16:00

ah, ive worked (and got drunk) in both towns from 2000-2003

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Thandeka · 17/06/2009 16:04

nope that can't be it then I lived in scotland then.
Ah well you must just have one of those faces. and a very pretty face it is too.

Heebeejeebee · 17/06/2009 16:38

Lissie for the bfn

I didn't have to push for the test actually as the guy who developed it (he runs the miscarriage clinic on Harley St) has his NHS practice in Surrey. I don't see him there (hence me seeing him privately) but he works closely with my consultant and she offered it to me. He did say to me that omega 3 can help, so I've been taking the zita west omega 3 tablets as well as the steroids. I can't believe it is such a hard test to get, though..

Cedar - good news about the scan

cedar12 · 17/06/2009 19:13

lissie

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OracleInaCoracle · 17/06/2009 19:34

lol thandeka, thank you. must say, your name is familliar... how odd!

cedar, thank you. how are you feeling?

heebee, might try the omega 3 myself. we were sort of offered the NK cells test in LWH, but it was too pricy

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gothicmama · 17/06/2009 21:10

sorry to hijack Lissie do you fancy a night out its been ages I've set up meet up thread and am getting lonely on it?

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OracleInaCoracle · 18/06/2009 18:26

hi, gothic, that sounds lovely!

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OracleInaCoracle · 18/06/2009 18:39

btw, still no period.

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gothicmama · 18/06/2009 20:42

oh hun, I found that the worst when i was doing all of this, hang in there

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OracleInaCoracle · 19/06/2009 10:54

thanks, its so frustrating. am going to call gp on mon if nothing.

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