My first was a one time success story. Then she was also almost a month early, but ready to be born. It was such a shock. I was 26. She's amazing, but my head was all over the place when I was pregnant, with anxiety, wasn't sure I was ready, in a good relationship, good place at work and financially, too young.
So I have a 4.5 year gap between my 2 out of choice and got pregnant 2nd month trying.
If I'm pregnant now that would be third month trying, they'll be another 4 year gap, I'm not too bothered about when or whether we convince a 3rd, but it's nice to be on this journey together.
I have a boy and girl, and my husband is most keen to have more. When I was pregnant with youngest, we were going to have a couple more. I've given it so much thought, after youngest was about 20 months. I thought, that's it, our family is complete. He was a very difficult baby. But through lots of discussions and overall enjoying parenting, we've decided to go for another.