Period late, negative pregnancy tests, EWCM....wtf?!

[LunaDreams]

Hi all,

I'm so confused about what is going on with my cycle currently so looking for any insights or words of wisdom!

For context I have a 3 year old son, and my periods have been slightly irregular since having him, usually fluctuating between 28 to 35 day cycles. I have had 2 cycles that were over 40 days but this is right before I was diagnosed with anemia which I am now treated for.

This month my husband and I DTD on cycle days 13 & 19 as have decided to start trying for baby number 2.

I don't fully track my ovulation but had EWCM from days 14-20 (always have about 6 days worth).

My period was due 5 days ago but nothing yet. I have had cramps like AF is coming for past 8 or so days with no bleeding or spotting plus also have fuller boob's and nausea.

I've done 3 x pregnancy tests which were all negative, the last one being done yesterday.

I just feel so confused as when my periods have been late before I usually get other PMS signs like sore boob's and acne but haven't had any of that. In fact my current symptoms are exactly what I had with my last pregnancy.

But I clearly am not pregnant as surely it would be showing up on a test by now?

Has anyone ever had something similar? I just don't know what to do as am out the country so can't go to doctors but have no idea what is going on in my own body!

Just to add I had more EWCM yesterday

Sorry I can't help but I'm currently going through exactly the same and similar dates to you. All the symptoms in the world cramps, bad nausea, an abundance of milky cm, 4 days late but nothing not even a hint of a line so I feel your frustration you just want to know for sure but feel as though your body is telling you something different.

I think you can get more ewcm before your period comes randomly, which is confusing! I get it again at 5dpo now since having my little one when I never did before. I guess without knowing exactly when you ovulated you could either just be a few dates late, or you ovulated a lot later than you thought and it’s too early for a test?

Sorry to hear you're going through the same. It's so frustrating isn't it! Are you usually quite regular then?

I don't think I've ever wanted my period more. I think I've accepted I'm unlikely to be pregnant so have now moved onto worrying about why my cycle has gone to wonky, especially as we have just decided to start trying!

Thank you for your response. It's all so confusing isn't it!

I was very fortunate with my last pregnancy that I conceived first cycle so didn't experience any of this confusion.

I guess I have to accept it's 3 years later and I'm now pushing 37 so unlikely to be as smooth this time.

I will test again in a few days if nothing and thinking maybe I'll have to talk to doctors about a blood test if nothing happens soon?

It's stressful isn't it. I'm 35 so I'm with you, it's definitely not as easy. My cycles are definitely longer more like average 35 days but I don't think it's not until you really start trying and tracking stuff that your cycles really can vary.

I was pretty certain when I ovulated but who knows we could have actually been later than we thought. I guess only you know how you feel. I definitely feel something's different so I'm going to leave it until the weekend and try again that way I'll be over a week late. Hang in there stranger things can happen. It would be so much easier if AF would just show up though so you can move onto next cycle!

I'm anaemic (and taking iron) and my cycles are usually short but then occasionally I'll have what seema to be a skipped period, so a 60+ day cycle. During that time I tend not to get any pre-menstrual symptoms, and feel weirdly neutral, plus the ewcm seems to last for quite a while. It feels like my body gets stuck hormonally mid-cycle for a while, iyswim? I always test when I. Late to be certain, but I always kind of know because I just don't 'feel' pregnant. I get my period eventually and usually goes back to normal-ish next cycle.

@newrubylane that's a really useful insight to have. Part of me wonders of my iron levels have dropped again and maybe that's part of the issue. If this had happened a few months ago I wouldn't be bothered but just gutted it's happening as soon as we started trying.

@Miracledust29 keep me posted on how you get on! Sounds like we are I'm very similar situations.

I'm going through something similar. Just want my period or BFP.

@eggybreaddie aaah sorry to hear you're in the same boat. I'm now 5 days late with no signs of AF or a BFP. Going to retest in a few more days, then if negative and still no period in 5 days going to speak to GP. Have read that sometimes people don't get positive results on a home pregancy test but do get it through a blood test. Seems unlikely but at these stage what happens next is anyone's guess! How late are you?

I'm 6 days late. Had pink discharge yesterday morning when I wiped then nothing since then! Still bfns! Cramping for 8 days now and getting more and more bloated every day.
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@eggybreaddie how are you getting on? My AF finally arrived 7 days and 4 negative pregnancy tests later. Am going to see doctors as pretty sure all the symptoms I've had are actually signs that my anemia is back!

Hope you're doing OK x

Oh bless I wish you luck for next cycle. I kinda of wish my AF would come.
So I'm 8 days late now, haven't tested in 2 days. I have pink discharge when I wipe but absolutely nothing in my underwear or anything that is like a period. It's the lightest pink ever as well.
I have no idea what's going on to be honest but my back is hurting a lot today and my cramps are still there. I thought when I first got the pink discharge that my period would arrive but it's been like this for 2 days now. Pink on a morning but nothing, just clear during the day or evening. I'm fed up now with it all, the bloating is also getting worse.
I've convinced myself that I'm not Pg but just in limbo right now. It's very unusual for me to have pink.
TTC is soooo annoying😂
All the best though. I'll update you if you'd like when I have some form of answer xx

@eggybreaddie any news? I'm now 9 days late. Boobs absolutely killing to the point the shower is painful and I won't let OH near them. I've had clear/milky cm for 4 days straight now, I swear yesterday it had the slightest of pink tinge. Cramping for the last 3 days but still no AF 😩 driving me mad! I bought some more clear blue thinking they were the 6 day early only to get home and find they're the regular 🙄
I was so calculated with my timings but I've obviously ovulated way later than when I had my positive opks which is even more frustrating because if I were to be pregnant I wouldn't even know when to expect a bfp. I had very bad cramps Monday so I suspect possibly 6dpo but who knows.

I have been bleeding but it's so light I am just so confused and it's so weird for me:( I hope you get some results soon. Xx

@eggybreaddie strange. Perhaps you did have an anovulatory cycle. I had one about 5 months ago and was confused as it was the lightest bleed that I thought maybe implantation, it continued for a few more days so light but never came to much then I continued as normal 😕 very odd.....obviously may not be though, Only time will tell I guess but so frustrating isn't it! Xx

Driving me insane honestly. I've logged it as my period but it certainly isn't normal. I've also ordered some ovulation tests for when I stop bleeding and I'm gonna track it as I don't want to end up worrying constantly like I have done this cycle. At least if I see I ovulated I'll have an idea of my period dates. Please keep me updated on what's going on with you xx

@eggybreaddiedo you usually use opks? I have been for the last 6 months but tbh I find the whole thing hit and miss. My last period was 7th Dec (usually around 30-35 days so expected ovulation roughly cd 19/20) which was bang on, I had the most positive opk I've ever had and worst cramps but then I can't have actually ovulated because I then got a positive opk last week and strong cramps monday. If you can I would say try tracking bbt as at least then you'll know you've actually ovulated. I can't as I'm cabin crew and schedules all over the place so just wouldn't work. All I know is since I had the strong cramps Monday I've been constantly hot plus the sore boobs hence why I think that's when I actually ended up ovulating 🙄 better late than never I guess...Think the overindulging over Xmas threw me out 🤣fingers crossed you get answers soon xx

Bless you. I'll do that then I just have never done anything like this. My daughter is 3 and I fell pregnant with her the month I had my implant out (after being told I had ovarian issues which would mean IVF would be necessary lmao- then the issues disappeared when I had checkups post pregnancy lol!!).

So anyway TTC is a first for us. I don't want to put pressure on it but we are casually doing it. It's just an extremely bizarre cycle for me as I've not been on birth control for 1yr now and my periods have been 28-31days like clockwork!

I also started with cramping 2 weeks ago which is unusual as I don't usually cramp until after my period has begun.

Is it possible you could've ovulated twice? I feel my questions stupid but I wonder😂😂xx

Oh wow congrats with your daughter I bet that was a surprise at the time! How old are you now do you mind me asking? I've found a lot of people on here including myself have said their cycles have become a bit more unpredictable once in their 30s.

Haha I totally know what you mean, tracking completely zaps the fun out of it and almost becomes a chore but it genuinely wasn't until I started doing opks and tracking my cycles that I even became aware of my cycles etc. tbh apart from my positive opks those two times I haven't continued to check them as clearly i didn't ovulate when I thought i did so maybe like you ignorance is bliss! 🤣

Haha I asked myself the same question can you ovulate twice 🤔 but much googling seems to lead me to believe you can only have a period IF you've ovulated and here I am still waiting with the most agonising boobs! 🤣 I had a vivid dream last night I was pregnant and kept waking up but then I put that down to my brain being overwhelmed wondering what's going on!

Keep me updated, nice to know I'm not the only one going mad. I know it's easier said than done but try not to put pressure on yourself and hopefully some good news will come your way soon! Xx

I really hope you've maybe ovulated late and you'll get your BFP soon. I believe I'm out but I suppose it is just a waiting game.
I really can't tell if I'm having spotting or my period as it's so light but it has been on and off red not pink. So I am literally in limbo😂 I've recorded it on my Flo app as my period but I'm gonna test in a week just to double check! My last period was 6th Dec so it's been a super weird cycle regardless.

Please keep us updated. Either way ✨xx

I'm 27 lovely xx

Hi OP, any sign of AF? Or a BFP?

We conceived DD1 very quickly when I was 36 but had a completely different experience trying for another baby. My previously clockwork cycles started going haywire as I approached 40 and I'd have month after month of late or missed periods. I eventually put it down to peri and just stopped testing.

I'm now 42 and 30+3 with DD2.

I didn't even test until cd56 and only did so then as I was on holiday and suddenly threw up one morning at breakfast - I now know I'd have been about 5 weeks pregnant at that point.

Good luck to you.

Just an update like I said my boobs have been agony so been testing again. Top picture is Saturday night stark negative. Middle is yesterday, line came up within 3 minutes but thin and looked broken. So today went and got a 6 day early and so bottom picture that line came up straight away. It's thin and definitely blue in person. I don't always trust clear blue but considering Saturdays was blank and now 2 days in a row seems a little coincidental 🤷🏼‍♀️

So I do in fact think I ovulated late as I thought last Sunday/Monday which would put me at 7/8dpo. So if it is in fact positive it goes to show you're not out until AF so just keep trying! Perhaps yours was slightly implantation bleeding. I had the palest pink 2 days ago on wiping that tbh I don't think I'd have ever noticed if I wasn't TTC. So fingers crossed for you. Keep us updated xxx

I definitely see the lines! Have you tested again at all?

Unfortunately my bleeding got heavy at the weekend but it's still not normal, it's just red when I wipe instead of pink now. Still counting myself as our but I thought bleeding would reset my mind but I'm still as confused as ever😂 I have a lot of lower back pain and cramps so I'm gonna go see a Dr to ensure I'm not having an ectopic or something. Just to be safe as this isn't a usual cycle for me at all xx