Period late, negative pregnancy tests, EWCM....wtf?!

[LunaDreams]

Hi all,

I'm so confused about what is going on with my cycle currently so looking for any insights or words of wisdom!

For context I have a 3 year old son, and my periods have been slightly irregular since having him, usually fluctuating between 28 to 35 day cycles. I have had 2 cycles that were over 40 days but this is right before I was diagnosed with anemia which I am now treated for.

This month my husband and I DTD on cycle days 13 & 19 as have decided to start trying for baby number 2.

I don't fully track my ovulation but had EWCM from days 14-20 (always have about 6 days worth).

My period was due 5 days ago but nothing yet. I have had cramps like AF is coming for past 8 or so days with no bleeding or spotting plus also have fuller boob's and nausea.

I've done 3 x pregnancy tests which were all negative, the last one being done yesterday.

I just feel so confused as when my periods have been late before I usually get other PMS signs like sore boob's and acne but haven't had any of that. In fact my current symptoms are exactly what I had with my last pregnancy.

But I clearly am not pregnant as surely it would be showing up on a test by now?

Has anyone ever had something similar? I just don't know what to do as am out the country so can't go to doctors but have no idea what is going on in my own body!

Any update OP?XX

So I continued to test twice. I'd just done a flight as working away. The first had a pretty strong line again even after I'd drunk tonns of water during the flight. so tested again after a sleep....nothing at all, I just didn't feel right. My boobs have been killing all day and then I got really strong AF type cramps. Went out for dinner and wanted to leave early. Got home and had one wipe of pinkish/brownish blood.

Just don't know what to think at this point as this will be the second chemical in a row 😞 I've got the doctors 29th so will definitely be asking for some tests to be done xx

Oh bless you. Hopefully implantation and a false negative. Don't lose hope yet 💕 🙏
Definitely ask drs to test you. I didn't bother going because I feel completely normal now despite not really having a proper period just pink /reddish when I wiped, none on the pad!
But all my symptoms are gone. I suspect I have had a weird cycle or potentially a phantom.
Xx

Update. So the cramping got so bad, I was vomiting, feeling really dizzy so was sent to the hospital. I'd been bleeding but not so heavy they thought ectopic at first. They took bloods and my HCG levels confirmed it was likely early miscarriage unfortunately and delayed bleeding. They've given me a letter for my GP to do a follow up when I get home for an ultrasound. In a way I feel almost relieved as my last period was 7th December so I just knew in myself something wasn't right as I was sick last week also. So atleast I can begin to move on and keep trying but this is the second time now so I just hope this isn't going to happen every time.

Sorry to hear about you, I realise how frustrating it is but just one of those things I guess. I think our bodies do decide to play up and throw a wobbly when we're anxious and TTC. If you don't get another period over the next month I would definitely speak to your GP and they can do some tests although it's so frustrating with our NHS isn't it, everything just takes so long you almost give up! Hopefully it will happen for us soon! Xx

Bless you darling. I hope you feel better soon and get some in stone answers.

I don't want to give false hope but this happened with my first they told me I was miscarrying, gave me a letter for a scan etc and then a few weeks later when I went for my scan I had a literal baby in there.

I'm glad you are one step closer but wishing you all the best. Sending baby dust. It'll be our time soon💗💗

Thanks for the reply. That's interesting to know because the bleeding has almost stopped but there has only been enough to fill one pad during the whole time this has happened along with this stringy clear fluid type stuff (sorry tmi 🙈) obviously I'm taking it for the worse and not getting my hopes up at all.
Obviously I'm abroad so my works insurance only covered me to have basic tests IE bloods and checked my cervix with a speculum exam and said my cervix was closed which was odd because I'd been bleeding slightly. Hopefully my doc will see the letter and follow up with an ultrasound to see what's going on.

I have the doctors when I get back anyway so will see what they say and hopefully get some answers but maybe just one of those things I guess! Good luck to you aswell I'm sure it will happen soon enough fingers 🤞🏼 xxx

I hope you've managed to get your ultrasound. That's weird your cervix is closed for sure! X

Hi @Miracledust29 , I hope your well. I hope you dont mind me asking how things went with you?

EWCM doesn't mean ovulation occured just shows a Surge in LH. I used to get this after DS1 which was annoying when we were TTC DS2. I had multiple surges and multiple EWCM. Those months I gave up and just waited for my period to arrive.
Also after DS1 my cycles were mad 21 days to 47 day cycles. Even after DS2 had some erractic ones but has stabilised since nursing reduced 2 months ago.

You could try BBT and OPK use. I started to use Fertility friend app it plots it nicely onto a graph.

Hi @carsty I believe it was a very early miscarriage. I then got pregnant 2 weeks after which I miscarried at 6 weeks. Although, I took a month out and now I'm 13 weeks pregnant and saw baby wriggling around on my scan Xx

Just wanted to update that I'm 39 weeks pregnant! I got a positive test early February so I have NO idea what went on during my January cycle, maybe my body knew I was going to conceive? It was a very weird month for my regular cycle and then I ended up pregnant... Who knows. But she's nearly here.
I hope your pregnancy is going well, sorry to hear of your miscarriage before that🩷 all the best xx