TTC starting now

[Beck3115]

Hi all

Just wondered if there was anyone else starting out now that wanted to keep me company?

Background is that I’ve been with my partner 3 years and I have one 5 year old from a previous relationship who DP treats as his own ( though he does see his dad).

I came off the injection in summer as it was making me fat and miserable, and last month we weren’t as careful as we should have been and we thought I was pregnant (possibly a CP) as several faint positives before AF.

Anyway DP now wants to try which is absolutely lovely and I’m so on board and excited.

I’ve been tracking my cycles as a contraceptive method so I know I’m due to ovulate tomorrow or the next day.

I would appreciate any advice and support as my little one was conceived on the pill so I didn’t get any of this excitement - but equally I don’t really know what I should and shouldn’t be doing.

:)

Think I got my peak this evening, managed to dtd again so 🤞🤞🤞

@Beck3115 Fab! 🤞🤞

Son is off school sick and I’ve just come in from a night shift 😬 it’s going to be a loooooong day

Uch, DD not too well today, looks like a tummy bug. DH also coming down with something, so altogether not a healthy household right now!

Shame about DH as I'm actually feeling a bit frisky today, which I take as a sign that my body's adjusting to not having the pill (it definitely slowed down my sex drive a bit...) Hopefully he'll be feeling up to it later!

Does anyone know or have any thought on Covid when TTC?

There’s a lot of it going round the office at the mo and I’m a little concerned that it would stop me getting pregnant 🤔 I’ve had both jabs though!

@Beck3115 and @CoalCraft how are both your little ones this morning?

Much better thank you @Beth262 he’s demolished some lemon curd on toast and a big bowl of fruit!

How are you doing?

This might be a stupid question so bare with me because I’m new to all this… is ovulation day 1 dpo or is the day after ovulation day 1dpo? X

@Beck3115 Oh good 🙂 you know they're on the mend when they start demolishing food again!

I'll be honest - I'm not sure either 😂 I was thinking it was after because it's one day past... if anyone can help though please shout out!

I don’t suppose it matters really I’m just intrigued by it all at the moment. Managed to pounce on my other half when he came in from work last night. He doesn’t know what’s hit him 😂

I’m so tired this morning and absolutely desperate for a bacon sandwich

I’ve got pink spotting today after really intense ovulation pain yesterday.

Should I be concerned? We dtd last night but it wasn’t rough. I have lower back pain and pain on my side but it’s not what I recognise as my normal ovulation pain x

@Beck3115 Could it be implantation spotting & pain and your dates are a bit off where you thought they were? x

@Beck3115

I’ve got pink spotting today after really intense ovulation pain yesterday.

Should I be concerned? We dtd last night but it wasn’t rough. I have lower back pain and pain on my side but it’s not what I recognise as my normal ovulation pain x

No, I regularly had spotting after painful ovulation. No need to worry!

@Beth262

She's better, thank you! Not 100% but on the mend. It's actually her birthday today so very busy with family etc.

My boobs are still hurting - same happened last time o came off the pill so not reading anything into it but it's annoying!

Just thinking, do you guys hold with the idea of staying lying down for a period of time after DTD? So gravity isn't making things harder for the swimmers? If so, how long?

@Beth262 I’m pretty sure it’s just something to do with ovulation, I get horrid pains which I had on my left side but this is now on my right. It’s settled a bit anyway 🤷‍♀️ I’ve never noticed spotting before so it’s really interesting that you say that @Daisydolly1986.

@CoalCraft I haven’t gone that far yet I’ve been rushing about all over so no time to wait this cycle but it’s our first go x

How are we all doing today?

Been feeling really under the weather today - hence such a late reply.

How are you doing @Beck3115? Any more spotting or pain? x

@Beth262 bless you, what’s been the matter?

No more bleeding it was just that one little bit and only twinges down low which is probably still to do with ovulation and I’m probably thinking too much about it! X

Just exhausted so think I've picked up DS sniffles a bit too easily. The joys of creche! And we're currently staying with in-laws as we've sold our house and the one we're buying is in a different stage in the chain. We're living out of one room so sleep for me, DP or DS isn't the best at the moment, we're all like zombies a bit! Plus my in-laws have a 3yo in a different creche so multiple sets of creche germs flying around the house! 😭

Glad to hear the spotting and pain seems to have been a one off. I think we're all guilty of overthinking things when TTC! The worry and symptom spotting is enough to drive any of us mad!! 🤪 x

God love you do you have any timescale for completing? That sounds tiring at best.

I know I promised I wouldn’t start watching for any little sign, but here we are.

Do any of your family or friends know you’re trying? X

It certainly won't be before Christmas unfortunately. We're hopeful for the beginning or middle of January 🤞 It's definitely a challenge. Let's just say we have different levels of cleanliness and different views on how to parent!

My best friend knows we're trying. And that's only cause I had a teary moment last week and the recent CP came out. I'm quite a closed book. How about with you? Do any of your family or friends know you're trying too? x

That sounds less than ideal. 🤞🤞 for escaping there in January then!

A couple of work friends because I need allies to give me a cover story at work - if I get pregnant I have to stop normal duties straight away. None of my family know though x

Gosh that sounds intriguing! x

Hope everyone is having a good weekend 😊 my healthy eating has gone off track this weekend so trying to not to beat myself up too much about it! Have had a few wines tonight too watching Adele (how amazing is she btw?!) Going to try and pick it up again tomorrow and go for another run.

I’ve started taking my folic acid now too. I’ve told a few friends that we are going to ttc in January as figure I will need the emotional support. We haven’t told family about it as that feels like an extra level of pressure so won’t tell them until something actually happens!

Bleurgh, was randomly sick in the night which is very unlike me. If there was any chance of being pregnant I might be excited but it would be literally impossible to be far enough along for symptoms yet. Think I've just picked up DD's tummy bug I just want to curl up in a corner!

We won't be telling a soul about ttc /pregnant until after a 12 week scan. I don't like the idea of people wondering if anything's happened yet and if I were to sadly miscarry I would hate having to tell people. There were a few bad signs in my first pregnancy and the thought that I might have to give bad news would have added to my distress. Thankfully things turned out okay!

That's just how we are though, we're quite private people, at least irl. Completely understand why others might want people to know for the support.

@Beck3115 I'm a bit similar in that I can't do some duties at work while pregnant. Last time I managed to engineer it such that I had only safe tasks to do before I told my manager at 12 weeks, but if I can't do that myself next time I might have to tell her and she may have to tell a few others. I'm not thrilled about that but it wouldn't be the end of the world.